Venus Williams & Brandy Out & About+The Kodjoes Discuss Sophie's Spina Bifida

Aug 21 | by Natasha

Tennis star Venus Williams is back in the US following her Olympic gold medal success with her sister Serena in Beijing:

She was spotted leaving a medical center in Beverly Hills yesterday. No makeup and extra laid back. Every gold medalist deserves one of those days.

And Brandy was spotted shopping for a doll yesterday at the American Girl Place in New York City. I'm sure it's a gift for her daughter Sy'rai.

Wenn

The Kodjoes discussing their daughter Sophie's Spina Bifida when you read the rest...

Boris and Nicole Kodjoe are starting to speak up about their daughter Sophie's Spina Bifida. They are trying to raise money for test treatments that couple possibly help several children diagnosed with this issue. Here's a snippet of their statement about Sophie: We are writing this letter to share with you a most personal issue and ask for your help. As some of you already heard, our little Sophie was diagnosed at birth with Spina Bifida, the most common birth defect in the US, affecting the brain and/or spine in an average of eight babies a day. Degrees of severity vary from quadriplegic children with major brain damage and spinal injuries to cases of neurogenic bladders or even lesser issues. We were blessed with a miracle child and spared of the more severe symptoms, but Sophie’s spastic bladder still forces us to catheterize her every three hours, day and night, to avoid pressure build up in her bladder and urine backflow into her kidneys. But frequent catheterization causes urinary tract infections, which are then battled with strong antibiotics, which in turn attack stomach flora and cellular balance, cause bowel issues, and that leads to more infections. The couple goes on to speak about possible treatments that will need funding, and they are trying to raise almost 2 million to get test treatment for over 10 children with Spina Bifida. Check out the rest of their story here.

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[quote comment="180445"]so

[quote comment="180445"]so sorry for the kodjians. But i Saw a man that could be boris 's twin two days ago! He was a cop! I could not believe my eyes. he was so gorgeous! OMG![/quote] Boris does have a brother that in my opinion is finer than him. I don't know if he is a cop though... but he is FINE... sorry to hear about Boris's daughter. I was wondering why she looked so mad in the picture. Hope she gets better.... Boris and Nicole Kodjoe are a cute couple, I hope their marriage last. I like Venus's natural hair, she just needs to learn how to make it look smoother. It's too frizzy. I am not a fan of Brandi's look since she went vegetarian. Not a cute look on her

by ayomidejpw
1:42 am - Aug 22, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180478"][quote comment="180467"][quote comment="180450"]Anyone caught that volley ball game last night? ** I don't know....I just thought I'd throw in some random ish that had NOTHING to do w/the post! LOL ** Don't blame me....blame BROWNSUGAR BLOG!!!! LMAO![/quote] LOL!![/quote] LOLA! Where u been????[/quote] *whispers* working! Shhh! don't tell anybody!

by ♫ Lola AM ©
7:56 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180462"][quote comment="180448"]Congrats to Venus & Serena!!!! Brandy is looking alright. I hope her next CD is good. Never Say Never was the bomb and somebody got me for my original and my bootleg. I'm still mad!!! I hope the Kodjoes raise the money they need. Spina Bifida is a very serious condition. I hope little Sophie gets along OK. And to whoever, that was not me in the last post. I did post a comment but it was down near the bottom. Thanks Lola for havin my back! Ain't my baby too cute with his little puppy ears with his little mischevious self. LOL!!![/quote] My bad!! IT was me! Hell too many of yall heiffas got yalls kids up here. I get confrused![/quote] It's ok!!! LOL!!!!

by countrygyrl
8:05 pm - Aug 21, '08

Congrats Venus I hope Brandy

Congrats Venus I hope Brandy new album does well I feel for the Kodjoe family, hope the daughter continues to do well

by Tealeaf
8:09 pm - Aug 21, '08

Brandy looks very hot!!!

by DC_1
10:37 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote comment="180405"]To

[quote comment="180405"]To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You're making it hard for the rest of us. I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off. I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you. I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at my crib and what ever "chilling" they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10. Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right in life to have a "dime." And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can't possibly understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them. And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested , huh? The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that. I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever. If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do. I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes. To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.[/quote] Girl! I feel you because it seems that black men want you to grow a new spine and do some amazing things for them when half of the time they aint doing nothing in return.I had two no good boyfriends before I met my husband, and I went through almost everything you mentioned.The thing that gets to me is the ones that have a three darte ruke and want to go to bed with you. the feed hasn't even settled on your stomach! insane! Men get away with being extra lazy in relationships because the chicken heads allow them to. When I set up some rules I was able to weed out all of the wack playa's and find me a real man. I'm married now, and I found my 150% percent man! marriage aint easy, but I would say it is worth it!

by BMW
2:19 am - Aug 22, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180373"]*thanking jesus for answering my prayers* brandy looks decent...Venus....not so much. Boris and Nicole are a cute lil couple.[/quote] WTF?! How RIDICULOUSLY shallow is that! Their trying to raise money for their daughter and all you can say is that they "make a cute lil couple" come on! Ignorance knows no bounds. SMH

by Angelface
5:26 am - Aug 26, '08

Miz Pride & Joy On Aug 21,

Miz Pride & Joy On Aug 21, 2008 at 12:11 pm | Reply | Quote Anyone caught that volley ball game last night? ** I don’t know….I just thought I’d throw in some random ish that had NOTHING to do w/the post! LOL ** Don’t blame me….blame BROWNSUGAR BLOG!!!! LMAO! LMFAOOOOOO!!! I read that long ass essay and thought to myself..man she goin thrus some thangs..I mean I know I wrote an essay the other day..but DAMN at least it was on TOPIC!! sheesh...

by Foleybooboo
10:59 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180379"]Brandy looks weird - Wide Eyed in this pic[/quote] LOL!!!

by tru eyz
6:54 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote comment="180442"]and

[quote comment="180442"]and how the fukc are you gonna tell a whole blog full of people that they need to be "educated" and by your random black ass no less.[/quote] Thank You Kay Kay! I'm wondering how the hell a mofo who can't even stay on topic can offer to enlighten or "educate" anyone???

by Jordan'sMama
11:02 pm - Aug 21, '08

I hate to hear of babies

I hate to hear of babies being born into the world with diseases and other serious conditions. Its not right! I wish them the best on their awareness mission.

by T. Lynn
11:04 pm - Aug 21, '08

I actually this Venus looks

I actually this Venus looks cute laid back

by ♫ Lola AM ©
6:54 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote comment="180405"]To

[quote comment="180405"]To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You're making it hard for the rest of us. I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off. I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you. I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at my crib and what ever "chilling" they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10. Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right in life to have a "dime." And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can't possibly understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them. And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested , huh? The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that. I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever. If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do. I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes. To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.[/quote] I totally agree with what you are saying. I refuse to bend over backwards to get a man or to keep one, therefore if they cannot accept me for who I am, than I will have to be without. I was looking at a documentary where a black woman knew her husband was sleeping with men, but still continued to date him because she was desperate. I mean has it come to a point where we are willing to put our lives on the line for the sake of "having a man"?

by LAYLA
11:15 pm - Aug 21, '08

Why do females bitch and

Why do females bitch and complain about men-I dont get it. The minute you know something is not right LEAVE. Its that simple. Besides dont blame the man if he was able to play you blame yourself for being weak, or as some would say "but I love him!" dummy.

by Klover
3:32 am - Aug 22, '08

Yeah some do take healthy

Yeah some do take healthy children for granted by not taking care of them period. I feel the Kodjoe's pain. I now how it feels to have a child in need and it's not an easy job at all. That's why I blast the shit out of dead beat parents. Dead beat parents come in all shapes and sizes.

by Tabby
3:33 am - Aug 22, '08

sophie is boris and nicole's

sophie is boris and nicole's oldest child. And i am really sorry to hear about this. My prayers go out to their family.

by Mamazgurl
3:39 am - Aug 22, '08

Women do need to leave as

Women do need to leave as soon as a flag goes up. And stop hooking up with men that your not equally yoked with. Some know it's gonna turn into chicken, but they stay and play themselves. I wish society would stop making women out to be the victim. Men are out as soon as they feel uncomfortable. Well the majority of them do. Us women should learn to do the SAME thang! On the flip side, a lot of females refuse to do any soul searching, so they find themselves always in the same set up. And always crying bloody mary. If females searched within themselves, they would avoid alot of hurt. It's ok to go without a man until you find yourself. But some think the way to find themself is to go out and hook up with another "friend". With all that said, this type of behaviors will never stop. I'm glad I'm older and I know myself. There will always be issues, but some things are just uncalled for.

by Tabby
3:43 am - Aug 22, '08

Nothing is wrong with Venue's

Nothing is wrong with Venue's hair. Brandy has never look cute to me. I don't see it. Her eyes,nose and mouth are spread so wide across her face. She has a platterface.

by Tabby
3:47 am - Aug 22, '08

I saw Venus (and her afro

I saw Venus (and her afro puff) at the Dave Matthews Band concert at the Staples Center Tuesday night. I had a better seat than her... I'm just sayin... ha ha! Congrats to Venus & Serena! I ain't mad at them for getting those gold medals & catching the next thing smoking out of Beijing!

by d.
11:31 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote comment="180405"]To

[quote comment="180405"]To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You're making it hard for the rest of us. I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off. I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you. I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at my crib and what ever "chilling" they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10. Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right in life to have a "dime." And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can't possibly understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them. And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested , huh? The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that. I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever. If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do. I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes. To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.[/quote] ......Well I agree, but that guy who kept texting you technically WAS chasing you and you didn't choose him so maybe you should take that part out. ;)

by Jeannie
5:00 am - Aug 22, '08

@southernbella I don't think

@southernbella I don't think Brownsugarblog has a shitty attitude, but I do think she is fed up with not being approached like a lady. I know I hold myself as a lady and a lot of men laugh in my face when I tell them things like they can come over after a certain time, or I don't kiss on the first date, or that even though we've gone out on a few dates I think it is too soon to begin a sexual relationship. And that what did you cook for dinner bs is sickning!! I will tell the truth I would cater to men a lot more than I do now, and the result of leaving their asses out in the cold, I have definately dealt with a better class of man. Men want to chase, but if they are not given any, they are satisfied to see how much they can get out of you. So agree ladies give these men a chase, I promise you will love the results

by blaq
11:36 pm - Aug 21, '08

Brown Suga...that's the most

Brown Suga...that's the most truth i've heard all month. Thank you girl!!

by tiffany
11:37 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180705"][quote comment="180405"]To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You're making it hard for the rest of us. I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off. I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you. I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at my crib and what ever "chilling" they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10. Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right in life to have a "dime." And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can't possibly understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them. And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested , huh? The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that. I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever. If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do. I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes. To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.[/quote] You need to vent your ass somewhere else boo. Maybe you should: 1. see a therapist 2. figure out if you really want that sex change to female 3. Stop watching "Waiting to Exhale". Clearly you have exhaled enough on YBF. 4. stay away from keyboards. You obviously have no respect for them.[/quote] U ARE FRICKIN HILARIOUS...WELL SAID WELL SAID...THAT CHICK NEEDS TO GO ON OPRAH OR TYRA OR SOMETHING NOT HERE BUT IT WAS QUTITE CLEAR TO ME THAT SHE THINKS SHE'S GETTIN OLD AND STILL NOT MARRIED...O LORD HUN...U NEED TO GO TO JESUS WITH THAT NOT HERE BUT THANKS FOR SHARING THOUGH

by ms thang
5:08 am - Aug 22, '08

brandy looks nice

by just chilin
6:46 pm - Aug 21, '08

*thanking jesus for answering

*thanking jesus for answering my prayers* brandy looks decent...Venus....not so much. Boris and Nicole are a cute lil couple.

by Ms. Michelle
6:47 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180378"]brandy looks so cute i like her and i wish the best for boris and nicole i have never heard of that before hope all goes well...[/quote] 44

by DIVA
5:24 am - Aug 22, '08

I think Imma send some $ for

I think Imma send some $ for Sophia and this spoina bifida trial - This kinda of thing makes you stop and really add up yr blessings. Of course Sophie baby IS a blessing mmm wonder if old t & coco would do something like that for HIS son the one he does not claim..

by TEETH
11:42 pm - Aug 21, '08

OMG i was first... wow

by just chilin
6:48 pm - Aug 21, '08

brandy looks so cute i like

brandy looks so cute i like her and i wish the best for boris and nicole i have never heard of that before hope all goes well...

by ACRES HOMES
6:48 pm - Aug 21, '08

Brandy looks weird - Wide

Brandy looks weird - Wide Eyed in this pic

by Lil Miss Sunshine
6:49 pm - Aug 21, '08

Is it me or the lady in the

Is it me or the lady in the picture with Brandy looking like umm who is she? and why is she getting her picture taking? Am I in the same place as a star but I don't know she's a star!

by Enigma
5:51 am - Aug 22, '08

Boris and Nicole have a long

Boris and Nicole have a long road ahead. It's so sad when children come into the world with so many different life threatening and debilitating problems. They're a beautiful family nonetheless. Love some Brandy!

by Just C
6:50 pm - Aug 21, '08

kodjoe's are beautiful WOW

by Loyalty
6:50 pm - Aug 21, '08

I rock rough and tough with

I rock rough and tough with my Afro Puffs!!! Okay, sorry, I had to do it. Venus was killing me. *goes back to being a good girl*

by GODIVA
6:51 pm - Aug 21, '08

Awww poor Sophie. That's why

Awww poor Sophie. That's why I'm scared to have kids!

by ♫ Lola AM ©
6:52 pm - Aug 21, '08

I love the

I love the Kodjoes -------------------------------------------------- www.yabaz.com, the NUMBER 1 gossip directory

by yabaz
6:52 pm - Aug 21, '08

kodjoe's are beautiful WOW

kodjoe's are beautiful WOW what a family

by Loyalty
6:52 pm - Aug 21, '08

God Bless Kodjoe's. I love

God Bless Kodjoe's. I love that Venus is going natural with her hair, I wish I could do it, but when I try I get mad when I can't get a comb thru it, so I'm back to the perm.

by Tonya
6:52 pm - Aug 21, '08

OMG, That is sooo sad. I

OMG, That is sooo sad. I wish them the best, and that lil angel, being catheterized every 3 hours..what a lil soldier!!!

by what?
6:52 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote comment="180385"]I

[quote comment="180385"]I rock rough and tough with my Afro Puffs!!! Okay, sorry, I had to do it. Venus was killing me. *goes back to being a good girl*[/quote] LOL!!!

by Ms. Michelle
6:52 pm - Aug 21, '08

My prayers go out to the

My prayers go out to the Kodjoes. Venues laid back look is nice.

by IWASTHINKING
6:53 pm - Aug 21, '08

Brandy looks cute (I'm gonna

Brandy looks cute (I'm gonna need to find a new word to describe people *lol*)....Love the Kodjoes!! I'll keep them in my prayers....Toodlez

by Cherishedbyu
6:55 pm - Aug 21, '08

[quote

[quote comment="180373"]*thanking jesus for answering my prayers* brandy looks decent...Venus....not so much. Boris and Nicole are a cute lil couple.[/quote] co sign to Brandy. venus looks TER-RI-BLE!

by Gorgeous1
6:55 pm - Aug 21, '08

It's just no right for

It's just no right for beautiful innocent babies to be born with conditions...God only knows why. Prayers to the Kojoe family.

by Martinique_fr
11:55 pm - Aug 21, '08

My prayers go out to Boris

My prayers go out to Boris and Nicole. Sometimes we take our healthy kids for granted. I can't imagine having to deal with that.

by Hope
6:56 pm - Aug 21, '08

To all the desperate women

To all the desperate women out there: Stop it. You're making it hard for the rest of us. I'm tired of encountering men who seem to believe all they have to do is look good, have a degree and smile to have my panties fall off. I'm tired of the men who's first question seems to be: Can you to cook? To which I reply: Yes. I can. But I won't be doing it for you. I'm tired of the men who call at all times of night, asking to come over and "chill" as I let them know that it's too late to be at my crib and what ever "chilling" they want to do can be done between the hours of 9 and 10. Or how about the men who don't have a pot to piss in or a window to throw it out of but seem to think it's their right in life to have a "dime." And that my extra fly ass should be grateful that they even said hello to me and can't possibly understand why I'm not leaping up and down at the prospect of being with them. And please, don't get me started on all of the men who tell me that I want them as much as they want me. Right. So all those texts and phone calls I didn't return didn't send the message that I wasn't interested , huh? The reason why so many men today think that they have to do so little to attract quality chicks, is because they don't. Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. Women are doing the chasing and men are doing the choosing. And apparently I'm the only one who seems to think something is wrong with that. I'm old school. I may only be 28, but I was raised to believe that it's a man's job to court me. He does the chasing. I do the choosing. Simple. And effective. But now, because of the very real demographic differences among a certain section of the Black community, women are doing whatever it takes to get a man. And I do mean whatever. If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny's Child "Cater to You" to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that's what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do. I'm sorry, but I just can't get down like that. As I have had to tell one too many men: I am not your wife. And even if I was, I wouldn't be bending over backward to cater to you. If you want 150% from me, then you better be giving me 150% in return. But don't expect to operate on 10% and expect me to give you 150. If you're operating on 10%, I'm operating on 20 and that's just because I'm nice--sometimes. To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don't play wife, unless you're playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.