[quote comment="275124"][quote comment="275083"][quote comment="275056"][quote comment="275037"][quote comment="274975"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] damn....we are so here *pointing at the eyes* I don't have my masters yet but I racked up enough loans in undergrad to be working a this BS job I have. I need a career. I'm 28 and I get so depressed I stop eating.[/quote] *les923 wishing she could EVER be THAT depressed* lol[/quote] ------------------------------------------------------------------------ OK, LOL!!! I either want to eat, get high or get drunk...all which leads to gaining weight!!![/quote] What field are you in?[/quote] I have a BS is Sport Management and a double minor in Business Administration and Communication. At the time I was in school, it's what I thought I wanted to do. I have never had a job in my field nor do I want one. I currently work in the IS department for a pipe, valve, and fitting company where I do nothing all day. The work I do, do, is easy and does not engage my mind. And right now I htink I'm to the point that I honestly don't know what I want to do. I don't know what I'm good at. Yeah, I have office skills, excellent oral and written communication skills(although it may not show on here all the time :) yada, yada, yada... I do know that I don't want to sit behind a desk all day in front of a computer which has been what all my jobs have been. I want to branch out into something different. I think I want to become a special educaion teacher and ultimately become a diagnostician.[/quote] So it sounds like you need a change of scenery and a career that challenges you! You have have the idea and the dream...just identify what you have to do to get there. You are going to be fine.

[quote comment="275143"][quote comment="275044"][quote comment="274994"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] Awww...I understand EXACTLY how you feel. I had a rough few years and I think I have been depressed since my mom (who was my HEART) died a few years ago. I have loans the size of a mortgage. I left a job that I loooved because it did not pay well and now I am working in a job I don't like with people I don't like. But lately my whole outlook has been changing...the other morning I passed an older black woman sleeping on the side of the street and it really struck me just how blessed I am. I have become more focused and I am determined to do more with my life. I have been job hunting and praying HARD. Keep your chin up chica and I will keep you in my prayers-you are worth soo much more than you know and you will realize that soon!![/quote] --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I know that I'm blessed and I know that God's Grace has gotten this far, because I should have been a stastic a long time ago....it's just I feel useless... When I was interning in PR...I was good, I was happy because I was doing something that I loved....but now I sit at cube all day and beg people to enroll in school...its depressing.... I'm on a final write-up at my job....I have to convince people OVER THE PHONE to spend $30,000 in 24 hours (sometimes less than that)....and if I dont hit my numbers I lose my job..... I keep praying to God to please either provide with another a job or instill me some happines while I'm here....so far he's taking his time, LOL!!![/quote] Southern...I know it may sound corny to say keep praying...but that is what I believe! I try not to get too personal on here but let me tell you my life has not been easy either. My eldest brother was soo smart but developed a drug habit and it was downhill from there. I found out my mom had cancer before I started law school and in my first semester right before finals my eldest brother died. I went to the funeral came back and did my finals and my mom died five months later. I lost my scholarship and I didn't know how I would make it but I refused to take a break, I finished and I passed the bar the first time I took it. Trust me when I tell you where I am is not where I thought I should be now...but I truly believe God has a purpose and a plan. I beleive he is working things out for me right now...even before I see that new job and he will work things out for you too. Just PRAY mama and do NOT give up!!!! God has a purpose and a plan for Southernbella!!!!!!!![/quote] Read my post :smile:

[quote comment="275095"][quote comment="275065"][quote comment="275049"][quote comment="274985"][quote comment="274976"][quote comment="274953"][quote comment="274918"][quote comment="274913"][quote comment="274884"]Good morning everyone. Hey Yetta I'm glad your well. Missed ya! I'm just peeking in. Busy day today. I get to give a location for ol Girl, effective Monday! Am I too excited about this or what. :???: It really is sad that I'm having to do this, but with Change comes resistance & consequence; so the whole staff should just build a bridge and get over it. OBAMA Baby! Anywho, everyone have a wonderful Friday! Check with ya'll later.[/quote] Yup - you need to have her work alongside Tanquisha & Aquanetta for good measure, lol.[/quote] Randmon Information but I went to school with a girl named Daquiri![/quote] :shock: Makes no sense, when i was pregnant with my son I bought a Black baby name book, took me FOREVER to pick his name! Don't people know that your child has to live with this name for the rest of their lives? They did a study on 20/20 that showed prospective employers purposely passed over certain applications after reading the applicants name!! Damn, give the child a fighting chance in life![/quote] My boys names are Elijah, Tariq and Jalen. The employers will know they are black but its not Daquiri! lol[/quote] I love the name Elijah for a boy!! Those are nice names. And I agree with Les. Black folk need to stop naming these babies after cars, lotions and condiments. For real.[/quote] LMAO@ lotions.hehhehhhehehehe my kids names are Sun, Sky and Syncere[/quote] OHHHHHH, those are beautiful names!!! Especially Syncere. :D[/quote] sun is my eldest boy syncere is my daughter and then my youngest sun is sky[/quote] OneLife, I am so sorry but I think I may steal your youngest sons name. I think it will go well with Dakota.. Dakota Sky..has a nice ring to it!!!

[quote comment="274892"][quote comment="274865"][quote comment="274854"]them YT people be wilding out!!! Lol, just finished watching the Real World trailor.......i never understood the breaking dishes, breaking furniture thingy while having an argument! So nowwwwwwwww, once you calm down, don't you have to: A. clean it up or B. buy it back?!?!? That is NOT therapeutic for me, sorry! Plus (even if it's my own ish that i bought) i think i would still be looking over my shoulder for my mother to come bust my azz for breaking something, lol.[/quote] I did that once. Got in an argument with my boyfriend at the time. Threw all the stuff he bought in the house in the middle of the living room floor. Told him to get out. And its true once we made up I had to help pick allll that shit up and replace the shit I broke. I was younger then I wont ever do that again. lol[/quote] See, my ex used to do that dumb ish.. I used to look at him and want to laugh so bad, but that nigga was crazy, so I had to hold it in...So when all was said and done..he had to go in the room with his dunce cap on and clean up everything!!![/quote] Yeah I'm embarassed by my actions but he had gotten me so mad! I actually did all the throwing after I couldn't successfully choke him the way I wanted to. I used to have a reallllll bad temper.

[quote comment="275117"][quote comment="275076"][quote comment="275034"]Well it seems that I can put my degree to use for a few moments. Hope this helps everyone. For whatever you do or want to do I want all of you to write down a plan. 1.I want you to write down your dreams first and then break them down into goals. ( they are different if you take a few moments to think of the steps you need to take). 2. Take those goals and divide them into short and long term. 3. Be realistic of what you're writing and be accepting of where you are in relation to where you want to go. 4. Keep everything SMART. Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, and Timely. 5. Do not be afraid to make changes as needed. Everything is process. Accepting that is critical to moving forward. 6. Pray, believe and have faith. If you can think it it can happen.[/quote] Ok, I know it sounds like something off of a infomercial, but here's whats next. 7. Put God first(duh?), And then when it comes to you put your life in order of what you want. i.e ( diet, career, baby) or (career, car, man0. 8. Focus your energy on the first thing on your "you" list. This is what you pray for, volunteer for, ask questions about, save for, sacrifice for, until you reach it. Then move to the next. (life itself is a multitasking event but direct energy can only go to one thing at a time.) 2 more things coming up soon.:smile:[/quote] 9. To not be depressed I want all of you to say right now - "I cannot change this very minute of my life but what I think and do from this point forward can change my entire future" Think of this constantly. I.E.-When the chick at the register gets flip- You cannot change that but if you say "thank you and have a blessed day" it changes what could have happened. 10. This one is very important. Give something of yourself everyday. A compliment or a prayer. Even if you feel like crap. For each person you come into contact with give them a gift of you even if it's just a smile, or a silent "god please bless them today" It will make you feel tremendous. I promise, I promise, I promise. Start today and see.[/quote] EXCELLENT ADVISE........i just printed all this out and whoever said money doesnt make u happy was completely RIGHT. I took a paycut last year to start a career path that i love and is definetly less stressful to make a happy enviroment for my family. But we all have relatives that has no "get up & go" in them and they seem to be better off but, u cant look at them. U have to stay focused on what u want out of life and keep GOD first.

[quote comment="275124"][quote comment="275083"][quote comment="275056"][quote comment="275037"][quote comment="274975"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] damn....we are so here *pointing at the eyes* I don't have my masters yet but I racked up enough loans in undergrad to be working a this BS job I have. I need a career. I'm 28 and I get so depressed I stop eating.[/quote] *les923 wishing she could EVER be THAT depressed* lol[/quote] ------------------------------------------------------------------------ OK, LOL!!! I either want to eat, get high or get drunk...all which leads to gaining weight!!![/quote] What field are you in?[/quote] I have a BS is Sport Management and a double minor in Business Administration and Communication. At the time I was in school, it's what I thought I wanted to do. I have never had a job in my field nor do I want one. I currently work in the IS department for a pipe, valve, and fitting company where I do nothing all day. The work I do, do, is easy and does not engage my mind. And right now I htink I'm to the point that I honestly don't know what I want to do. I don't know what I'm good at. Yeah, I have office skills, excellent oral and written communication skills(although it may not show on here all the time :) yada, yada, yada... I do know that I don't want to sit behind a desk all day in front of a computer which has been what all my jobs have been. I want to branch out into something different. I think I want to become a special educaion teacher and ultimately become a diagnostician.[/quote] ========-------------------------------------------------------------------- I really want to work with at rish youth...I feel like I have been through so much in my life that I HAVE to give back some of what God has blessed me with.... But I have two problems I need to go back to school AND I cant get no FA to pay for it.... Thank ya'll for ya'll's kind words....I know I can always come in a vent!!!!

[quote comment="274866"][quote comment="274845"]Good morning lovlies...miss me yesterday.. I know, I know!! :P I had to take a break from this job... Didn't feel like coming in... Anyways..... Chili..nooooooo....Why ma? You don't need a show like this.... Well, whatever floats ya boat...[/quote] hey girl we miss ya yesterday[/quote] You still on that BS. I bet you ain't sleep last night praying he would bust down that bedroom door & just take it Mike Tyson style, lol.

I see everyone is talking about Chili & Soulja boy, But I'm a Real World fan and wanna know if anyone watched the trailer and had an idea of who the "transgendered" person is?!!!!! I couldn't spot em!

[quote comment="275330"]@ Rainy and Dat Chick: How y'all go'ne BOND without me?!?! I'm JEALOUS!!!!!![/quote] passing her a cup of cocoa with angel henney! :lol: **i'll make you a slanket to if that okay with dat chick but i'll use diffrent rhinstones and glow in the dark puff paint

[quote comment="275143"][quote comment="275044"][quote comment="274994"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] Awww...I understand EXACTLY how you feel. I had a rough few years and I think I have been depressed since my mom (who was my HEART) died a few years ago. I have loans the size of a mortgage. I left a job that I loooved because it did not pay well and now I am working in a job I don't like with people I don't like. But lately my whole outlook has been changing...the other morning I passed an older black woman sleeping on the side of the street and it really struck me just how blessed I am. I have become more focused and I am determined to do more with my life. I have been job hunting and praying HARD. Keep your chin up chica and I will keep you in my prayers-you are worth soo much more than you know and you will realize that soon!![/quote] --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I know that I'm blessed and I know that God's Grace has gotten this far, because I should have been a stastic a long time ago....it's just I feel useless... When I was interning in PR...I was good, I was happy because I was doing something that I loved....but now I sit at cube all day and beg people to enroll in school...its depressing.... I'm on a final write-up at my job....I have to convince people OVER THE PHONE to spend $30,000 in 24 hours (sometimes less than that)....and if I dont hit my numbers I lose my job..... I keep praying to God to please either provide with another a job or instill me some happines while I'm here....so far he's taking his time, LOL!!![/quote] Southern...I know it may sound corny to say keep praying...but that is what I believe! I try not to get too personal on here but let me tell you my life has not been easy either. My eldest brother was soo smart but developed a drug habit and it was downhill from there. I found out my mom had cancer before I started law school and in my first semester right before finals my eldest brother died. I went to the funeral came back and did my finals and my mom died five months later. I lost my scholarship and I didn't know how I would make it but I refused to take a break, I finished and I passed the bar the first time I took it. Trust me when I tell you where I am is not where I thought I should be now...but I truly believe God has a purpose and a plan. I beleive he is working things out for me right now...even before I see that new job and he will work things out for you too. Just PRAY mama and do NOT give up!!!! God has a purpose and a plan for Southernbella!!!!!!!![/quote] Oh my GOD Kimmy. I'm sooooo sorry to hear that. God knows my mom is my rock and my siblings are like an extra set of arms for me. SoutherBella girl keep ya head up please. *I'm so serious* I've felt EXACTLY like you and it's hard sometimes, especially when you are spending majority of your time in a place that steals your joy. I'm praying for you.

[quote comment="275156"][quote comment="275143"][quote comment="275044"][quote comment="274994"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] Awww...I understand EXACTLY how you feel. I had a rough few years and I think I have been depressed since my mom (who was my HEART) died a few years ago. I have loans the size of a mortgage. I left a job that I loooved because it did not pay well and now I am working in a job I don't like with people I don't like. But lately my whole outlook has been changing...the other morning I passed an older black woman sleeping on the side of the street and it really struck me just how blessed I am. I have become more focused and I am determined to do more with my life. I have been job hunting and praying HARD. Keep your chin up chica and I will keep you in my prayers-you are worth soo much more than you know and you will realize that soon!![/quote] --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I know that I'm blessed and I know that God's Grace has gotten this far, because I should have been a stastic a long time ago....it's just I feel useless... When I was interning in PR...I was good, I was happy because I was doing something that I loved....but now I sit at cube all day and beg people to enroll in school...its depressing.... I'm on a final write-up at my job....I have to convince people OVER THE PHONE to spend $30,000 in 24 hours (sometimes less than that)....and if I dont hit my numbers I lose my job..... I keep praying to God to please either provide with another a job or instill me some happines while I'm here....so far he's taking his time, LOL!!![/quote] Southern...I know it may sound corny to say keep praying...but that is what I believe! I try not to get too personal on here but let me tell you my life has not been easy either. My eldest brother was soo smart but developed a drug habit and it was downhill from there. I found out my mom had cancer before I started law school and in my first semester right before finals my eldest brother died. I went to the funeral came back and did my finals and my mom died five months later. I lost my scholarship and I didn't know how I would make it but I refused to take a break, I finished and I passed the bar the first time I took it. Trust me when I tell you where I am is not where I thought I should be now...but I truly believe God has a purpose and a plan. I beleive he is working things out for me right now...even before I see that new job and he will work things out for you too. Just PRAY mama and do NOT give up!!!! God has a purpose and a plan for Southernbella!!!!!!!![/quote] Read my post :smile:[/quote] -------------------------------------------------------------------------- I'm crying at my desk.....

[quote comment="274892"][quote comment="274865"][quote comment="274854"]them YT people be wilding out!!! Lol, just finished watching the Real World trailor.......i never understood the breaking dishes, breaking furniture thingy while having an argument! So nowwwwwwwww, once you calm down, don't you have to: A. clean it up or B. buy it back?!?!? That is NOT therapeutic for me, sorry! Plus (even if it's my own ish that i bought) i think i would still be looking over my shoulder for my mother to come bust my azz for breaking something, lol.[/quote] I did that once. Got in an argument with my boyfriend at the time. Threw all the stuff he bought in the house in the middle of the living room floor. Told him to get out. And its true once we made up I had to help pick allll that shit up and replace the shit I broke. I was younger then I wont ever do that again. lol[/quote] See, my ex used to do that dumb ish.. I used to look at him and want to laugh so bad, but that nigga was crazy, so I had to hold it in...So when all was said and done..he had to go in the room with his dunce cap on and clean up everything!!![/quote] ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ I get mad like that...I be wanna to punch stuff or kick stuff... It's me throwing a temper tantrum....and Yes I know I'm too old for that...but it makes me feel better!!!

[quote comment="275161"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] Bella let me tell you I UNDERSTAND!!! Sometimes I feel the same way. One day I'm carying on life as usual and the next I feel like such an ASS. I've been in school on and off you 8 years. I graduate next and I'm going straight for my M.S. I wasted so much time trying to make money instead of focusing on my education that now I need more money I can't until I finish. I feel like I'm too damn smart to only be where I am but then I look at my friends and I"m like I'm going to catch up. So I guess my advice to you is to suround yourself with successful people that care about you and KEEP GOD FIRST. Don't ever forget that!!! All things will fall right in place.[/quote] Hey Dat Chick! Did you read my post?

[quote comment="275657"][quote comment="275642"][quote comment="275582"][quote comment="275546"]Lord knows I don't want to offend anyone on here. Please don't hold my personal views against me. I really want the best for everyone, regardless of anything. And I do love everyone regardless as well.[/quote] Absolutely NOT! You are my YBF sista and you have grown a** children so I would in no way disrespect you. *my momma would slap piss outta me if I did* So it's all in love. *cyber hugs Mmmschel*[/quote] NEVER!!! I luvb[quote comment="275584"][quote comment="275566"][quote comment="275550"][quote comment="275528"][quote comment="275521"][quote comment="275505"][quote comment="275497"][quote comment="275489"][quote comment="275482"][quote comment="275450"][quote comment="275321"]saving is so hard esp when u HAVE extra money to spend u always seem to see something u want to buy![/quote] Ask yourself "Do you need it?" Simple. 3/4's of the shyt i've bought 2 - 5 years ago, i don't wear, don't like no more, am tired of - the list goes on. I remember for my last bday i said i'm gonna treat myself, i said i'm gonna treat myself & buy myself a bag. I didn't want the Speedy bag that ERRYBODY & their grandma had, plus so many of them are bootleg any damn way, so i bought the Louis Damier Alma for around a G. When i got the bag i sat around just looking at it. I think i was expecting to feel better about myself or i swear i don't know what i thought - but i still just felt like les923! I myself got caught up in name brands at one time or another but we CAN'T get caught up in it no more and half the damn time these stars that wear these things look a hot damn mess in it any damn way. buy things that matter! A home, a car, some life insurance, some stocks, a retirement fund, etc. THAT THE STUFF THAT MATTERS in the grand scheme of things. That's what will REALLY make you feel better inside![/quote] wow a G for a bag! I havent paid more than 120 for one and it was dooney and bourke. but i still wear it. whenever i shop i try to think "how often and for how long will i wear this". i agree with u 100% on buying things that matter..im almost done paying for my car and i was so excited and i said i was going to get me a brand new car..but i thought about it and said y go into debt with a new car. with that money i can save but a house and drive this one until the wheels fall off![/quote] A G for a bag?? Girl, let me hold something!!!!!!!!!!! :lol:[/quote] I guess I can't tell Les I want this LV bag for $2700.00 *don't yell I have a 2008 car and I'm about to settle on my first house*[/quote] Heeeeeey Ms. J.W. Gotrocks! Go'ne 'head then!!!!! :lol: For real, CONGRATS on the first house! That's GREAT! AND, Im'ma steal that LV bag from you at the SATC premiere! ...just get ready! :lol:[/quote] **just let me touch it... i'mma be like *touching it*** Mufasa...ohhh *touching it again*** Mufasa[/quote] I have a vision of you touching the bag and then shuddering and then touching it again! LMAO[/quote] I just want to smell it.. I know I like how my Old Navy bag smells and it's $14..so I know I'll love the smell of a $2700 bag!!!!!!!!!!! :P[/quote] Yall really making me wanna get that bag now. Yall suppossed to help me.[/quote] I don't advise you to get it, but like I said enjoy yourself. But ask yourself..will getting this bag really make me HAPPY, or is it just a temporary fix! Emotions are so fleeting, one minute you feel this way and the next minute, another. That is why we must never make a decision based on the way we feel at the moment. That is why I have so many tattoos that I regret.. :sad:[/quote] I never make purchases because of how I think they'll make me feel. I buy what I like, need, or want. When you use emotions for purchases you'll ALWAYS in up disappointed. But I still question some of my spending because I get out of hand. I justify it by saying when I get this house I'mma be broke. If I have that bag I cam touch and smell and remember when I had some playing money :lol:[/quote] Did you see my reply to you earlier? I hope you didn't take my comment as me saying you couldn't afford the bag, I just meant it to say I think if someone can afford something nothing wrong with buying it.[/quote] No No. :oops: Sorry I've been trying to reply to Yetta and keep Copwife away from the bag that I ain't even purchase yet, and make sure Les don't yell @ me for wanting to buy it that I forgot. It's all good I know what you meant. Thanks for checking on my feeling though. :lol:

[quote comment="275141"][quote comment="275077"]I live in the Atl, she probably should have took the show elsewhere. They have more fudge packers here than you can count. If they don't take dick, they most have likely sucked one.[/quote] Oh God, that visual :shock: so early in the morning, Geezus Khrist! If i break up with my man now i don't know what i'm gonna do! The pickings are might slim out there now.[/quote] very...everybody is either on drugs, gay, got some crazy ish going on in their lives, drama or something. It's scary to be single out here in this day and age.

[quote comment="274884"]Good morning everyone. Hey Yetta I'm glad your well. Missed ya! I'm just peeking in. Busy day today. I get to give a location for ol Girl, effective Monday! Am I too excited about this or what. :???: It really is sad that I'm having to do this, but with Change comes resistance & consequence; so the whole staff should just build a bridge and get over it. OBAMA Baby! Anywho, everyone have a wonderful Friday! Check with ya'll later.[/quote] Yup - you need to have her work alongside Tanquisha & Aquanetta for good measure, lol.

[quote comment="275157"][quote comment="275095"][quote comment="275065"][quote comment="275049"][quote comment="274985"][quote comment="274976"][quote comment="274953"][quote comment="274918"][quote comment="274913"][quote comment="274884"]Good morning everyone. Hey Yetta I'm glad your well. Missed ya! I'm just peeking in. Busy day today. I get to give a location for ol Girl, effective Monday! Am I too excited about this or what. :???: It really is sad that I'm having to do this, but with Change comes resistance & consequence; so the whole staff should just build a bridge and get over it. OBAMA Baby! Anywho, everyone have a wonderful Friday! Check with ya'll later.[/quote] Yup - you need to have her work alongside Tanquisha & Aquanetta for good measure, lol.[/quote] Randmon Information but I went to school with a girl named Daquiri![/quote] :shock: Makes no sense, when i was pregnant with my son I bought a Black baby name book, took me FOREVER to pick his name! Don't people know that your child has to live with this name for the rest of their lives? They did a study on 20/20 that showed prospective employers purposely passed over certain applications after reading the applicants name!! Damn, give the child a fighting chance in life![/quote] My boys names are Elijah, Tariq and Jalen. The employers will know they are black but its not Daquiri! lol[/quote] I love the name Elijah for a boy!! Those are nice names. And I agree with Les. Black folk need to stop naming these babies after cars, lotions and condiments. For real.[/quote] LMAO@ lotions.hehhehhhehehehe my kids names are Sun, Sky and Syncere[/quote] OHHHHHH, those are beautiful names!!! Especially Syncere. :D[/quote] sun is my eldest boy syncere is my daughter and then my youngest sun is sky[/quote] OneLife, I am so sorry but I think I may steal your youngest sons name. I think it will go well with Dakota.. Dakota Sky..has a nice ring to it!!![/quote] GO AHEAD THEN... I TOLD HIM THAT WHEN HE WAS BORN U ARE MY YOUNGEST SO PLEASE REACH FOR THE SKY..... CAUSE MOMMA TIRED OF WORKING...LOL

[quote comment="274909"][quote comment="274892"][quote comment="274865"][quote comment="274854"]them YT people be wilding out!!! Lol, just finished watching the Real World trailor.......i never understood the breaking dishes, breaking furniture thingy while having an argument! So nowwwwwwwww, once you calm down, don't you have to: A. clean it up or B. buy it back?!?!? That is NOT therapeutic for me, sorry! Plus (even if it's my own ish that i bought) i think i would still be looking over my shoulder for my mother to come bust my azz for breaking something, lol.[/quote] I did that once. Got in an argument with my boyfriend at the time. Threw all the stuff he bought in the house in the middle of the living room floor. Told him to get out. And its true once we made up I had to help pick allll that shit up and replace the shit I broke. I was younger then I wont ever do that again. lol[/quote] See, my ex used to do that dumb ish.. I used to look at him and want to laugh so bad, but that nigga was crazy, so I had to hold it in...So when all was said and done..he had to go in the room with his dunce cap on and clean up everything!!![/quote] ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ I get mad like that...I be wanna to punch stuff or kick stuff... It's me throwing a temper tantrum....and Yes I know I'm too old for that...but it makes me feel better!!![/quote] :shock: Girl, you better get to praying instead of kicking... There aren't any regrets after a good prayer!!!!!!!

:sad: Y'all left me in the last post!

[quote comment="275420"][quote comment="275330"]@ Rainy and Dat Chick: How y'all go'ne BOND without me?!?! I'm JEALOUS!!!!!![/quote] passing her a cup of cocoa with angel henney! :lol: **i'll make you a slanket to if that okay with dat chick but i'll use diffrent rhinstones and glow in the dark puff paint[/quote] Yes, please do! I want one too! :oops: ...acting like a baby and returning to normal, coming back from The Hulk moment!!!

[quote comment="275160"][quote comment="275124"][quote comment="275083"][quote comment="275056"][quote comment="275037"][quote comment="274975"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] damn....we are so here *pointing at the eyes* I don't have my masters yet but I racked up enough loans in undergrad to be working a this BS job I have. I need a career. I'm 28 and I get so depressed I stop eating.[/quote] *les923 wishing she could EVER be THAT depressed* lol[/quote] ------------------------------------------------------------------------ OK, LOL!!! I either want to eat, get high or get drunk...all which leads to gaining weight!!![/quote] What field are you in?[/quote] I have a BS is Sport Management and a double minor in Business Administration and Communication. At the time I was in school, it's what I thought I wanted to do. I have never had a job in my field nor do I want one. I currently work in the IS department for a pipe, valve, and fitting company where I do nothing all day. The work I do, do, is easy and does not engage my mind. And right now I htink I'm to the point that I honestly don't know what I want to do. I don't know what I'm good at. Yeah, I have office skills, excellent oral and written communication skills(although it may not show on here all the time :) yada, yada, yada... I do know that I don't want to sit behind a desk all day in front of a computer which has been what all my jobs have been. I want to branch out into something different. I think I want to become a special educaion teacher and ultimately become a diagnostician.[/quote] ========-------------------------------------------------------------------- I really want to work with at rish youth...I feel like I have been through so much in my life that I HAVE to give back some of what God has blessed me with.... But I have two problems I need to go back to school AND I cant get no FA to pay for it.... Thank ya'll for ya'll's kind words....I know I can always come in a vent!!!![/quote] Here is an idea. I don't know how your schedule is but if you are interested in working with at-risk kids you can try to find out about non-profit organizations in your city and become a mentor. You dont have to go back to school for that.

[quote comment="275118"]Man sounds like one of you is describing a guy I know. Initials SM? You can answer under another screen name.[/quote] SM - stands for Same Motherfucker! THEY ARE ALL THE SAME! It's all a test! They test us to see if we are gonna put up with the BS! We gotta take a stand and not put up with it. I see it like this.......When is a man gonna bring his "A" game to us when we settle for his "C" game?

[quote comment="274902"][quote comment="274892"][quote comment="274865"][quote comment="274854"]them YT people be wilding out!!! Lol, just finished watching the Real World trailor.......i never understood the breaking dishes, breaking furniture thingy while having an argument! So nowwwwwwwww, once you calm down, don't you have to: A. clean it up or B. buy it back?!?!? That is NOT therapeutic for me, sorry! Plus (even if it's my own ish that i bought) i think i would still be looking over my shoulder for my mother to come bust my azz for breaking something, lol.[/quote] I did that once. Got in an argument with my boyfriend at the time. Threw all the stuff he bought in the house in the middle of the living room floor. Told him to get out. And its true once we made up I had to help pick allll that shit up and replace the shit I broke. I was younger then I wont ever do that again. lol[/quote] See, my ex used to do that dumb ish.. I used to look at him and want to laugh so bad, but that nigga was crazy, so I had to hold it in...So when all was said and done..he had to go in the room with his dunce cap on and clean up everything!!![/quote] Yeah I'm embarassed by my actions but he had gotten me so mad! I actually did all the throwing after I couldn't successfully choke him the way I wanted to. I used to have a reallllll bad temper.[/quote] Well it's good that you acknowledge and hopefully have grown out of it. I used to always slap the shit outta my first, break his cell phone, burn his clothes, key car, whatever. But the hitting thing is a NO-NO. One time I slapped him and he slapped my a** right back! I NEVER put my hands on him again. I had a friend who used to stay hitting on her baby dad and then call the cops when he start giving her licks! I told her thouhg, keep yo hands to yourself. Too many times females think because we're females we can hit our men. No you cannot. And I told her, he's got two sisters. If they come over here and box the sh*t out of you, you can't say nothing cause I know NO chick can touch my bro and he doesn't hit females.

[quote comment="275164"][quote comment="275156"][quote comment="275143"][quote comment="275044"][quote comment="274994"][quote comment="274956"]I think I need to see a therapist...I think I'm suffering depression...seriously.... I depressed about the fact that I'm 27, and I'm not where I'm suppose to be.... I feel like I got master's degree for nothing, because now I have a bunch of student loans and bulls$it a$$ job that I DESPISE!!!! My guy is always saying that I should be grateful and happy that I have a job, yadda yadda...but I feel like a failure....I cried today at work because I'm so depressed!!![/quote] Awww...I understand EXACTLY how you feel. I had a rough few years and I think I have been depressed since my mom (who was my HEART) died a few years ago. I have loans the size of a mortgage. I left a job that I loooved because it did not pay well and now I am working in a job I don't like with people I don't like. But lately my whole outlook has been changing...the other morning I passed an older black woman sleeping on the side of the street and it really struck me just how blessed I am. I have become more focused and I am determined to do more with my life. I have been job hunting and praying HARD. Keep your chin up chica and I will keep you in my prayers-you are worth soo much more than you know and you will realize that soon!![/quote] --------------------------------------------------------------------------- I know that I'm blessed and I know that God's Grace has gotten this far, because I should have been a stastic a long time ago....it's just I feel useless... When I was interning in PR...I was good, I was happy because I was doing something that I loved....but now I sit at cube all day and beg people to enroll in school...its depressing.... I'm on a final write-up at my job....I have to convince people OVER THE PHONE to spend $30,000 in 24 hours (sometimes less than that)....and if I dont hit my numbers I lose my job..... I keep praying to God to please either provide with another a job or instill me some happines while I'm here....so far he's taking his time, LOL!!![/quote] Southern...I know it may sound corny to say keep praying...but that is what I believe! I try not to get too personal on here but let me tell you my life has not been easy either. My eldest brother was soo smart but developed a drug habit and it was downhill from there. I found out my mom had cancer before I started law school and in my first semester right before finals my eldest brother died. I went to the funeral came back and did my finals and my mom died five months later. I lost my scholarship and I didn't know how I would make it but I refused to take a break, I finished and I passed the bar the first time I took it. Trust me when I tell you where I am is not where I thought I should be now...but I truly believe God has a purpose and a plan. I beleive he is working things out for me right now...even before I see that new job and he will work things out for you too. Just PRAY mama and do NOT give up!!!! God has a purpose and a plan for Southernbella!!!!!!!![/quote] Read my post :smile:[/quote] -------------------------------------------------------------------------- I'm crying at my desk.....[/quote] *wishes I could come and hug you*

I wonder how many of you would feel if Natasha said that all black women have attitudes and are difficult to deal with, or that all black people are stupid and inferior to other races or that all black men are ignorant and are either criminals or lazy. Or that half the women in Atlanta Metro area are gay or what not. You wouldn't like it. First because it is a stereotype and second because it is an untrue and offensive stereotype. Normally I just come here to read the funny comments and look at the photos but sh*t right here is so damn offensive. We elect a black powerful and intelligent black president and yet you still have people in our own community spewing negative and false stereotypes for "laughs and giggles".