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So This Is The Secret To A Long Hollywood Marriage?

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I was waiting for a valid source to confirm this here before I posted it and that it has.  Will Smith has confirmed what damn near everybody has suspected for several years now about he and Jada's "open marriage".  In an interview with UK magazine Reveal, Willy himself has confirmed that he and Jada ask for each other's approval before they have sex with other people.  And I quote: "Our perspective is, you don't avoid what's natural and you're going to be attracted to people." he says. "And if it came down to it, then one would say to the other: 'Look, I need to have sex with somebody. Now, I'm not going to if you don't approve of it'." The 39-year-old star explains that the couple's open policy has been in place from day one of their 10-year marriage. "In our marriage vows, we didn't say 'forsaking all others'. We said 'you will never hear I did something afterwards'. Because if that happens the relationship is destroyed." Other things that Will says are important in his relationship are keeping in shape for his "little firecracker" Jada, the "look in her eyes", and communication. "And lots of sex makes for a good marriage too!"
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Very interesting.  I put 5 on it Will tapped Charlize Theron.  He doesn't go into detail whether this also applies to same sex relations as well...but from what I hear this marriage is as open as open can get.  And it definitely aint for everybody.  Speak on it...

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um. lil nepatizz. who cares

um. lil nepatizz. who cares if the kkk used the Bible to oppress people. does that still erase the fact that they misinterpreted the bible and used it for evil? NO. so this oppressive crap that "holier than thou, smarter than thou" enlightened black folk need to stop spreading that nonsense. if i believe in God or the Bible that is none of your business and it is NOT oppressing me. a lot of people have said they lost respect for their marriage. i don't see anything wrong with that. i definitely don't pattern my actual life after celebrities. they are a disappointment but at least they are honest and not liars.
noname's picture

Isn't it strange that people

Isn't it strange that people respect the tainted knowledge of their oppressors, yet shun HONESTY? Whew. And as a sidenote, some of y'all need to find some role models. So this is my advice: go into your bathroom and look in the mirror. Stop looking at other folks who probably have WAAAAAY different morality than you for your role models. Good grief. Be your own damn role model. Judge YOURSELF. Some of y'all are a trip. Talking bout kissing passing diseases and HIV and AIDS - good lord. Stop gossiping and hit the local library for some READING. Some KNOWLEDGE. I don't understand how some people equate having sex with being married. Those can be viewed as two entirely independent ideas. I cannot and would not question Will's love for Jada. He chose her to be the woman to have children and build a legacy with. So did Jada. If they've decided that sexual desires fall outside of that realm then SO BE IT. For me, myself PERSONALLY, I'd rather have an honest, OPEN 'marriage' with love and respect for me as a woman, a person and a partner than a cheating ass, lying ass, open without my consent facade of a 'marriage'. But you know... to each their own. White people should have never gave you kneegrows the Bible. You do know this is the same Bible the KKK uses to justify their hatred? The same Bible the slave masters used to keep you under the task master's whip? Right? Don't go thinking that everyone is still under that patriarchal regime, cause guess what? Everyone IS not.
Lil Nepatizz's picture

Most people would rather

Most people would rather except a man that lies and cheats on his wife and raises a family with her, than a man and woman that are open about their affairs, love/respect each other and raise a family together... People are strange. And most of the people quoting the bible forget about all of the stories and people with multiple wives. I guess its okay in some chapters...lol
jeezlouis's picture

[quote comment="140978"]The

[quote comment="140978"]The fact that most of you who posted these "holy-than-thou" responses about their union is BS...Just accept the fact that human beings are complicated and may seem a bit out of your ideological preference. Who cares if they have an open relationship. It's their life! They are married and most of you probably are struggling to stay afloat in your unions or relationships because some needs (emotional, sexual, etc.) aren't being met. Stop judging them. If Will Smith asked you to sleep with him, how many of you would accept or even play with the thought. Stop fronting like this is something new to civilization. Men and women (in other world regions) live open lifestyles within their union...if it is agreed between the parties involved...let them be. It's not your life. I didn't see these type comments with Eryka Badu...most you applauded her for having kids without being married. She picks and chooses her mates as she desires and have kids...where's the stones? Americans are twisted all the way around...especially the negroe...just slave master confused. We suffer from whippism...the mentally still exist. When you leave this life, who's going with you? You ride and die alone. Point blank. Get a life of your own and live it how you desire and within the confines of your moral, spiritual, and organic threshold. This too shall past. Peace.[/quote] agreed, not everybody believes in a God. Shoot I have Christian friends who have done far worse things than this. I think religion is a personal thing, it is how you make it. If it's between two consenting adults, and they are not threatening the lives of anybody than it should be alright. People are so quick to push the word of the bible on to them, beliefs which were inherited from slave masters, American forefathers, and colonial imperialists (all who were the epitome of bible contradiction). Beliefs by no means that everybody follows, or have to.
stellawascool's picture

ita nuttin wrong wit how they

ita nuttin wrong wit how they get down thats why they gonna b togther for a long time....
rated "THiCK"'s picture

I just lost respect for both

I just lost respect for both of them.
Redchk's picture

Im not the one to judge!!

Im not the one to judge!!
Sujaglady's picture

I am open to it. It takes

I am open to it. It takes too very strong, honest and real individuals to trust one another and what they have to admit and then experience sex with someone else. It keeps things challenging.
imoonah's picture

Let me just say this people:

Let me just say this people: Before you pass judgement realize that everything you read is not true. No one knows what goes on in somebody's bedroom.
Maris_Ma's picture

I suspect that he tapped Eva

I suspect that he tapped Eva Mendes also. That's a shame...if you want to fuck around then stay single. Don't have children, drag them into a highly dysfunctional environment...Damn.
Petunia's picture

Erykah Badu: "Most intellects

Erykah Badu: "Most intellects do not believe in God but they fear Him just the same." Oh on and on....and on
r's picture

LOL I can't even read all

LOL I can't even read all these posts. Marriage is great! However, married people cheat all the time. So spare me! This is there life...if they love it....I like it. Who am I to judge.
Black-Therapist's picture

That's that BULLSHIT! I can't

That's that BULLSHIT! I can't believe this is what it takes to make a marriage work. Damn.
MISSY's picture

[quote

[quote comment="140318"][quote comment="140302"]Uh. Someone of yall need some open minds. And some of you are plain stupid. Black love is possible. For you. Just because this is what Will and Jada do doesn't mean its a representation of what you will have. Are you scared? They should have never said anything. This was their business. And every marriage isnt about God. Im sick of that excuse. What about married atheists? Marriage is a committment. Let people define their committments with THEIR loved ones. And just because someone has an open marriage doesnt mean they are "freaks" Let go of the stereotypes and the religious judgmental bullshit and let people live their lives. Black people are so okay with putting their judgments on others that they forgot that thier truth isnt the only truth. By God, let people live. Let them love each other how they do. How it works for them. And marriage is an institution that fails on many accounts for many reasons. What works for you, works for you. 10 years and they still love and respect each other. And have a wonderful lil bunch of children![/quote] Thank you for writing this! To the rest of you passing judgment, pray that you will enter a union as passionate and loving as theirs--most of you will NEVER obtain it. Just a fact.[/quote] If that's true,so why do they need to sleep with other people??? Your statement is full of contradiction! LOL!!!
kimpavita4's picture

Well that just makes me lose

Well that just makes me lose interest in them completely. They are supposed to be a good representative for black couples who are doing well. Now they just seem nasty and having an open marriage is just dishonoring.
Brittany's picture

Hate to break it to all you

Hate to break it to all you God-fearing Bible thumpers, but the institution if secular marriage (lifelong commitment and support from another) existed before Christianity was even a WORD! Before Jesus was even born, before written history was common. Your God did not create marriage. Everyone in this world is not a Christian. They do not have to live by your morals and values, only you do. You can quote your God's laws all day, but you will change no one's decisions or lifestyles. 98% you don't even know the history of Christianity or Judaism in the first place. Religious dummies make my head hurt. THANK YOU! Lawd, these Christian negroes whose spirituality comes from their European oppressors are far more disturbing than what one man and woman chose to do in their own relationship.
my people's picture

When evander holyfiled ex

When evander holyfiled ex wife told me they both had an open marriage five years ago, i did not believe it. She even said that they both were bisexual as well. I quess she was right. That is disgusting. There are so many diseases that you can catch just from kissing someone let alone having sex. Hope they use protection. No wonder he seems happy all the time. And no wonder he declares divorce is not an option for them. I quess an open marriage would prevent divorce?????
staci's picture

I FUCKING KNEW IT!!!!!!!

I FUCKING KNEW IT!!!!!!!
NOBITCHASSNESS's picture

[quote

[quote comment="140323"][quote comment="140315"]Uuhhmmm...on the other post everyone was going hard on ERYKAH BADU and her and other free thinkers being the reason black women don't get respect from men nowadays..... But this here lifestyle is alright and gets "not my thing but they can do what they wanna" comments ....... People are funny....[/quote] I totally agree with you.[/quote] My thoughts exactly.
Nessi's picture

He said "If it came down to

He said "If it came down to it." He didn't say that they actually do it or have done it. Stop the bad journalism.
Lee's picture

He never said they do it,

He never said they do it, just that it's been left open for possibility. That doesn't mean it's an everyday practice with everyone they meet. Really, the rest of us don't have to understand their "open marriage" because it's not our business. Whatever works!
Jami's picture

[quote

[quote comment="140221"][quote comment="140212"]i do not believe a word...where are all those women that he has sex with... no one spoke about it in an attempt to destroy teir marriage.[/quote] I agree..Will said "IF it came down to it"..he didn't say they actually do cheat..and the implication is that just knowing the mechanism is there for either one of them to go outside the marriage if need be, and not having to lie about it helps them to actually NOT cheat[/quote] question. are YOU married to will OR jada?! *waiting*...didn't think so. therefore...doesn't really matter what you think. i think its fab. WHY? b/c its THEIR life, their money, THEIR business. Your views on them changed? is that going to matter to anybody else but you at the end of the day? Doubt it. Read this, digest it then keep it moving..ppl on this site kill me acting like they know these celebs, or LIVE their types of lives. PLEASE!
*AND?'s picture

The fact that most of you who

The fact that most of you who posted these "holy-than-thou" responses about their union is BS...Just accept the fact that human beings are complicated and may seem a bit out of your ideological preference. Who cares if they have an open relationship. It's their life! They are married and most of you probably are struggling to stay afloat in your unions or relationships because some needs (emotional, sexual, etc.) aren't being met. Stop judging them. If Will Smith asked you to sleep with him, how many of you would accept or even play with the thought. Stop fronting like this is something new to civilization. Men and women (in other world regions) live open lifestyles within their union...if it is agreed between the parties involved...let them be. It's not your life. I didn't see these type comments with Eryka Badu...most you applauded her for having kids without being married. She picks and chooses her mates as she desires and have kids...where's the stones? Americans are twisted all the way around...especially the negroe...just slave master confused. We suffer from whippism...the mentally still exist. When you leave this life, who's going with you? You ride and die alone. Point blank. Get a life of your own and live it how you desire and within the confines of your moral, spiritual, and organic threshold. This too shall past. Peace.
Marcus X's picture

I gotta say...I'm a little

I gotta say...I'm a little disappointed...How can one feel special if we are sharing our most intimate with others...No doubt there will be attraction to others but thats where it should end...To be open to something like this, makes ways for attractions to grow into something more and ending a marriage...I don't believe in this, but to each his own...
NiQue's picture

Society has changed so much

Society has changed so much from the beginning of the 20th century to now.. however there were open relationships back in the day, just not publicized due to fear of being socially outcast. I myself am Polyamorous ( you can google it baby) and have been in a very fulfilling OPEN relationship..it does not have anything to do with religion or disrespecting marriage..it's a state of mind.. a sense of your sexual being... and for those who are not like this.. it is hard for you to understand..I have many friends in open marriages who have been married for years.. but the key is HONESTY..if you can't be honest..it's not for you.. there are rules.. if you can't follow rules..it's not for you..KUDOS to Will and Jada.. it gives me hope that society will be more accepting of this lifestyle as more famous celebrities open up about their sexuality.. you are who you are..and if you can't embrace that..well then I feel sorry for those who can't b/c they are not living up to their full potential..I do meet men who have a hard accepting my open ways.. so .. keep it movin.. if you don't like it.. kick rocks..b/c i myself..will always be all right b/c I know who I am and not ashamed of it.. as is Will and jada
Kristin's picture

Wow............ So they are

Wow............ So they are "friends with benefits", why get married then?
JustMoi's picture

i say do what works for u and

i say do what works for u and ur husband to keep ur marriage together....at least will or jada didnt walk into a blind marriage they already knew what was up so many people get married and have all the secrets and hang ups,that come out later and ending up in divorce court they wasnt blind and i like that about them so i really dont know what the big deal is what they do works for them and evidently it's still working so what??? and the institution of marriage has changed so much from when some of our parents and grandparents got married it's just not the same anymore....but to each his/her own, they seem genuinely happy
altima2008's picture

No, it sure ain't for

No, it sure ain't for everybody...and, it's definitely not approved of in God's eyes. God allowed us to be on this earth and we have disobeyed all His laws. That's shows that we don't respect HIM.
staycool's picture

my question is, why get

my question is, why get married in the first place if you are going to have an open marriage. i mean to each his own. they are grown and they can do whatever they want to do. but, is anything sacred anymore???
OrangeSoul's picture

my question is, if you are

my question is, if you are going to have an open marriage, then why get married anyway? i mean, to each his own. they are grown and they can do whatever they want to do. but, is anything sacred anymore?
OrangeSoul's picture

They need some Jesus up in

They need some Jesus up in their lives. This is just nasty! Why bother getting married at all for this crazy type of behavior. They might as well had stayed single and then they could do what they want but,to take what God had intended for marriage as a joke, it disrespectful to God. I don't know what to say.
Sherie's picture

I am not one for an "open

I am not one for an "open relationship/marriage" . I would rather be single and do who/what ever I wanted... If Will and Jada (and many others) can handle it, then I say more power to 'em. keep it safe tho!!!
MsHoney's picture

this is so sad. i thought

this is so sad. i thought they had 2 kids. how can they make statement about this sh*t? after this news alot of playboys will send message to will like 'hey babe when do we sleep? ' and after the sex send a message to jada 'hey girl thank you to share you man with us' whoa
ilknur's picture

That's why marriage is

That's why marriage is whatever to alot of people. If that's what they want..it's been working so far. I can only speak for what works for me...single and happy that way!
Chica's picture

this is extra nasty, I cannot

this is extra nasty, I cannot believe Will and Jada would even think to do something like that. Hello what are they teaching their children. Oh well that hollywood for ya. The freaks come out at night. Ya'll already know who got themselves a home HIV kit.
jaz's picture

Well it's better than

Well it's better than sneaking around behind the other person's back to sleep with other people. Now if you think that the majority of married men and half of married women don't cheat, then you're really fooling yourself. Looking at the rate of divorce in Hollywood, I say whatever works for them ...
Martinique_fr's picture

1st Scientology... now this!

1st Scientology... now this! Oh Will and Jada, how you have disappointed me and I'm sure many other fans... But hey, we all know people in H'Wood are straight crazy! I don't care who you are or what you believe this aint right by no means... boo! hmmmmm..... it just goes to show you that people are still people no matter how talented or rich or beautiful!
iLAndMAmi808's picture

I'm sorry what??? Ah uh! I

I'm sorry what??? Ah uh! I used to love those two but thats gross. I'm sorry. Marriage is EXCLUSIVE!
ybf_oz's picture

it takes two very strong

it takes two very strong people who are confident in their abilities to endure this kind of marriage vow...it works for them. kinda weired but it works...
vlo's picture

AIDS...s'all i gotta say

AIDS...s'all i gotta say
Erica's picture

"It's not natural", "if it

"It's not natural", "if it feels good do it". All these justifications we have for doing what we KNOW ain't right. I've been married 11 years and while it's true that you find other people attractive (I used to find Will attractive), when you commit to marriage you have to learn to not act on that. Marriage takes work and not f#$%ing around is part of the job. Damn, Scientology, open marriage, this couple is too Hollyweird for me.
stillirise's picture

SO disappointing! Ah well!

SO disappointing! Ah well!
Yuds's picture

I don't see the purpose in

I don't see the purpose in getting married if you're still going to be fucking other people. But, hey, to each his own, I guess.
Queen Dee's picture

Will def tapped charlizes

Will def tapped charlizes ass, no damn doubt!
Thoxxic's picture

People so quick to say they

People so quick to say they won't do. I say U never know until u put in the position to have whatever happen. Whatever works. The ones saying they never will is the ones who getting cheated on behind their backs catching all types of diseases and drama. And guess what yall do.......? Stay ya dumb ass at home with the person in denial to friends and family saving face because u into what it looks like to be single and divorced. Well Will and Jada is blessed open and free.........and rich! Do what yall do! Its better than that foolywang Ms Badu!
jojochicago's picture

[quote comment="140449"]I

[quote comment="140449"]I vote God. His purpose for marriage is for TWO people, a MAN and WOMAN to chare life together exclusively. It may be hard at times but I know HE knows best so I'm sticking with Him.[/quote] I think it's gross to have an open marriage... If you're gonna be with other people u might as well not even get married. I 2ND THAT VOTE FOR GOD!!
LaLaLaLovely's picture

My only concern is what is

My only concern is what is happening in my home. What they do affect them not me. I just want celebrities to understand that I only want you to do your job, your life is your business. However, if you feel the need to talk about anything other than your job, don't get pissy if folks comment on it. Keep your business to yourself. Don't put out press releases or blogs responding to "haters." Live your life. I don't subscribe to their way of thinking (if that is their way of thinking). My problem with Will is that I personally hated "I Am Legend" and "Hancock." He needs to put out better films. His marriage and association to Scientology do not affect me at all.
Visitor's picture

If Will tapped Charlize he

If Will tapped Charlize he has every right to tap that fine piece of ass, she is a goddess amongst normal women.. I would tap Charlize raw then return home to my unsuspecting wife and demand head with my dirty dick.
MajorKnuckles's picture

I wonder if he has expressed

I wonder if he has expressed an interest in his ex wife.
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