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UPDATES: Dwyane & Siohvaughn Wade's Divorce+Janet & J.D. Are Just Fine

Miami Heat baller Dwyane Wade hasn't officially or flat out confirmed he and his wife Siohvaughn are divorcing. But TheYBF.com has just learned more details that confirm the divorce is in the works. Dwyane has hired high powered Chicago divorce attorney Enrico Mirabelli. Chicago is the hometown of the Wades, by the way. We hear Mirabelli is famous for taking good care of his clients. Looks like D-Wade is making sure he doesn't get screwed out of his pre-nup, or lack thereof. We reported exclusively weeks ago he and Gabrielle Union have moved in together while she looks for her own place in Miami. Gabby has also been traveling abroad with Dwyane and the team this fall.


Janet and J.D. have uploaded a new video to J.D.'s Youtube channel. And they're addressing the rumors about their "breakup" and thanking the fans for their support. I'm starting to really like these two. By the way, they filmed this while backstage at Janet's Houston concert this week. And we reported J.D. was there in VIP that night, despite rumors the two had broken up.

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I think Janet is the only one

I think Janet is the only one who owns up to hers though.
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[quote comment="249423"]Janet

[quote comment="249423"]Janet and JD are fab! Gabby and Dwade...no comment!!! Karma ia a b*tch Gabby. Don't say we didn't forewarn you![/quote] Yah Gabby need to be careful, a girl as fine as her should not have to go in for another woman's man!
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d-wade is a jerk, he's

d-wade is a jerk, he's probably the only athlete that ain't married to a groupie and he want to mess it up for drunk Gabby!!!!!!!!!!Then he ain't trying to break his Wife and Mother of his kids Off...That's jacked up..well what goes around comes around...
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Janet and JD are SOOOOO

Janet and JD are SOOOOO CUTE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11
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I hope The Wades get along

I hope The Wades get along when it come down to the kids.But I hope Siohvaugh get into Dwade a&& with this divorce.
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[quote comment="249808"][quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] its like it hurts to let her go because thats like ten years but I feel we have grown apart. I think its time to let her go...[/quote] I know this is kinda late and all, but GOD PUTS PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE FOR A REASON..AND HE TAKES THEM OUT FOR A REASON..Look at it like that..some people are dead weight and it takes longer than usual for this to be revealed..keep it moving hun and God be with you.
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[quote comment="250050"]I was

[quote comment="250050"]I was saying congrats to Ms. Yetta but it didnt go thru..so again congrats and all the best!!!![/quote] Thank you sweetheart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Janets performance in Houston

Janets performance in Houston was awesome and it was a packed house! I wish her and JD all the best.
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[quote comment="249733"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] People always told me the apple don't fall far from the tree, but that is not the case always.. But clearly here, it seems like she has done some things to make you upset, so I say tell her to kick rocks.. where there is one shady person,there are 5 more honest loving ones...[/quote] After reading your post.it's obvious that you and your friend are on totally diffrent level.And if you don't want to be on her level.then you just have to let her go.
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I was saying congrats to Ms.

I was saying congrats to Ms. Yetta but it didnt go thru..so again congrats and all the best!!!!
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[quote comment="249833"][quote comment="249778"][quote comment="249758"][quote comment="249656"]You know...I've been guilty of getting caught up in silly arguments on here (I'm going to chalk it up to my frustrations due to working with people I don't like-lol), but I mean it is such a different energy in here when we don't engage in all that foolishness. Its great to be able to have conversation, to share your viewpoints and to learn from other peoples' as well. There are really some great, positive strong sisters on here and I wish you all nothing but every blessing! There is far too much that divides us already in the world- let's keep the maturity and the positivity going![/quote] Oh and congrats to you....all the best!!!! That's why I don't even indulge in that nonsense, i think of it this way, how sad is your life that you #1 - have to insult people you don't know or didn't do anything to you, #2 - that you don't have nothing productive to say at anytime at all.[/quote] Those are the same ones who goes home and cries on their pillow and wishes for death to come upon them.. they are the epitome of lonely and miserable.. That may sound kinda harsh, but I think it's the truth..[/quote] It's the truth....people with that kind of attitude have so much going on within themselves and will find any way to spread their negativity on to others. They are not happy so no one else should be. How they can do that scares me and even worse will go to church or say they believe in God and call themselves God's children but have so much hate in their hearts. It makes you feel sad for them more than anything. I've learned about hate....through having my son. I thought I could hate when I broke up with his dad and dealing with all the bs he put me through. I'd always say "there's no one I hate on this earth, except my son's father." But with God's help, He's allowed me to see not even him I can hate. To hate him would mean I hate my son because my son is not all me....there's a lot of him in him as well. I despise his actions and more so than before feel sorry for him. Karma is real and with what he's done he's paying for it now. It takes so much energy out of you to stay angry and hateful all day, and all you end up doing is giving that person power over your life....you can't move on. You block your own happiness from exisiting.[/quote]
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[quote comment="249900"][quote comment="249877"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] [quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] s&j this sounds to me like you are giving to much to this person and they are not equaling your compassion and freindship back to you. i don't think you deserve to constantly be treated like that! love you as hard as you value her![/quote] ♥ I agree, Thank you so much ladies![/quote] You know what though? And who i really feel bad for in this situation - the poor child who has to constantly hear that he is a monkey from his grandmother - he's going to grow up messed up - with self-hatred.
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[quote comment="249931"][quote comment="249900"][quote comment="249877"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] [quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] s&j this sounds to me like you are giving to much to this person and they are not equaling your compassion and freindship back to you. i don't think you deserve to constantly be treated like that! love you as hard as you value her![/quote] ♥ I agree, Thank you so much ladies![/quote] OHH I LOVE ALL THIS LOVE TODAY WOOOOSAH LOL[/quote] I have dated PLENTY and I mean PLENTY of Latinos ( love me some Ricans) and its true they do not believe in racem ixing. Not becuz they're racist (most of them anyway) but becuz they looooove their Latino heritage. Ricans are blacker the Negroes to be honest but most other Latinos feel this way. Best this to do is tell your friend she is is serious violation. Unless you want her to get her a** whooped on the street. As far as her mammy goes...f*ck her. And whatever you do dont eat at her house!!!!!
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Couple's News: I am hoping

Couple's News: I am hoping DWade began this jump-off AFTER seperation, but knowin these Negroes.... If he didnt, Siovaughn should take his ass to the cleaners. Damn I used to like him too. Janet ain't leaving JD aka "The Fly Part Deaux". What else is she doing?
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[quote comment="249863"][quote comment="249846"][quote comment="249828"][quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] I would call you a fool for stying friends w/ her so long but I would be judging and that's a no-no. That girl seems like a leach in your back and you've been playing "dumb-dumb" too long. I know a chick that's Hispanic and she said her grandmother (black at that) used to say the same things in Spanish "no monkeys no monkeys in here." People that think like that are sooo laughable. But she too has a child for a black guy as well. It's almost as if Karma slaps them in the face. It's always one of those girls getting having a child by their biggest fear....a black man! :lol: INFILTRATION I SAY![/quote] I can understand.She was giving her the benefit of the doub.I know I was with ol' dude and yall beat me with some power knowledge because I haven't dealt with many males on love level.[/quote] Hey Barbie! I love Chaka Khan's "Hollywood".[/quote] I'm a Chaka stan girl!!
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[quote comment="249900"][quote comment="249877"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] [quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] s&j this sounds to me like you are giving to much to this person and they are not equaling your compassion and freindship back to you. i don't think you deserve to constantly be treated like that! love you as hard as you value her![/quote] ♥ I agree, Thank you so much ladies![/quote] OHH I LOVE ALL THIS LOVE TODAY WOOOOSAH LOL
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To All My Beautiful Black

To All My Beautiful Black Sistas: Lets love and live life to the fullest, and let no one take away your joy and happiness. I wish nothing but the best to any and everybody on here!!!
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[quote comment="249900"][quote comment="249877"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] [quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] s&j this sounds to me like you are giving to much to this person and they are not equaling your compassion and freindship back to you. i don't think you deserve to constantly be treated like that! love you as hard as you value her![/quote] ♥ I agree, Thank you so much ladies![/quote] And don't feel bad about how you treated her & her fmily even though it wasn't reciprocated, i call it gathering heaven points.....you have gained your points in heaven by being a good friend. Trust me, most of the time the good you receive in your life doesn't come from the people you have done good to or have been good to, but it's from your collection of heaven points, that'll make a stranger or someone who you haven't even really done much for, they'll be the ones to do good to/by you.
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[quote comment="249877"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] [quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] s&j this sounds to me like you are giving to much to this person and they are not equaling your compassion and freindship back to you. i don't think you deserve to constantly be treated like that! love you as hard as you value her![/quote] ♥ I agree, Thank you so much ladies!
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I love Janet and Jermaine

I love Janet and Jermaine together. They seem like a perfect fit. I cannot wait to meet my Mr. Perfect Fit. I love Mariah and Nick together as well.
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[quote comment="249787"]All I

[quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] [quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] s&j this sounds to me like you are giving to much to this person and they are not equaling your compassion and freindship back to you. i don't think you deserve to constantly be treated like that! love you as hard as you value her!
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[quote comment="249852"][quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] Then you have to let her go or you can still be associates but keep her at arms length, sometimes we tend to hold on to our friends in our life because we have known them for so long and forgive them so easily even when the things they do hurt so much. I had to let one of my best friends go because she was saying negative stuff about me that wasn't even true, just so she can be friends with another chick. And I realize now that we are both better off in different places without each other.[/quote] Exactly. I feel better now knowing that I am free from her drama.
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[quote comment="249840"][quote comment="249828"][quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] I would call you a fool for stying friends w/ her so long but I would be judging and that's a no-no. That girl seems like a leach in your back and you've been playing "dumb-dumb" too long. I know a chick that's Hispanic and she said her grandmother (black at that) used to say the same things in Spanish "no monkeys no monkeys in here." People that think like that are sooo laughable. But she too has a child for a black guy as well. It's almost as if Karma slaps them in the face. It's always one of those girls getting having a child by their biggest fear....a black man! :lol: INFILTRATION I SAY![/quote] yeah, I have and I'm so glad that I am letting her go. A bunch of anger in my heart for her, I have to let that go and her go. I know her mom is ignorant and doesnt know her history. I bet she has African descent in her blood, she is just too white washed to know..[/quote] Yes they are. But don't let your experience w/ her make you steretype all Hispanics/Latinos. All of them aren't like that. And if they are, you should only feel pity for them. You don't need that kind of drama girl. Be happy. :smile:
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[quote comment="249846"][quote comment="249828"][quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] I would call you a fool for stying friends w/ her so long but I would be judging and that's a no-no. That girl seems like a leach in your back and you've been playing "dumb-dumb" too long. I know a chick that's Hispanic and she said her grandmother (black at that) used to say the same things in Spanish "no monkeys no monkeys in here." People that think like that are sooo laughable. But she too has a child for a black guy as well. It's almost as if Karma slaps them in the face. It's always one of those girls getting having a child by their biggest fear....a black man! :lol: INFILTRATION I SAY![/quote] I can understand.She was giving her the benefit of the doub.I know I was with ol' dude and yall beat me with some power knowledge because I haven't dealt with many males on love level.[/quote] Hey Barbie! I love Chaka Khan's "Hollywood".
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[quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] Then you have to let her go or you can still be associates but keep her at arms length, sometimes we tend to hold on to our friends in our life because we have known them for so long and forgive them so easily even when the things they do hurt so much. I had to let one of my best friends go because she was saying negative stuff about me that wasn't even true, just so she can be friends with another chick. And I realize now that we are both better off in different places without each other.
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[quote comment="249828"][quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] I would call you a fool for stying friends w/ her so long but I would be judging and that's a no-no. That girl seems like a leach in your back and you've been playing "dumb-dumb" too long. I know a chick that's Hispanic and she said her grandmother (black at that) used to say the same things in Spanish "no monkeys no monkeys in here." People that think like that are sooo laughable. But she too has a child for a black guy as well. It's almost as if Karma slaps them in the face. It's always one of those girls getting having a child by their biggest fear....a black man! :lol: INFILTRATION I SAY![/quote] I can understand.She was giving her the benefit of the doub.I know I was with ol' dude and yall beat me with some power knowledge because I haven't dealt with many males on love level.
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[quote comment="249834"][quote comment="249804"][quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] Oh Lawd, I was typing tooooo fast.. All those typos...my bad!! *THE life*... *and you will WAKE up*[/quote] yep...I call those toxic friends :wink: don't need 'em[/quote] yeah. I already got my other good friend, we are both black so we understand eachother plus shes a REAL good friend. No fakeness. Plus I got you guys ♥
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[quote comment="249828"][quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] I would call you a fool for stying friends w/ her so long but I would be judging and that's a no-no. That girl seems like a leach in your back and you've been playing "dumb-dumb" too long. I know a chick that's Hispanic and she said her grandmother (black at that) used to say the same things in Spanish "no monkeys no monkeys in here." People that think like that are sooo laughable. But she too has a child for a black guy as well. It's almost as if Karma slaps them in the face. It's always one of those girls getting having a child by their biggest fear....a black man! :lol: INFILTRATION I SAY![/quote] yeah, I have and I'm so glad that I am letting her go. A bunch of anger in my heart for her, I have to let that go and her go. I know her mom is ignorant and doesnt know her history. I bet she has African descent in her blood, she is just too white washed to know..
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[quote comment="249830"][quote comment="249820"][quote comment="249808"][quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] its like it hurts to let her go because thats like ten years but I feel we have grown apart. I think its time to let her go...[/quote] Would you stay in a relationship with a MAN if he was doing all this crap to you???????????[/quote] thats exactly what I was thinking. Its not fair. She's not real too me so I can't be her friend. Thats it. I shouldnt have second guessed myself.[/quote] *patting you on back* Go head girl. Keep it movin and do you! Youll be happier in a few days
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[quote comment="249804"][quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] Oh Lawd, I was typing tooooo fast.. All those typos...my bad!! *THE life*... *and you will WAKE up*[/quote] yep...I call those toxic friends :wink: don't need 'em
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[quote comment="249778"][quote comment="249758"][quote comment="249656"]You know...I've been guilty of getting caught up in silly arguments on here (I'm going to chalk it up to my frustrations due to working with people I don't like-lol), but I mean it is such a different energy in here when we don't engage in all that foolishness. Its great to be able to have conversation, to share your viewpoints and to learn from other peoples' as well. There are really some great, positive strong sisters on here and I wish you all nothing but every blessing! There is far too much that divides us already in the world- let's keep the maturity and the positivity going![/quote] That's why I don't even indulge in that nonsense, i think of it this way, how sad is your life that you #1 - have to insult people you don't know or didn't do anything to you, #2 - that you don't have nothing productive to say at anytime at all.[/quote] Those are the same ones who goes home and cries on their pillow and wishes for death to come upon them.. they are the epitome of lonely and miserable.. That may sound kinda harsh, but I think it's the truth..[/quote] It's the truth....people with that kind of attitude have so much going on within themselves and will find any way to spread their negativity on to others. They are not happy so no one else should be. How they can do that scares me and even worse will go to church or say they believe in God and call themselves God's children but have so much hate in their hearts. It makes you feel sad for them more than anything. I've learned about hate....through having my son. I thought I could hate when I broke up with his dad and dealing with all the bs he put me through. I'd always say "there's no one I hate on this earth, except my son's father." But with God's help, He's allowed me to see not even him I can hate. To hate him would mean I hate my son because my son is not all me....there's a lot of him in him as well. I despise his actions and more so than before feel sorry for him. Karma is real and with what he's done he's paying for it now. It takes so much energy out of you to stay angry and hateful all day, and all you end up doing is giving that person power over your life....you can't move on. You block your own happiness from exisiting.
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[quote comment="249820"][quote comment="249808"][quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] its like it hurts to let her go because thats like ten years but I feel we have grown apart. I think its time to let her go...[/quote] Would you stay in a relationship with a MAN if he was doing all this crap to you???????????[/quote] thats exactly what I was thinking. Its not fair. She's not real too me so I can't be her friend. Thats it. I shouldnt have second guessed myself.
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[quote comment="249798"][quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.[/quote] I would call you a fool for stying friends w/ her so long but I would be judging and that's a no-no. That girl seems like a leach in your back and you've been playing "dumb-dumb" too long. I know a chick that's Hispanic and she said her grandmother (black at that) used to say the same things in Spanish "no monkeys no monkeys in here." People that think like that are sooo laughable. But she too has a child for a black guy as well. It's almost as if Karma slaps them in the face. It's always one of those girls getting having a child by their biggest fear....a black man! :lol: INFILTRATION I SAY!
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[quote comment="249808"][quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] its like it hurts to let her go because thats like ten years but I feel we have grown apart. I think its time to let her go...[/quote] Would you stay in a relationship with a MAN if he was doing all this crap to you???????????
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[quote comment="249805"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] Well after hearing all that i said you got bamboozled boo!!!She got more out of the friendship b/c she knew you would be there. You betta cut your losses and keep it movin girl. We got yo back! :)[/quote] awwwww, thanks I'm just sad i've been thinking about it a lot lately. I think Ima let her go. Its best for me anyways. This relationship is unhealthy...
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[quote comment="249790"][quote comment="249681"][quote comment="249662"][quote comment="249654"][quote comment="249631"][quote comment="249624"][quote comment="249605"][quote comment="249580"][quote comment="249569"][quote comment="249561"][quote comment="249556"][quote comment="249547"][quote comment="249534"][quote comment="249517"][quote comment="249499"][quote comment="249491"]Thanks Les and congrats on the YBF baby ;)!![/quote] Your welcome but our YBF is in heaven now, so we're pulling for Rainy to have our next YBF baby now......... :tears:[/quote] really sorry to hear that, Les, I never knew it...[/quote] Thanx[/quote] Awwwww Les.. I feel your pain girl.. I lost a child at 5 months... I have made up for it though. I have a beautiful 4 year old, and God has graciously decided to bless me with another who should be arriving on the scene in April 09.. God has seen your tears sweetie and He will come to your side... But the fuuny thing is, if I would have had that child at 16, I would have been up a creek.. God sees the future and He knows whats best...[/quote] Yetta, i didn't know you were expecting!!! I love babies....(hell, I've had enough! LOL LOL)[/quote] Yes ma'am I am !!!!!!!!!! :lol:[/quote] bring that baby to me here in Houston...I don't know what it is about me and babies...I LOVE THEM!!!!!....[/quote] I have fam that just moved to Houston!!!!!!!!!!!! Girl, and you know what else is funny???? ( God forgive me for this but, ) I never wanted kids..of course I did things that people who want kids do, but I was always naive when it came down to it....I was like..I'm not gonna get pregnant..it worked for a while, but God had something in store for me..... That is why I tell people if you can wait..do it... And I know I sound like a hypocrite to some, but I still have and know Jesus and He has forgiven me for my mistakes..(so glad that He is not like man.) After getting myself into this situation, ( with a deadbeat at that) I have learned what God was trying to tell me all along.. But thank God for his mercy.. I'm in school, workign full time and just moved into my own place.so He still has been good to me..... *Exhaling*[/quote] Well go head Yetta!!! I wish you and your lil ones nothing but the best! Ya'll pray for me...I'm trying to potty train my son![/quote] You go country, i'm still trying to pottrytrain mines........and he's 9 years old! lol[/quote] That was a joke right Les.............. :P[/quote] Unfortunately, no, i don't know about that boy - he can take a nap for 4 hours & everything is alright but when he goes to bed.......forget it, he can't wake up for nothing! I used to wake up every 2 - 3 hours in the night & put him on the toilet but then i would be no good at work the next morning. I get home late, so not having him drink after 7pm won't work cuz we eat dinner like 7:30pm - 8pm. He uses the bathroom right before bed, so i dunno what else to do. The Dr. wanted to give me a pill to give him but i'm not into all this medication stuff, cuz Lord knows what the side effects can be. My son was born premature, so i just excuse it as him being half-baked, i just thank the Lord that he made it without no problems, so if his only issue is his bladder - i'll take it. I just feel sorry for his future wife, lol.[/quote] My friend has the same problem with her son.. he is 6 I think.. He still pees the bed and she thinks it's a bladder problem...She'll kill me if she know I told this, but she wet the bed even into her 20's...so she thinks he will go through the same thing..[/quote] WOW!!! I pee'd the bed too when I was older not that daggone old though. I think I was like 7 or 8. I just couldn't wake up from sleep. But for some reason I stopped. At least now they make those pull-ups for big kids that look like real underwear. Have you tried those, Les?[/quote] (Damn job, damn work, got me replying all late & stuff, lol) Hell Naw, those pull-up too damn expensive! He get's the regular pull-ups, he's lucky I don't get him the pink ones! Shame him into getting potty trained, lol. He's lucky i don't put him in the size 6 pampers! You get more in the box for the money. Shoo, times are hard![/quote] YOU STUUUUUUUUPID!!!!!!!!!!! Girl size 6 pampers!!!!!!! BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol:
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[quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] its like it hurts to let her go because thats like ten years but I feel we have grown apart. I think its time to let her go...
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[quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] Well after hearing all that i said you got bamboozled boo!!!She got more out of the friendship b/c she knew you would be there. You betta cut your losses and keep it movin girl. We got yo back! :)
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[quote comment="249800"][quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..[/quote] Oh Lawd, I was typing tooooo fast.. All those typos...my bad!! *THE life*... *and you will WAKE up*
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[quote comment="249787"]All I

[quote comment="249787"]All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.[/quote] You don't need "takers" in your lfe. These are the people who are always wanting from you..whether it be emotionally or physical things.. That will drain teh life out of you adnd you will wkae up one day with not an ounce of energy left for yourself.. It's okay to befriend people, but there must be boundaries set up first..
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[quote comment="249757"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] how long have ya'll been friends? And do she act like she's racists?[/quote] we've been friends for about ten years and I met her mom, I used to be over there all the time but theres a couple of times my friend told me her mom didnt aprove her black boyfriends but when she told me her mom called black people monkeys I was so offended. It hurt almost the way my friend told me waslike she was telling her white or spanish friend.
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[quote comment="249768"][quote comment="249748"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] No don't kick her to the curb! You have to understand that that is the environment she grew up in and that cannot be shaken off overnight. What you should do and should've been doing is letting her know that what she is aying/telling you is offensive and maybe she should keep that to herself. Knowledge is power. When someone is ignorant, the best thing you can do is educate them. You be the bigger person![/quote] Yeah, I would let her know that I was offended....I wouldn't kick her to the curb just yet.....[/quote] I concur, I'm realizing that there ar a lot of (ex)friends that I cut off in the past and I miss them. The breakup wasn't worth the problem and we could've worked it out. Don't be impulsive. Now if she is just some manipulative backstabbing chick, get rid of her. Otherewise, it's better to know who your enemies are and keep them at arms length. My younger friend, I thinks she's your age and she's soooo mature, says "everybody in your life can serve a purpose" and that's how I look at things now. I don't cut off people. I let them cutt me off because I keep them at a distance. I hang w/ them when I feel like it. I don't make my life revolve around them, because then they will think you need them. Sometime being by yourself is your best company. :wink:
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[quote comment="249777"][quote comment="249772"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] Cut her ass off! Why would you continue to be friends with someone like that? It's one thing, that her family feels that way, but it seems as though she feels that way too....? You don't need her S & J[/quote] Daaang No Second Chance Sally!!! LOL[/quote] LMBO!!! Ya'll are killing me today!!! No, she had chances...S&J said she has done fucked up shit to her in the past, so she's had many of chances. Life's too short to keep getting fucked over
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[quote comment="249717"]I

[quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] Well, I don't know your friend, but it seems like she don't know any better if she think this behavior is fine.Her mom, God bless her heart know damn well that's not cool.But the deal with most latinos, they don't believe in racial mixing at all because they think it is a disgrace to step outside their heritage.I think your friend might be in serious denial!
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[quote comment="249681"][quote comment="249662"][quote comment="249654"][quote comment="249631"][quote comment="249624"][quote comment="249605"][quote comment="249580"][quote comment="249569"][quote comment="249561"][quote comment="249556"][quote comment="249547"][quote comment="249534"][quote comment="249517"][quote comment="249499"][quote comment="249491"]Thanks Les and congrats on the YBF baby ;)!![/quote] Your welcome but our YBF is in heaven now, so we're pulling for Rainy to have our next YBF baby now......... :tears:[/quote] really sorry to hear that, Les, I never knew it...[/quote] Thanx[/quote] Awwwww Les.. I feel your pain girl.. I lost a child at 5 months... I have made up for it though. I have a beautiful 4 year old, and God has graciously decided to bless me with another who should be arriving on the scene in April 09.. God has seen your tears sweetie and He will come to your side... But the fuuny thing is, if I would have had that child at 16, I would have been up a creek.. God sees the future and He knows whats best...[/quote] Yetta, i didn't know you were expecting!!! I love babies....(hell, I've had enough! LOL LOL)[/quote] Yes ma'am I am !!!!!!!!!! :lol:[/quote] bring that baby to me here in Houston...I don't know what it is about me and babies...I LOVE THEM!!!!!....[/quote] I have fam that just moved to Houston!!!!!!!!!!!! Girl, and you know what else is funny???? ( God forgive me for this but, ) I never wanted kids..of course I did things that people who want kids do, but I was always naive when it came down to it....I was like..I'm not gonna get pregnant..it worked for a while, but God had something in store for me..... That is why I tell people if you can wait..do it... And I know I sound like a hypocrite to some, but I still have and know Jesus and He has forgiven me for my mistakes..(so glad that He is not like man.) After getting myself into this situation, ( with a deadbeat at that) I have learned what God was trying to tell me all along.. But thank God for his mercy.. I'm in school, workign full time and just moved into my own place.so He still has been good to me..... *Exhaling*[/quote] Well go head Yetta!!! I wish you and your lil ones nothing but the best! Ya'll pray for me...I'm trying to potty train my son![/quote] You go country, i'm still trying to pottrytrain mines........and he's 9 years old! lol[/quote] That was a joke right Les.............. :P[/quote] Unfortunately, no, i don't know about that boy - he can take a nap for 4 hours & everything is alright but when he goes to bed.......forget it, he can't wake up for nothing! I used to wake up every 2 - 3 hours in the night & put him on the toilet but then i would be no good at work the next morning. I get home late, so not having him drink after 7pm won't work cuz we eat dinner like 7:30pm - 8pm. He uses the bathroom right before bed, so i dunno what else to do. The Dr. wanted to give me a pill to give him but i'm not into all this medication stuff, cuz Lord knows what the side effects can be. My son was born premature, so i just excuse it as him being half-baked, i just thank the Lord that he made it without no problems, so if his only issue is his bladder - i'll take it. I just feel sorry for his future wife, lol.[/quote] My friend has the same problem with her son.. he is 6 I think.. He still pees the bed and she thinks it's a bladder problem...She'll kill me if she know I told this, but she wet the bed even into her 20's...so she thinks he will go through the same thing..[/quote] WOW!!! I pee'd the bed too when I was older not that daggone old though. I think I was like 7 or 8. I just couldn't wake up from sleep. But for some reason I stopped. At least now they make those pull-ups for big kids that look like real underwear. Have you tried those, Les?[/quote] (Damn job, damn work, got me replying all late & stuff, lol) Hell Naw, those pull-up too damn expensive! He get's the regular pull-ups, he's lucky I don't get him the pink ones! Shame him into getting potty trained, lol. He's lucky i don't put him in the size 6 pampers! You get more in the box for the money. Shoo, times are hard!
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[quote comment="249645"]Don't

[quote comment="249645"]Don't y'all sometimes have that moment that you cry for no reason?You just cry???Isn't that crazy???[/quote] when i have to cry i let it go..i cried when i watch sex in the city yesterday i cried at baby story, i cried watching roots last week..
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All I ever been to her is a

All I ever been to her is a good friend. She has put her baby daddy before me even tho he now doesnt even take care of his child. And she put this trilfing chick before me who shes not even friends with because she tried to get with her baby daddy. when her child was being born I was in the hospital along with my other friend all night. She wouldnt even let us hold the baby she acted like we were dirty. But how bout a few days later, we went to visit her that same trifling chick was holding that baby when me being her best friend from 5th grade hadnt even touched her. You know how much that hurts? That was two years ago but I cant let it go. Shes done more things but Im just starting to feel like I've been putting too much into this relationship and she hasnt put anything. Not fair. I told her about her mom too but I dont think she understands the seriousness of what her mom said.
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[quote comment="249758"][quote comment="249656"]You know...I've been guilty of getting caught up in silly arguments on here (I'm going to chalk it up to my frustrations due to working with people I don't like-lol), but I mean it is such a different energy in here when we don't engage in all that foolishness. Its great to be able to have conversation, to share your viewpoints and to learn from other peoples' as well. There are really some great, positive strong sisters on here and I wish you all nothing but every blessing! There is far too much that divides us already in the world- let's keep the maturity and the positivity going![/quote] That's why I don't even indulge in that nonsense, i think of it this way, how sad is your life that you #1 - have to insult people you don't know or didn't do anything to you, #2 - that you don't have nothing productive to say at anytime at all.[/quote] Those are the same ones who goes home and cries on their pillow and wishes for death to come upon them.. they are the epitome of lonely and miserable.. That may sound kinda harsh, but I think it's the truth..
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[quote comment="249772"][quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] Cut her ass off! Why would you continue to be friends with someone like that? It's one thing, that her family feels that way, but it seems as though she feels that way too....? You don't need her S & J[/quote] Daaang No Second Chance Sally!!! LOL
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[quote comment="249717"]I

[quote comment="249717"]I need some advice. I have a friend, we've been best friends since 5th grade. Recently, her mom said some real racist stuff. Shes hispanic and she has a baby who is mixed with black. My friend loves black dudes, and shes twenty, her mom still got control over her but anyways she left the baby at home and her mom and sister kept calling her, I guess her mom found out she was with a black dude so her mom started saying racist stuff like you better not bring another monkey baby in this house and talking down about black people. My friend told me this and acted like this was just randy dandy. I took it offensively ya know because I had the feeling her whole family was racist but this proved it. Now I'm not talking to her because I just get fake vibes from her. In her away message the other day she was selling out about me (I think) and I just been thinking about all the fucked up shit she's done to me. What do you ladies suggest I do? If you need more details let me know[/quote] Cut her ass off! Why would you continue to be friends with someone like that? It's one thing, that her family feels that way, but it seems as though she feels that way too....? You don't need her S & J
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