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Chris Brown May Get NO Jail Time+Text Message Ignites Fight+Rihanna Cancels MORE Ish

Our friends in the L.A. division of the U.S. Attorney's Office (who actually takes on most of the cases of the Los Angeles County District Attorney) tell us Chris Brown very likely won't be popped with any jail time after the assault fall out with Rihanna.  Why, you ask?  We're told  the LAPD & D.A.'s office tend to fall back on domestic violence cases.  Apparently if couples are attempting to work problems out themselves, victims historically become more forgiving, therefore leading to them dropping charges.  Of course, other types of consequences are pretty likely.  Very interesting... In other news, LAPD sent the DA's office all the evidence they had against Chris; however, the DA's office sent the case back to the LAPD.  We're told the reasoning is not only to "work on it more", but at this time there is currently not enough evidence to charge Chris with.  Apparently the D.A.'s office was attempting to nab him with domestic violence, battery, and a whole slew of other charges. And LAPD now confirms that Chris Brown received a text message from a woman while he was driving with Rihanna and that's what started the confrontation that left Rihanna battered and bruised. The person who texted Chris is NOT a rapper, even though a rapper is spoken about in the police report. More ish when you read the rest... Chris' Lamborghini was dusted for prints when it was brought to the impound.  This is the car the assault incident allegedly happened in. Meanwhile, Rihanna reportedly pulled out of her show in Jakarta, scheduled for tonight, citing “an assault case involving Rihanna’s boyfriend.”  This is just the latest in the several events she and Chris have been pulling out of. And by the way, I told y'all, right here, that this picture would cause drama. Now folks are saying part of Rihanna's pissiness was because Paris was all over her man that night. SMDH.
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well i think q man shouldnt

well i think q man shouldnt put they hand on a women but i think a women shoulsnt hit a man if you hit a man then you asking for it you know no one going to let you hit them and dont get hit back so i think everybody need to let this go because we dont know what happen noone know but them two as for jail i dont think he should get jail time let him get help what is jail going to do nothing as for j-z worried about your wife chris was her man not you chris i love you, you will be alright
monica's picture

OK DIS IS MAKIN ME MAD EVERY1

OK DIS IS MAKIN ME MAD EVERY1 IS ACTING LIKE CHRIS KILLED RIHANNA DAMN OK I KNOW WHAT HE DID WAS WRONG OK YEA HE SHOULD GET A PUNISHMENT BUT ONLY HE AND SHE KNOW WAT REALLY HAPPEN NOT THE AMERICA SO LEAVE CHRIS BROWN ALONE LET HIM BE GET OUT OF HIS LIFE HE DIDNT KILL RIHANNA SO STOP ALL THE BLOGS AND TV SHOWS CUZ ITS NOT WORTH ALL OF IT JUST FALL BACK OK DANG N TO JAY Z YOU NOT GONE KILL NO CB SO JUST FALL BACK LIL BUDDY
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Well the way I look at this.I

Well the way I look at this.I pray that all ladies should look at your man and if he puts his hands on you (well the ball would be in your court. This man is a time bomb. Now I want her to put his butt in jail and let Bubba spank his ass. I hope she will file charges on him. This way he will think next time (yes next time) because it will be a next time and let's hope it's not YOU.....
Henry W's picture

Well the way I look at this.I

Well the way I look at this.I pray that all ladies should look at your man and if he puts his hands on you (well the ball would be in your court. This man is a time bomb. Now I want her to put his butt in jail and let Bubba spank his ass. I hope she will file charges on him. This way he will think next time (yes next time) because it will be a next time and let hope it's not YOU.....
Henry W's picture

[quote comment="422726"]I

[quote comment="422726"]I just want to know what kind of society we live in where a man can beat a woman nearly to death and not receive jail time! Our legal system is pathetic for that. I don't care if a couple is trying to work it out, the fact hands were laid on a woman is enough for at least some time in a cell to think about your actions. Its sad that robbers and thieves face harsher penalties than women-beaters. Does anyone feel the same way I do?[/quote] FUCC CHRIS BROWN, tha reason he beat her ass is cuz hes a punk ass bitch and cant step up tp a man so he went to the next best and beat a women. Its people like him who bring u niggers a bad name.
RUZN's picture

[quote comment="422789"]In

[quote comment="422789"]In order for a man (Chris Brown or any man)to truly love another living being-he must come to the conclusion that he has the capacity to love another as he loves himself! If he inwardly hates himself, he will outwardly hate another. Most troubled individuals are very artistic in music, art, singing ad sports, etc. We all try to make a genuine connection with ourselves, others, and with the Universe. Whenever this fails or we fill betrayed or let down by one or even the other, then we open ourselves to a spirit of violence or retailiation. It is waiting for an opportunity to interrupt sound reason and wisdom. A. Terrance[/quote]
Gabriel's picture

[quote comment="422789"]In

[quote comment="422789"]In order for a man (Chris Brown or any man)to truly love another living being-he must come to the conclusion that he has the capacity to love another as he loves himself! If he inwardlyahimself, he will outwardly hate another. Most troubled individuals are very artistic in music, art, singing ad sports, etc. We all try to make a genuine connection with ourselves, others, and with the Universe. Whenever this fails or we fill betrayed or let down by one or even the other, then we open ourselves to a spirit of violence or retailiation. It is waiting for an opportunity to interrupt sound reason and wisdom. A. Terrance[/quote]
Gabriel's picture

If this was two regular

If this was two regular people no one would really care so just leave it that way, people get into situations like this all the time but all they get is five minutes of fame see for them to have a blog this damn long means you just put more money in there pocket so while you care so much remember this for your relationship as well. Let Movie stars and Singer and anyone else have there life and remember they are people just like you just with more money
Kory Drake's picture

To those who keep hating on

To those who keep hating on Chris, cut the man some freaking slack. “You can leave the country, but u can’t take the country out of urself” She’s acting like a freaking trick. Ole stank trying to take the man down for what, she dan used to getting beatings from back home, what the F***. I HOPE HE NEVER GOES BACK WITH HER.
"D"'s picture

To those who keep hating on

To those who keep hating on Chris, cut the man some freaking slack. "You can leave the country, but u can't tale the country out of urself" She's acting like a freaking trick. Ole stank trying to take the man down for what, she dan used to to beatings from back home, what the F***. I HOPE HE NEVER GOES BACK WITH HER.
"D"'s picture

I meant not, typing fast...

I meant not, typing fast...
WTF!!!!'s picture

To D, Mom, and all you dumb

To D, Mom, and all you dumb ass individuals defending Chris Brown...I don't give a damn if she swallowed his keys, HE HAS NO RIGHT, and I MEAN NO RIGHT to beat her down like that?!? He bit her, she had lumps on her head, bruises, and then he threatened to kill her? Choked her until she was unconscious (didn't know if she was dead or night) and burnt off?!? And you guys are saying give him a second chance, and "GO CHRIS" and all this shit? What is this world coming to? True women can go far, because I am a woman myself...I don't care what she did to him, it don't take all that...if he got the strength enough to choke her till she unconcious then he could of put her out the car and drove off...I would've perferred that than damn near killing her!!! Ya'll people are insensitive and "star struck" by Chris Brown goofy ass...they are still humans people!!! Think about if that was your mother or sister!!!!
WTF!!!!'s picture

it ok

it ok baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
eircka's picture

Rihanna needs to get a grip.

Rihanna needs to get a grip. I'm a woman and I DON'T AGREE with Chris's hitting on her, but she provoked it. How she gonna disrespect the man by throwing his keys, SHIT I would have gobe frantic on her ass too. HE DAMN RIGHT, SHE NEEDED A REALITY CHECK AND SHE GOT IT.The man don't want a possessive biatch. Chris, my boy, en worry urself with dat girl, enjoy urself, take time, I'm sure u gon find a nice black girl that will make u forget 'bout what this chick tried and is trying to do to u. She damn lost her mind cuz u ain't want her Ass.
"D"'s picture

wtf, first off, rihanna has

wtf, first off, rihanna has no reason to be jealous of loosey goosey paris..and if she is, shes a dummy! Secondly,why are they dusting for fingerprints...we ALL know Chris was driving the car..what evidence are they trying to collect! What a circus this is becoming already and its been all of what..5 days? hmm
Miss. Tiandez Jones's picture

This is a response

This is a response *SIGH*....I ABSOLUTLEY AGREE WITH EVERY WORD U SAID. HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD. DON'T RUN YOUR MOUTH IF U CAN'T TAKE THE CONSEQUENCES
London Girl's picture

you see that prick paris,

you see that prick paris, rihanna shudda cut her nicely
Jeba's picture

If it was Beyonce I would be

If it was Beyonce I would be upset cos she is sweet and humble but Ri Ri seems completely full of herself sorry.
London Girl's picture

No man would ever wanna slap

No man would ever wanna slap me mate cos I would never push a guy to his absolute limit, but I still stand by what I said.Her ego is as massive as her forehead sorry to any Rihanna fans it's true she needs to humble herself.
London Girl's picture

In reference to the CBrown

In reference to the CBrown and Paris picture and people saying rihanna we mad about that...IS NOT TRUE. That photo was taken while he was walking by Paris & Nicky Hilton's table upstairs in vip at the blackberry party Friday night. Everyone was speaking to each other and gave hugs, and took photos. He then continued on through the party before posting up with Omarion to watch Rihanna's performance. Paris was NOT all over him and he wasn't even by the girl the rest of the night. Some people just need to stfu and stop making up rumors and speculating cause they don't kno jack ish about the situation.
virgalicious's picture

[quote comment="423217"]Chris

[quote comment="423217"]Chris does not need to make a public apology to make a public apology is to admit he's guilty of something. Hell no let this shit play out. If she attacked him first it will come to light. Everybody got so much to say like they were in the relationship with them. Never get in between a couple because today they hate each other and tonight with in bed together.....please lets what for the real story to come out. Its nevera ok to beat on a woman but its ok to defend yourself and thats just what he did defend himself.[/quote] Did you really just say "Everybody got so much to say like they were in the relationship with them" and "Its nevera ok to beat on a woman but its ok to defend yourself and thats just what he did defend himself" in the same post? Isn't that last comment exactly the type of thing you're saying everybody shouldn't be doing in the first comment? :roll:
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[quote

[quote comment="422722"]everybody is down chris' back like he's a bad person i mean s*&t happens and futher more she probably did something stupid and a female should now her place if you step to a man and wanna fight like a man you gon get yo ass whooped like a man and don't cry later like you don't know what happened. she know what happened now wanna play innocent b@*ch please. i know how females are i am one.[/quote] Learn how to write a complete sentence. I'd call you illiterate, but you obviously are in need of more serious help. Stop picking up the pen to criticize if you can't even spell or form a complete sentence.
YoMama's picture

A CARIBBEAN WHORE SCORNED IS

A CARIBBEAN WHORE SCORNED IS A HELL OF A B8TCH. LET THAT BE A LESSON TO YOU BOYS. STAY AWAY STAY FAR AWAY.
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I know a woman who struck

I know a woman who struck another woman and than promptly got her a** royalty kicked by the woman martial arts style. These two females were thoroughly mix-matched, BUT, because they were 2 females people actually thought this was a fair fight. I believe that human beings should not assult other human beings. Period. It does not matter if it is 2 men, 2 women, or a man and a women. I don't give women no free pass just because they are women. I've seen some women do some stupid things, push all of the wrong buttons and suffer the beat down. When a person goes into a rage, gender notwithstanding, they are venting and releasing that rage and, trust me, they are not thinking gender as they pound into your face. The brain DOES NOT perceive gender, it perceives THREAT, and to protect itself at all cost. You don't begin to realized your actions until AFTER the fact. It's so easy for EVERYONE to play Monday morning quarterback. Pick your battles wisely. Volatile emotions and reactions can cause you to get your a** kicked. And, by-the-by, Jay-Z sounds dumb.
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everyone is talking about

everyone is talking about chris like he's a woman beater. Yes he did beat her ass... No one was there...so we dont know if she hit him first!!!(Personaly i think she did) if the news was that Rihanna beat chris browns ass people would not be going this hard i would prob' be a joke but anyway I say everyone should keep they hands to their self. and females be takin this " men are not supposto hit Women" thing to another level. I dont care im going to tell my son all of that but im also going to tell him if she hits u and harass u let sum one kno... and if that person does nothing. and she does it numerous amounts of time Hit her ass back... that will teach her not to hit men.
Ms. Diva's picture

[quote comment="423695"]Chris

[quote comment="423695"]Chris will not give his career up like that .....Rihanna had to of hit him first....[/quote] i kno dats damn right.
dee dee's picture

i feel bad 4 chris. even tho

i feel bad 4 chris. even tho i haven't been feelin him lately it still sucks. everybody is down his throat. i bet if Rhi had hit him he would look like a chump n ppl would have ben like he should have hit her bac. so....i mean u gotta look at it 4rm both sides. i fell that if u let the right person get u upset to the point you feel like hitting them, 9 times out of 10 u will n dats prob wat happened. now im not saying wat chris did was right but Rhi pushed da wrong button n got STUCK!lol
dee dee's picture

Chris will not give his

Chris will not give his career up like that .....Rihanna had to of hit him first....
clewis's picture

datz wat rihanna get!!! Chris

datz wat rihanna get!!! Chris Brown Do Ya Thing u a Real n***A!
LaToya's picture

The problem in this

The problem in this relationship is that Chris Brown wanted to have his cake and eat it too, like most men, with the cheating ..he was selfish. If it is that he wanted to date other women just end the relationship with her and move on...dont try and juggle several at the same time especially since he was doing such a bad job at being a player and she wanted to have him on lock down. Dont try to use her for publicity to take her to Grammys or on tour, because she may look more like a trophy wife than ur jump-off's, and is better for the photo ops and help u get more money in ticket sales or boost ur publicity. and worse of all dont try to beat her, into her place of submitting to being in a relationship where she should accept that kind of behaviour. He needs a Madea in his life to teach him a thing or two. He was dating Rihanna or wanted to appear to do so and be with others at the same time. If he is creeping while wanting to keep up appearances do it on the low...... he is so brazen and thoughtless with things how did he expect things to end up.
Jessica's picture

man fuck this piece of news,

man fuck this piece of news, it's stupid, they are both self centered, the whole world revolved around us type of couple, I don't care if they beat each other to death, what you do in the dark comes to light, from friendship to boyfriend and girlfriend... poor rihanna my ass, it's obvious she was way too experienced for Chris, when they first hooked up she was fuckin around with Josh Harnett, tellin everybody they were about to be engaged, and he had a fiance, she was fucking the little boy from transformers and indiana jones, and I still believe she was fucking Jay-Z, she looks like she can pop off when she wants to. I had a cuzin who had a woman whippin his ass or at least punching and slapping him around, he couldn't take it anymore and broke her ass down proper, I don't condone domestic violence but some sistas think they can fight like men or that they can hit on men and the men are always supposed to take it or walk away, fuck that, equal rights, equal ass whippings, call me ignorant I don't give a damn, but some women don't know when to leave well enough alone. Chris don't look like he can hold his own against a dude, and yeah he's pussy if he hit her, and he shouldn't have stayed with her once she started showing this side of her, but couples do that because love definitely blinds their asses until the police are involved. He's stupid, he should have waited for some little girl actor to grow up or waited on KeKe Palmer or the other young singer who are more his speed, Stupid ass negroes, another brother who had it all and threw it away on some bullshit!!!
**SIGH**....SMDH's picture

[quote

[quote comment="422779"][quote comment="422722"]everybody is down chris' back like he's a bad person i mean s*&t happens and futher more she probably did something stupid and a female should now her place if you step to a man and wanna fight like a man you gon get yo ass whooped like a man and don't cry later like you don't know what happened. she know what happened now wanna play innocent b@*ch please. i know how females are i am one.[/quote] I agree & No Nobody saying it's ok to hit a women,But iam so tired of eveyone acting like this is the whole story, It's more to this story but of couse eveyone is going to belive the worse.I personally Know a couple who fights she stays threating to call the police & deportation office,lol but they stay making up.Basically what iam saying is Getting Abuse & Fighting are two diff things. I say stop this mess both women & men & i really hope rihanna & Chris learn from this,Young Luv is crazy,Glad iam over that.[/quote] NO i think that is so wrong. Yes this may have been instigated by Rihanna and any jealous tomfoolery she may have been revelling in, but at NO point in time is it alright for a man to place his hands on a woman with the intent to hurt her- which evidentally seems to be the case here. Aggrivated assault is a factor that may have to be regarded, but Chris Brown's behaviour is unnacceptable, and the fact that yall think that a woman should be put in her place makes me question our societal values and expectations. I agree that couples fight and the degree in which they fight is something that may only be understood in their relationship. I also agree that if the woman acts disrespectful- as Rihanna may have- the man needs to handle his...but violence is never and should never be the answer.
aly's picture

[quote

[quote comment="423511"]Rihanna is crazy its just that plain and simple I wish I was Chris Brown big sister or cousin because I would have kicked her ass for him! Why is she even tripping about who is texting him?!? If she do what she should do for him both inside and outside of the bed room she wouldnt have to be so damn jealous![/quote] ahaha yea i keep him plz in the bed room
misscmb's picture

[quote

[quote comment="422937"][quote comment="422919"]Could ya'll stop it with this woman enough to put your hands on man so you deserve to get beat like a man. Ya'll sound ignorant. No one knows if she hit him first. No one has reported that she did but what was reported is that he beat her up. It's funny how you guys are so quick to believe all of the rumors about what Rhi may have done to him but when it's been reported that he beat the mess out of her you don't want to believe that. I see now why a lot of women don't even report these situations because they will probably get asked so what did you do to provoke him. Even if Rihanna did hit him after he got the text message I doubt she hit him that hard to warrant that type of beating he gave her. You'll act like you have never hit your boyfriends after he did something foul to you. I'm not saying she should have hit him I don't even think she did hit him but stop passing judgment on her if you don't judgment passed on Chris.[/quote] Look ma'am, EVERYBODY has different opinions. Its rude to call someone ignorant because they do not agree with you.[/quote] ^You call people ignorant all the time over Beyonce,
FOR WHAT's picture

like i said

like i said yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i knew it no body got nuthin on my boo
misscmb's picture

Chris Brown, who has not been

Chris Brown, who has not been seen publicly since allegedly assaulting girlfriend Rihanna, is a "good kid" who "feels very bad" about what has happened, his friend and stylist tells PEOPLE exclusively. "Chris is all right. He's a good kid. He feels very bad that something like this has happened," his longtime wardrobe stylist Mike B. tells PEOPLE. Another friend echoes that sentiment, telling PEOPLE, "You can tell everybody that Chris really feels bad about the whole situation, about it coming out the way that it happened, the way he went about it, the way she went about it ... it's just a wack situation." As for what really happened, the friend says the story is "not as bad as everybody is trying to gas it up to be." After the alleged altercation between the pair on Sunday, Brown was booked on a felony criminal threat charge. A police source with knowledge of the case says Rihanna suffered a black eye as well as a split lip and contusions on her face. Asked if Brown, 19, and Rihanna, 20, have spoken since the incident, the friend says, "I can't say. Maybe they don't want anybody to know whether they've spoken or not. You have to wait for Chris to say something." Stylist Mike B. encourages fans to keep Brown and Rihanna in their thoughts. "They're both blessed and we just got to send them our prayers."
Jessica's picture

Ugh, have black people been

Ugh, have black people been exposed to so much violence that we have become desensitized? I know I've had guy who didn't weigh much more than me restrain me (playfully of course ;P) and I've had conversations with friends who have say same thing. So to IF Rihanna hit him first, it probably didn't even hurt, and she could be restrained pretty easily by Chris Brown. ANYWAY Seriously... how do we know Rihanna hit him first or at all? And for all people who are over it, why not just stop reading about it?
someone's picture

It looks like people close to

It looks like people close to Chris Brown and Rihanna may have seen this coming, and even as far back as 2007, Chris exhibited some frightening behavior towards his own mother. A source tells Us Weekly that Chris and Rihanna have a "volatile" relationship, and an insider close to Rihanna tells the mag that she had "clearly visible" bruises on her neck in early December. The friend asked the singer what was going on with her and Chris, to which she simply responded, "We broke up again." And that's not all - sources tell Life & Style that this isn't the first time police were called on 19-year-old Chris for his violent behavior! At a hotel in Miami in 2007, cops were called to Chris' room after he got into a fight with his mom and was reportedly "screaming and throwing dishes." Hmm, doesn't Rihanna have a song called "Breakin' Dishes"?! Just saying! A source tells the mag: "He was fighting with his mom. Neighboring hotel guests alerted security and they came upstairs to the room, saw the broken dishes and the mess, and then asked his mother to leave the room. Police were then called, but charges were not filed as Chris simply paid the hotel bill and left the hotel." Even though most media outlets seem to be siding with Rihanna, Chris does have a few supporters (shocking, right?). His little sister Tootie (nee Lytrell Bundy) came to his defense and told Extra, "He's always been a good boy - never violent." Hmmm, really? He doesn't sound like a very "good boy" to us! When asked about how Chris is dealing with all the drama, she responded, "He's doing good. He's coping...He's doing as...as to be expected." We really hope Rihanna's not actually calling this jerk!
Jessica's picture

Never understood the CHILD

Never understood the CHILD MOLESTER love on here, either, imadiva. In a perfect world, CB would have to share a jail cell with RK peeing on him all day long! Now THAT would be some justice, folks! HA HA HA!!
Nefertiti's picture

And if you read between the

And if you read between the lines of the bs this site posted here...they're stalling becuase she hit him first and they will have to charge her as well.
iamadiva's picture

THAT'S HANG HIM FROM THE

THAT'S HANG HIM FROM THE HIGHEST TREE. David, where did you get that commentary from….the blogs, the new sites that don't know the whole story and getting the info from "sources"? Everybody and their mother are on a soapbox. You have tarred and feathered the man before you KNOW THE TRUTH or before he enters a courtroom. I bet if it were your sad a@@ you would want your day in court BEFORE BEING JUDGED. You sound like you have a fever for her. You’ll never get it so what's it to you. Personally, I could give a damn. They’ll probably be back together next month but I'm tired of everybody trying to hang him while most of you gave the daMn CHILD MOLESTER ALL THAT LOVE and all of you KNEW DAmN WELL HE DID IT. A bunch of f^^^ing hypocrites.
iamadiva's picture

Wow, Irasheh25, I bet you

Wow, Irasheh25, I bet you have a REALLY nice boyfriend!
Nefertiti's picture

We're not talking about all

We're not talking about all domestic violence cases -- just THIS one, and in THIS ONE there are witnesses to her injuries, injuries that should not be inflicted on anyone for ANY reason. So I really don't think Rhianna falls under tha category of women who lie about domestic violence for revenge. Yes, there is due process, but if someone was out there accusing me of this kind of bullsh*t, I'd be on every TV show that would have me telling MY side of the story, and wouldn't be running home to mama like some little b*tch-@$$ PUNK like CB and not saying a word. Only b*tch-@$$ PUNKS hit women for any reason. Apparently that hits a nerve on this board. Hmmmmmmm......
Nefertiti's picture

Rihanna is crazy its just

Rihanna is crazy its just that plain and simple I wish I was Chris Brown big sister or cousin because I would have kicked her ass for him! Why is she even tripping about who is texting him?!? If she do what she should do for him both inside and outside of the bed room she wouldnt have to be so damn jealous!
Irasheh25's picture

[quote comment="423461"]This

[quote comment="423461"]This is a post from the blog theangryblackwoman. Black Women AND MEN REALLY NEED TO READ THIS Tales From A Survivor Posted on February 11, 2009 by karnythia Chris Brown tried to choke Rihanna. That was while he was threatening to kill her. And the stans are out in force claiming that she deserved it/provoked him/he didn’t do it on purpose. I would say I don’t know WTF is wrong with people, but I see this shit a lot. From men who want to justify it and from women who think it could never happen to them. Here’s the thing, abusers never seem like they’re violent to people on the outside, and in the beginning of the relationship they are the *perfect* partner. I mean it, they are absolutely the best partner their victim has ever had. They have all the romantic touches down, they’re a great listener (the best you’ll ever meet), and before long they have insinuated themselves into every single aspect of their victim’s life. As soon as they can’t imagine life without this person, they’re in deep shit. Why? That’s when the abuse starts. And it’s not overt or even necessarily something that anyone would recognize as problematic. Because it’s just words, little subtle digs at their self-image that come from this wonderful person who knows them so well and loves them so much. And so they listen, and they lose a little of themselves. It’s that slow chipping away that’s important. Because without it? The first blow will be the last one. And the abuser can’t have that, so they lay the groundwork. But sometimes that chipping away doesn’t work, or at least not fast enough for the abuser. Maybe they’ve been pushed too far too fast, maybe at their base they’re not broken enough, maybe they are just plain contrary, or maybe they get fed up early in the cycle. Who knows? But when things don’t go according to plan the abuser flips their shit. Annihilation time if they can manage it. And the fucked up part? They’re not necessarily consciously aware of what they’re doing to the victim. So they can tell themselves that they’re not a bad person, and they’ve never been this way with anyone else, that it’ll never happen again and a half dozen other things that add up to not having to face the reality that they’re hurting someone very badly. Because in their own heads they love their victim. Even when they want to control them and crush them. They love them so much that they can’t let the relationship end, or risk their SO meeting someone else, or whatever else is the trigger of the moment. And people will swear that something big must have happened to provoke them, but the reality is that they’re a ticking time bomb. All day. Every day. Whether it is a burnt dinner, a tone of voice, or being successful, there is nothing the victims could have, should have, would have done to defuse that bomb. And people will say “Why didn’t she just leave?” like that would fix something. Know when most victims die? When they try to get out. And the craziest part is that people will still swear they should have tried harder, left earlier, done something other than whatever they did. Because victim-blaming is the most comfortable emotional reaction for a lot of folks. Here’s the thing, for a whole host of reasons there’s no way to spot an abuser at a glance, and even if you do figure it out fairly early in the relationship, there’s no guarantee that the fuse on that bomb isn’t so short that you’re already in danger. Does that mean no one should date? No. But it does mean that people should stop blaming the victim and start blaming the abuser. Want to get them help? Great. But don’t serve it with a side of justification for the abuser’s actions, or disdain for the victim. Domestic violence crosses every line regardless of money, race, or religion and we need to start treating it like the sickness it is instead of hiding from it. Yes I got out of my marriage, but it was hard and required me to do some things that I’m not proud of even though they saved my life. Luckily I had friends that truly supported me, and now I hope Rihanna (and every other victim) has friends that will stand by them until they can call themselves a survivor and get on with life. Please stop buying into the myths about domestic violence and stop blaming the victim and offering justification for the abuser![/quote] Hmmm, that's all well and good...but what about women who lie about being abuse to get back at the man. Every domestic violence case is different. You have to keep in mind that some women or men my lie or do harm to themselves to seek revenge for either being jilted, cheated on, rejections. I am in no way shape or form saying that this is a justification for Chris. Because I dont know, wasnt there or a have a relationship with either party. But i do know that there are two sides to a story. Sometimes you cant always believe what the media puts out there. There are no offical photo's, yet to prove either story or even gone to court, or even a person charged with domestic violence...but we labeled him already...and thats wrong!
Black Rider's picture

Well don't read the damn

Well don't read the damn comments then. Every situation is different and everyone has a story. Let this man have due process before you fools hang him from the highest try. Habitual adulterers bringing home std's , embezzlers, rapist, child molesters, armed robbers, con men & women…etc, are the scum of the earth as well and I bet there’s a few of every category sitting behind the anonymity of a computer talking sh*t here today,
iamadiva's picture

Thank you, David, for that

Thank you, David, for that awesome post! I honestly can't imagine any woman out there who would actually DEFEND a man hitting a woman, but really, after reading these posts, it's clear that there are some really stupid deluded women AND men out there. People are talking about CB like they KNOW him ("I can't see him doing that") and it just shows that fame and money and power intoxicate everyone, especially the fans. No one knows what happened to cause him to flip the f**k out on her, but to do THAT to her? To choke her into unconsciousness? To beat her so bad her eyes wouldn't open up? And then to hear backward-@$$ idiots on this board saying she deserved it, that "b*itches need to know they place" (nice grammar there, too, y'all...) really shows where we are today. Yes, we have made SO MANY STRIDES, people. Thank you for showcasing it to the world YET AGAIN. Hopefully Rhianna will leave him and not give that boiling turd the time of day ever again.
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This is a post from the blog

This is a post from the blog theangryblackwoman. Black Women AND MEN REALLY NEED TO READ THIS Tales From A Survivor Posted on February 11, 2009 by karnythia Chris Brown tried to choke Rihanna. That was while he was threatening to kill her. And the stans are out in force claiming that she deserved it/provoked him/he didn’t do it on purpose. I would say I don’t know WTF is wrong with people, but I see this shit a lot. From men who want to justify it and from women who think it could never happen to them. Here’s the thing, abusers never seem like they’re violent to people on the outside, and in the beginning of the relationship they are the *perfect* partner. I mean it, they are absolutely the best partner their victim has ever had. They have all the romantic touches down, they’re a great listener (the best you’ll ever meet), and before long they have insinuated themselves into every single aspect of their victim’s life. As soon as they can’t imagine life without this person, they’re in deep shit. Why? That’s when the abuse starts. And it’s not overt or even necessarily something that anyone would recognize as problematic. Because it’s just words, little subtle digs at their self-image that come from this wonderful person who knows them so well and loves them so much. And so they listen, and they lose a little of themselves. It’s that slow chipping away that’s important. Because without it? The first blow will be the last one. And the abuser can’t have that, so they lay the groundwork. But sometimes that chipping away doesn’t work, or at least not fast enough for the abuser. Maybe they’ve been pushed too far too fast, maybe at their base they’re not broken enough, maybe they are just plain contrary, or maybe they get fed up early in the cycle. Who knows? But when things don’t go according to plan the abuser flips their shit. Annihilation time if they can manage it. And the fucked up part? They’re not necessarily consciously aware of what they’re doing to the victim. So they can tell themselves that they’re not a bad person, and they’ve never been this way with anyone else, that it’ll never happen again and a half dozen other things that add up to not having to face the reality that they’re hurting someone very badly. Because in their own heads they love their victim. Even when they want to control them and crush them. They love them so much that they can’t let the relationship end, or risk their SO meeting someone else, or whatever else is the trigger of the moment. And people will swear that something big must have happened to provoke them, but the reality is that they’re a ticking time bomb. All day. Every day. Whether it is a burnt dinner, a tone of voice, or being successful, there is nothing the victims could have, should have, would have done to defuse that bomb. And people will say “Why didn’t she just leave?” like that would fix something. Know when most victims die? When they try to get out. And the craziest part is that people will still swear they should have tried harder, left earlier, done something other than whatever they did. Because victim-blaming is the most comfortable emotional reaction for a lot of folks. Here’s the thing, for a whole host of reasons there’s no way to spot an abuser at a glance, and even if you do figure it out fairly early in the relationship, there’s no guarantee that the fuse on that bomb isn’t so short that you’re already in danger. Does that mean no one should date? No. But it does mean that people should stop blaming the victim and start blaming the abuser. Want to get them help? Great. But don’t serve it with a side of justification for the abuser’s actions, or disdain for the victim. Domestic violence crosses every line regardless of money, race, or religion and we need to start treating it like the sickness it is instead of hiding from it. Yes I got out of my marriage, but it was hard and required me to do some things that I’m not proud of even though they saved my life. Luckily I had friends that truly supported me, and now I hope Rihanna (and every other victim) has friends that will stand by them until they can call themselves a survivor and get on with life. Please stop buying into the myths about domestic violence and stop blaming the victim and offering justification for the abuser!
David's picture

I'll tell you, the education

I'll tell you, the education level of most of these posters really shines when they leave comments like "She need her @$$ beat if she hit him!" or "Chris wouldn't do something like that!" You know he's not going to email you and invite you over for drinks for defending, right, morons??
Nefertiti's picture

ok yall come on all the blogs

ok yall come on all the blogs are looking at eachothers blogs and pulling stuff out of no where.tasha i had respect for you at first reporting actual facts and what no but your acting like that mto site with just throwing stuff up there.THIS IS SOMEONES LIFE!another thing if the lapd is still looking at things why would they give out info to the blogs and what sources only 2 ppl were in the car so get your act together and post facts no he said she said bull! bite marks are somethings self defense trying to relase a grip or hold.plus we always want to be looked at as equal but wanna run back and pull the im so fragile card if your gonna step to a man like a man,be prepare to get dealt with like a man.we dont know what happened and ppl if this was a reg person who you worked with or worked at your local news or an avg joe would you be talkingabout it 24/7 or bashing them i doubt it!.we are all humans and child of good and he forgives so we should to..if you dont want to be judged then dont judge others god bless and ps i thought i was the only one seeing the double standards!
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