Usher? Selfish? Noooo...

Dec 28 | by Natasha

Usher spoke with the AJC about his newfound self: What he's learning as a new father:

"I think I'm learning how selfish I really can be as an individual. Man, before you just get up and go everyday and you work people to oblivion — and I do. But when you have a child it's like, 'Wow!' All of this time now goes toward making sure that one, he has the milk that he needs. He's being burped properly. Diapers are being changed — and Lord knows he has let me have it! I am changing diapers!"

What he's learning as a new husband:

"Just to be a little more patient. Marriage is not a sprint, it's a marathon. You have to take your time and be very patient. Sometimes you've got to breathe. Step away. Walk away from each other. You'll drive each other crazy if you're not considerate of that."

And Ursh and Tameka are still waiting for the highest bidder I see:

While the Raymonds are figuring out how they will release the first baby photos, Usher pulls a few from his wallet. One is a black and white he took when his first child was born. "I've become an instant photographer," he offers. "Developing them and everything." Another shot is of Usher V — who may have more hair than daddy — during his first bath in the sink. "It looks like he's posing doesn't it?" the admiring father says. "I wonder where he gets that from? He's going to be a lady-killer!"

Oh the price of Daddydom. The Randomness:

Diddy

Queen Latifah, Alicia Keys

Jennifer Hudson

all may be starring in a new Hollywood movie

The Secret Life of Bees

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The Secret Life of Bees is

The Secret Life of Bees is such a great novel. Can't wait to see it on the big screen!

by sg
11:30 pm - Dec 28, '07

What's with the sarcasm and negativity? He's not saying anything a newly married man or new father wouldn't say. Both getting married and having a baby are huge life changing events, and it's nice to see that he is taking it seriously. There too many men out there who are proud to say that they have a multitude of kids out there that they don't support. There are too many women out there are okay with the fact that a man sees you as good enough to be the mother of his child, but not good enough to be his wife. Whether you are a fan of Tameka Foster or Usher, you have to commend Usher for being there for his wife through all the ups and downs, and being a hands-on father. It doesn't make him "whipped" or a pussy, it makes him a committed husband and loving dad. When did that become a bad thing? Women have pretty low standards nowadays don't they? SMH.

by Honeycall
11:36 pm - Dec 28, '07

Fablife2008, Great job

Fablife2008, Great job stereotyping...brilliant assessment. I don't blame you though, I blame the brother(s) who've betrayed you, hurt you, and/or done you wrong. Glad that I could incite that rage in you. But I wouldn't dare categorize all black women as being "angry". I adore you. Tasha I'm glad to be apart of the Fab Fam. No Hate In '08. Barack Da Vote!!! Peace.

by Marcus X
3:13 am - Dec 30, '07

Fablife2008, I'm

Fablife2008, I'm speechless...but deep down I know that you have been scarred by a man. Let's not blame hip hop either...every brother is not a fan of hip hop or a misogynist...stop with the feminist retorts...the fact of the matter is that most of us (blacks---men/women) are fighting one another...and fail to realize that white, asian, hispanic, others are going through the same issues, but in their own way. Why are sisters (like) giving up so fast? I love black women, don't get it twisted, and I'll give my life for you. Most of us have...but the ignorance of a few have manipulated you into thinking that excluding from all black men will solve your issues. Everybody got they own shyt with them, be it black, white, gay, bi, whatever...Can I have a Hug!!!

by Marcus X
3:39 am - Dec 30, '07

Usher please put out new

Usher please put out new music next year. I know his baby is a cutie if he looks like his daddy!!! Diddy's ego will noe inflate even MORE!!!! If all those ladies (Queen, Alicia, and Jen) are all in one movie I know I wanna see it!!

by Chelly's Two Cents
4:35 am - Dec 29, '07

[quote comment="22249"]@

[quote comment="22249"]@ allnatural, et al I'm kinda surprised at some of the sistahs that respond on here. Black marriages just get butchered, regardless of who the person(s) is/are, we just can't seem to make peace within ourselves and recognize a union. And wonder why no one has yet to propose to them. Lighten up, give a brother a chance before you take him down for child support...the souls of black folk. Peace.[/quote] Yeah, I'm sure Juanita Bynum gave her husband a chance. Oh wait, did Lauryn give Ziggy a chance?! I'm sure Jada probably thought monogamy was a realistic expectation at one point, until Will got on Oprah jocking that Hispanic girl from Hitched like a salivating retard. I'm sure Reggie Bush used to think black coochie was the ssshhhhyyyyyttt until he started taking up with that skank. I'm sure we all said give hip hop a chance surely they would stop callig us bytches and hoes one day..... Kim Porter surely thought P Diddy would marry her after the 3RD child. These are the brothas that were given chances. Point is get YO respect from DAY ONE - don't try to convice a man to respect, love, and cherish you- that's not OUR job. If he can't honor you from jump, what would make him do so in YEAR FIVE. Don't wonder why someone is NOT proposing get with someone who is ready to. Black women keep runnin' up after men who do NOT want them fine, expand your horizons. It is nothing revolutionary about being beat, disrepected, and cheated on. I know there are plenty of stand up brothas out there....I just wanted to make my point

by Fablife2008
5:11 am - Dec 29, '07

[quote comment="22247"]Ya

[quote comment="22247"]Ya Know What... As Tlented As Usher Is He Really Knows How To URK The Hell Out Of Me.. I'm Sure Somewhere Out There There Is Someone To Whom This Story APPEALS.. But I Honestly Am Growing More & More TIRED Of Mr. Raymond.. And When Tamika Was Added To The EQUATION I DIVIDED Both Of Them OUT Of My LIFE... Good Day Sir.. I Do However Wonder What That Baby Looks Like.. I'm Sure Between Both Of His Parents Noses.. A RINOPLASTY Surgery Is Probably WARRANTED... LMAO.. Now Playing Beyonce-Get Me Bodied ((STOP.. Cool Off, Cool Off!!))[/quote] Yeah, I gots to agree w/ you, not about the noses though, we need to liberate ourselves from a eurocentric standard of beauty. Anyway, he just does not seem mature or genuine. Look at him on that picture, looking at that azz like he never seen as azz befo-sheesh

by Fablife2008
5:16 am - Dec 29, '07

[quote comment="22318"][quote

[quote comment="22318"][quote comment="22249"]@ allnatural, et al I'm kinda surprised at some of the sistahs that respond on here. Black marriages just get butchered, regardless of who the person(s) is/are, we just can't seem to make peace within ourselves and recognize a union. And wonder why no one has yet to propose to them. Lighten up, give a brother a chance before you take him down for child support...the souls of black folk. Peace.[/quote] Yeah, I'm sure Juanita Bynum gave her husband a chance. Oh wait, did Lauryn give Ziggy a chance?! I'm sure Jada probably thought monogamy was a realistic expectation at one point, until Will got on Oprah jocking that Hispanic girl from Hitched like a salivating retard. I'm sure Reggie Bush used to think black coochie was the ssshhhhyyyyyttt until he started taking up with that skank. I'm sure we all said give hip hop a chance surely they would stop callig us bytches and hoes one day..... Kim Porter surely thought P Diddy would marry her after the 3RD child. These are the brothas that were given chances. Point is get YO respect from DAY ONE - don't try to convice a man to respect, love, and cherish you- that's not OUR job. If he can't honor you from jump, what would make him do so in YEAR FIVE. Don't wonder why someone is NOT proposing get with someone who is ready to. Black women keep runnin' up after men who do NOT want them fine, expand your horizons. It is nothing revolutionary about being beat, disrepected, and cheated on. I know there are plenty of stand up brothas out there....I just wanted to make my point[/quote] PREACH FABLIFE!! Damn I know that's right! Preach on sistah! But on the real, that's a good word. You made a fantastic point and I agree.

by StarBaby
5:23 am - Dec 29, '07

hmm....what's unfortunate is

hmm....what's unfortunate is i have to agree a bit. most women have been hurt by a man....i think the race is really irrelevant. i think what is overlooked is how many of us women hurt men as well.....

by JP
7:10 am - Dec 30, '07

Is that crazy ass Naomi

Is that crazy ass Naomi Campbell strutting her stuff on the walkway?

by Funkytown
7:31 am - Dec 30, '07

acj??? yeah its ajc. .

acj??? yeah its ajc. . .atlanta journal constitution. please correct that, its slightly disrespecting the A. thanks:-)

by jt
6:15 am - Dec 29, '07

oh and i can really

oh and i can really appreciate Usher marrying an obvious woman of color-complete with dark brown skin and all. and its so funny how many people, especially people of color, are hating on her calling her ugly etc etc. but she's beautiful. but i promise you if she looked the same way, but was mixed or very fair skin everyone would be talking about how fine she is. . . why must we hate on ourselves. c'mon people of color we gotta do better. im sooo happy for tameka and usher. and im especially happy about the positive example usher is displaying- he's indirectly letting men of color know that it is okay to love woman of color and to marry them- you dont have to get rich then marry a white, hispanic, or mixed chick. you can marry a woman of color- a true beauty and show the love and respect for the women in your past and present (your grandma, mother, sister, etc) i just love it! a-town forever!

by jt
6:23 am - Dec 29, '07

why must you hate. tameka is

why must you hate. tameka is beautiful and usher is very attractive. are you mad at usher for standing up and being a man. would you have been happier if she would have gotten an abortion? would you have been happier is tameka was white, hispanic, or mixed? why must we hate on ourselves people. im sooooo glad he married an obvious woman of color- complete with dark brown skin and all a-town all day!

by jt
6:27 am - Dec 29, '07

Fablyfe, why is it wrong to

Fablyfe, why is it wrong to call women bytches and hoes, but allright for you to dogg all black men like you did in your post? You say you know there are plenty of stand up brothas, but you just wanted to make your point. Well I guess then you don't mind hip-hop artists making their point too, right? I mean I'm sure they will tell you that there are plenty of stand-up sistahs, they only refer to most of them as bytches and hoes to make their point, right? Why is it we can only make our "points" by expressing hatred, contempt, stereotypes, and negative generalizations about each other?

by Deri
7:36 am - Dec 29, '07

Y them 2 Asian hoes in the

Y them 2 Asian hoes in the background look mad? LOL! Don't hate on it b****es!

by Stay Black
7:37 am - Dec 29, '07

@Honeycall, LaLa and Marcus

@Honeycall, LaLa and Marcus X..I agree with yall 100%. It's good to see a black man be positive and staying true to his wife. People are already putting down Usher and Tameka's marriage without seeing where the marriage goes. Such a shame. Anyway, if the "Secret Life of Bees" info is true, can't wait to see to it it! I love the book, and I think the cast would be just wonderful. Such a good look!

by Cin City
12:17 am - Dec 29, '07

[quote

[quote comment="22339"]Fablyfe, why is it wrong to call women bytches and hoes, but allright for you to dogg all black men like you did in your post? You say you know there are plenty of stand up brothas, but you just wanted to make your point. Well I guess then you don't mind hip-hop artists making their point too, right? I mean I'm sure they will tell you that there are plenty of stand-up sistahs, they only refer to most of them as bytches and hoes to make their point, right? Why is it we can only make our "points" by expressing hatred, contempt, stereotypes, and negative generalizations about each other?[/quote] I did not dogg ALL black men, I was responding to a specific comment that Marcus X made. He said give brothas a chance - I think collectively speaking most black women have even when it is to our detriment mentally, physically. What amazingly hypocritical is that you are quick to jump on my comment as if you're offended but you seem less offended by the misgynostic lyrics of contemporary hip hop? When black women say we're fed up, like in TLC's No Scrubbs and Destiny's Child Bills, Bills, Bills, it's a problem - but Nappy Dug Out, and Bytch Better have my money is cool? In the end artists can express their point, and I express mine by not buying that ignorant BS.

by Fablife2008
9:11 am - Dec 29, '07

Secret life of bees is an

Secret life of bees is an awesome book. Not sure what characters each will play but I cant wait to see it on the big screen.

by ebony
1:24 am - Dec 29, '07

@MarcusX, I'm all for black

@MarcusX, I'm all for black love, and respect marriage and applaud them for having children WITHIN the marriage (although they were a few months off), but sorry, THEY ARE JUST BORING!

by allnatural
1:27 am - Dec 29, '07

No, it's not that I'm less

No, it's not that I'm less offended by hip-hop lyrics, rather I was pointing out to you that it was hypocritical of you to object to lyrics downing women, when you just wrote an essay downing black men. And I asked you why one is wrong, but not the other. Your answer is that you did not down ALL black men. Pardon me but when you give examples of black males and 100% of them are negative, I interpret that as downing black men, just as when rappers portray only negative mentions of black females, that is interpreted as downing black females. Now you add that giving brothers a chance has been to the detriment of most black women, physically and mentally. So you believe that "most black women" have been abused physically and mentally by black men? I don't know how else to interpret that. You are sayingthat to be in a relationship with a black man is to suffer physically and mentally? If you are in fact not downing 'ALL' black men then why is it that 'ALL' of your references to black men are negative? Again, why is it wrong for rappers to make negative references to black women but not equally wrong to make negative references to black men?

by Deri
10:09 am - Dec 29, '07

When I first heard Usher and

When I first heard Usher and Tameka was getting married and having a child I was like damn Usher should've stayed with Chili yano but know now I'm happy for him And Tameka..I'm glad he married a sista(yes I said it) I wish them the best

by Sexi Lady
1:31 am - Dec 29, '07

I've got to say that I too

I've got to say that I too was hating on Tameka...then I thought of the prospect of him having married a white girl and that made me rethink things a little. We should all honor and show love to black marriage...it's a beautiful thing and this comes from a dark chocolate sista married to a Samoan. LOL

by Ms.Willis
1:36 am - Dec 29, '07

[quote comment="22358"]No,

[quote comment="22358"]No, it's not that I'm less offended by hip-hop lyrics, rather I was pointing out to you that it was hypocritical of you to object to lyrics downing women, when you just wrote an essay downing black men. And I asked you why one is wrong, but not the other. Your answer is that you did not down ALL black men. Pardon me but when you give examples of black males and 100% of them are negative, I interpret that as downing black men, just as when rappers portray only negative mentions of black females, that is interpreted as downing black females. Now you add that giving brothers a chance has been to the detriment of most black women, physically and mentally. So you believe that "most black women" have been abused physically and mentally by black men? I don't know how else to interpret that. You are sayingthat to be in a relationship with a black man is to suffer physically and mentally? If you are in fact not downing 'ALL' black men then why is it that 'ALL' of your references to black men are negative? Again, why is it wrong for rappers to make negative references to black women but not equally wrong to make negative references to black men?[/quote] Again, my comment was not isolated but in response to Marcus X who said that sistahs need to give brothas a chance!? - do not make him give child support right off the bat. Here, I enumerated upon examples, 'famous' ones since this is a celeb gossip blog where brothas were given chances and it is fairly apparent that these women are being taken advatage of. Why is it wrong to get child support right of the bat for a child you helped bring on this earth ? If you do not want to be in that position-use condoms. Also, Marcus X said 'NO WONDER' no one has proposed - my response is we do not have to wonder, nor coach anyone to love us. I did not say MOST sistahs in a relationships w/ black men are being abused, I do not have any empirical data to know that. I do think most sistah's can relate to giving a brotha a chance who was not deserving of it. Trust and chances should be earned - no one is entitled to a 'free card'. You think that my comments are comparable to the negative images portrayed and perpetuated in Hip Hop- I think your view is misguided and without merit. What's cool, is that this is a HUGE world w/ lots of people with a lot of different opinions. STAYFAB - ONE

by Fablife2008
3:46 pm - Dec 29, '07

Ok, Ush..whatever....I'm glad

Ok, Ush..whatever....I'm glad he knows something now...

by Chica
5:17 pm - Dec 29, '07

You 'aint never lied. Some

You 'aint never lied. Some of the ladies are straight bitter.

by tia
8:50 pm - Dec 30, '07

I have repeatedly asked you a

I have repeatedly asked you a very simple question: why is it wrong for rappers to make negative generalizations about all/most black women, but perfectly acceptable for you to make the same about all/most black men? Your response is to deny that you are doing that yet you keeping doing it again in each additional post. Your latest is this: "I do think most sistahs can relate to giving a brotha a chance who was not deserving of it." Again your references to black men are exclusively negative. What I keep asking you is why it is not equally acceptable for rappers to make equally negative references to black women? Oh, and note that in your first post you referred to Reggie Bush's girlfriend as a "skank." Is that as objectional as "bytch" or "hoe", or once again do you believe it is acceptable for you to engage in the same practices you object to when others do it?

by Deri
10:12 pm - Dec 29, '07

I thought I'd point out the

I thought I'd point out the GRIN on Usher's (and the dude sitting next to him) face as that model chick walked down the runway... I'm not putting my two cents in here about the whole Usher/Tameka thing, but I've heard women say that any woman that turns a man away from his own mother is not good in their book.

by Brooklyn
5:04 am - Dec 31, '07

@TMI4ME Thank you people are

@TMI4ME Thank you people are just getting out of hand here with this color issue regarding Tameka......Black love is beautiful and nobody is saying that it isnt but at what cost.....Usher has made family memebers mad, friends, media outlets(some of whom were his biggest supporters) and has lost alot of his fans. It trips me out that as a black community we support such ignorance.....Ever since Tameka as walked onto the scene there has been nothing but negativity and drama. As a Black woman, I'm offended that people (especially certain black people) continue to perpetuate the streotype that all of us are jealous and petty. Please, people dislike her because, she's a walking example of everything black women don't want to be associated with. Bastard children, welfare, and being manipulative!On top of all that they had a affair. What kind of relationship is that this women got divorced, pregnant, remarried, and had the baby all in one year..... but you some of you guys continue to support her ignorance, lack of respect for her self and others, her terrible attitude, and she brought a rift between Usher and his Mother.

by Narcissa
4:05 am - Jan 15, '08

First... I love this site!

by MsABanks
10:41 pm - Dec 28, '07

first!

by c
10:42 pm - Dec 28, '07

Breathers already? They just

Breathers already? They just got married and already taking breathers? Good luck with that!

by Candace
10:44 pm - Dec 28, '07

The new movie, Secret Life of

The new movie, Secret Life of Bees, starring The Queen, Ms. Keys, Ms. Hudson and Sophie O. (Hotel Rwanda) is going to be great. This is one of the best books I've read. Check it out YBF. It's a great story.

by JRenee
10:50 pm - Dec 28, '07

He's just trying to stay

He's just trying to stay relevant. No one really gives a rat's ass about him or his wife. Yawn...Boooooring!

by allnatural
10:50 pm - Dec 28, '07

Ya Know What... As Tlented As

Ya Know What... As Tlented As Usher Is He Really Knows How To URK The Hell Out Of Me.. I'm Sure Somewhere Out There There Is Someone To Whom This Story APPEALS.. But I Honestly Am Growing More & More TIRED Of Mr. Raymond.. And When Tamika Was Added To The EQUATION I DIVIDED Both Of Them OUT Of My LIFE... Good Day Sir.. I Do However Wonder What That Baby Looks Like.. I'm Sure Between Both Of His Parents Noses.. A RINOPLASTY Surgery Is Probably WARRANTED... LMAO.. Now Playing Beyonce-Get Me Bodied ((STOP.. Cool Off, Cool Off!!))

by BRANtheSOCIALITE
10:58 pm - Dec 28, '07

Good Advice Bro! I needed

Good Advice Bro! I needed that. It's inspirational nowadays to hear brothers speak on fatherhood...Black men in general. We have to earn own stake in the household. By any means necessary...take care of home. Peace.

by Marcus X
11:01 pm - Dec 28, '07

@ allnatural, et al I'm

@ allnatural, et al I'm kinda surprised at some of the sistahs that respond on here. Black marriages just get butchered, regardless of who the person(s) is/are, we just can't seem to make peace within ourselves and recognize a union. And wonder why no one has yet to propose to them. Lighten up, give a brother a chance before you take him down for child support...the souls of black folk. Peace.

by Marcus X
11:10 pm - Dec 28, '07

Wow...seems like Usher is

Wow...seems like Usher is growing up! But I still have a weird feeling about Tameka…not because of all the things said about her on the internet or anything else. It’s just that “feeling” you get about certain people. Anyway, good luck to the both of them. They may make it. Who knows?

by StarBaby
11:11 pm - Dec 28, '07

um... exactly how many kids

um... exactly how many kids does Usher have? i thought this was his first one, but apparently not

by wistopherchris
11:20 pm - Dec 28, '07

WELL IM HAPPY FOR USHER AND

WELL IM HAPPY FOR USHER AND TAMEKA!!!! I NEVER KNEW WHY SO MANY WOMEN HAVE SO MUCH HATE TOWARD HER!!! I MEAN YOU DONT EVEN KNOW HER AND GOING BY WHAT U READ IN MAGAZINES!!!MAYBE UPSET THAT SHE TOOK YOUR CRUSH MAYBE? AND TO THE WOMEN U SHOULD JUS BE HAPPY THAT A SUCCESSFUL BLACK MAN MARRIED A BLACK WOMAN!!!ITS FUNNY HOW BLACK WOMAN TALK SH*T WHEN A BLACK MAN MARRY SOMEONE OUTSIDE OF THEIR RACE BUT WHEN HE MARRY IN HIS RACE THEY CANT WIN EITHER WAY!!!!

by LALA
11:25 pm - Dec 28, '07

Please guys stop with the

Please guys stop with the black/white issue. I don't care who Ush had married, it's the whole drama that came with Ms. Tameka at the time oh I'm sorry Mrs. she came off ugly and with a bad attitude to begin with and that rub ppl the wrong way about her. She may be a nice person, but her vibe just don't sit well with some of us I don't know. Marriage and having a baby is a beautiful thing, but it's how the situation got started, and a lot of ppl think his mama is not important here please that's who helped Usher get where he is HELLO, I'm sorry she's just not right for some reason and if they last great for them just don't force me or anyone else to care....