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Folks Join In On The Domestic Violence Stories: Mya, Pepa, Oprah, Robin Givens, & Jaslene

Mya recently spoke out about domestic violence and how it affected two important people in her life. She also made a song about it called "Blackout". Here's a snippet of the interview she did with Honeymag.com:
HONEY: What inspired you? Mya: I was inspired by two different incidents involving two of my female friends. I remember being disgusted, angry, outraged, sad, sympathetic, and fearful of what I would’ve done if I were in their shoes. I’m still pissed from it and even more pissed that they are back with these guys. But those are my girls and I love ‘em for life. I just seriously hope there’s not a next time. What did you think when you first heard of the Chris and Rihanna situation? I honestly didn’t believe it when I first heard of the situation. I assumed it was another outrageous, untrue rumor from an illegitimate gossip site. Did you immediately want to drop your track? I have so many songs I’ve written [that] it didn’t even come to mind until I played a bunch of my music at a listening session and everyone responded to “Black Out” in particular. After the incident I had my management contact Rihanna’s team about giving her the song. I’m sure it’s still a sensitive time for her to address the issue at all. Do you think some people will think you’re jumping on the bandwagon to get press for the new album? I’m sure some people will think a bunch of nonsense as they always do… [It] comes with the territory. This is much bigger than me or an album. It’s about a silent epidemic that affects one in three women in the world. I just happen to be one of the many concerned voices.

Well good for Mya. More on Jaslene and Pepa talking about getting abused when you read the rest... Here's a snippet of Mya's "Blackout":
The rest of the track and the interview is over at Honeymag.com. Sandy "Pepa" Denton semi-recently released her Let's Talk About Pep book. And in it she's giving all the details about how Treach (of Naughty by Nature) beat her and tortured her while they were married. She recalls how he almost fatally raped her, beat her, burned her, tore her minibraids out from her scalp to the point that she HAS to wear lacefront wigs b/c her hair won't grow back around the edges, and he scratched the cornea in her eye! Drama! And Jaslene Gonzalez is discussing her abuse story as well. She talked a bit about it during "Top Model", but now she talking to Latina mag about it: He was my first love - he was 19, and I was 17. The first year was like a honeymoon. It was, like, the best thing ever. But in the second year of our relationship - we were together for four years - there was a lot of name-calling and picking away at my self-esteem. It escalated from there. Like, trying to hit me and pulling my hair. Their first physical fight happened after she sitting in a male friend’s car. Her boyfriend tried to break the door in and eventually dragged her out onto the sidewalk. Source And Robin Givens also says she wants to offer Rihanna some advice, while Oprah is dedicating today's show to "the Ri-hanna's of the world." Interesting...

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ONE of my best friends

ONE of my best friends produced that Mya track!!!
milat's picture

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[quote comment="450124"][quote comment="449749"][quote comment="449624"]While Black women use the invention of white women (feminism) to become more outspoken, masculine, and so called independent white women are doing the opposite, except for lesbians. Feminism is the reason black men prefer to date outside of the Black race. Black women are the only race of women that use feminism as a false sense of self proclaimed accomplishment. Other races of women are less mouthy, and treat men a lot better and don’t over step their men. I hate to say it but, Black women can learn from other women.[/quote] Don't step over their men? Is that idiot for "knowing their place"? You are pathetic and a prime example of why I no longer date black men. You guys are too insecure about your manhood and feel justified in taking your frustrations out on others(usually a spouse). Maybe if you spent a little more energy in making more out of yourself you wouldn't feel the need to use force to get respect. But who wants to wait around for men like you to catch a clue. Do let the media fool you...black women get lots of love from others races...and their love doesn't hurt.[/quote] Honey, you need MAJOR help!!! White men abuse some of their women also, just like Hispanic men and men of other races!!! Date a man who treats you right not because he is white!!![/quote] You're the one who needs help...in reading. Where did I say I only date white men? Hint...I DIDN'T. And I don't need your permission to do a damn thing. I can date who I want when I want. If you want to get with DMV have at it honey. I got a man...a REAL ONE.
April217's picture

I was in a physically abusive

I was in a physically abusive relationship in University in the UK. It started at 15. I was only 15. This man swept me off my feet and then he started to hit me. Yank my hair, kick me...Anything would set him off. This relationship ended with me in hospital after he hit and kicked me for what seemed like hours and proceeded to throw me against a wood and glass entertainment unit. Glass and wood splinters had to be picked out of me before i could even be taken to the hospital....I was unconsious....In hospital, through the pain and surgery i cried for this man...i wanted him back cos afterall 'he only made a mistake'. My friends put a wall between me and this beast. I had no access to any phones, got the police involved and ensured i had someone with me at all times. My friends contacted my aunt in Atlanta and they ensured that i went straight from the hospital to the airport and on a flight to Atlanta where my aunt took over. I was not allowed to have access to email or phones for the first few weeks and my aunt and cousins took me EVERYWHERE with them when all i wanted was to cry and find a way to call my 'love'. My ex is married and i have heard that his wife has had 3 miscarriages...I truly believe he beat those pregnancies out of her. I thank God for the drastic steps my friends and my family took then because i truly believe i would be dead by now. Rihanna is exhibiting the typical signs of abused women all over the world and i hope we are not on this site commenting on her death sometime in the future. I do not for one minute buy the recurring argument that these 2 are young and have made mistakes. Being young and making mistakes would be experimenting with pot or sex but not putting a woman in a headlock and choking her. And remember Chris is only 19 right? So he is relatively young,. Imagine what he will do, how he will be at 30... There might be other problems in the world or the black community specifically....I am African where we believe it takes a 'village to raise a child'..the black community as a whole should not condone Chris's actions - they should not be afraid to say to him - young man - this is not right and you need to quit with the swaggering and accept you have issues...and his family cannot be exonerated either... This story is so hard for me and i imagine for other abused women, because it takes me back to that very very dark place..Over the years, i have 'moved on' and i am getting married next month but when a story like this breaks, and i begin to have flashbacks and nightmares, i realise that one truly never ever gets over this...You just lock it away until something else happens to bring the ghosts out... Guys - i understand our fascination with celebs and our feeling of entitlement to their lives - but in instance - beneath all the drama is a real real issue that is not to be joked about....
Uzo's picture

Rihanna's career would blow

Rihanna's career would blow up beyond what it is if she drop that dude, wrote a song about it and moved on. All the talent, money, beauty, bodyguards etc., can't keep her from hurting herself and her career in the process. Seriously, this is why gossip interest me. No matter who a person is and what they are famous for you find out real quick they really are no different or better than yourself.
B.W.W's picture

THAT MYA SONG IS WAAAACK!

THAT MYA SONG IS WAAAACK!
BK ALL DAY!!!'s picture

YES DIDDY SHUT ELLEN DOWN,

YES DIDDY SHUT ELLEN DOWN, AND FAST!!
BK ALL DAY!!!'s picture

[quote comment="450142"]look

[quote comment="450142"]look like diddy the only one who is standing up to these modern day lynch mobs, i saw the ellen show and you could see in that dykes face she wanted to start some shit about him allowing chris and rihanna to use his house, and do remember this is all done for ratings since it is such a hot topic, diddy put the smack down and advised this is my house and i lend it to who i want to, bitch got another subject. these people intend to destroy chris brown like he that pedophile woody allen who they revere, these are two kids who made a mistake no one should be destroyed or given the death penalty, and tyra and oprah need to first find some men before they start talking, trust me this is all about ratings, oprah how bout a show about all the young black men we are losing to gun violence.[/quote] LOL... DAMN I LOVE THIS SITE!
BK ALL DAY!!!'s picture

Did anyone actually listen to

Did anyone actually listen to Mya's song? I am LOVING IT! (cursing and everything).She should release it herself if RiRi don't want it. "If u ever raise your hand at me again a bitch is going straight to the pin,cause I'm not taking that bullshit from no damn body. If you ever lay your hands on me again I'ma haft to tell my family and my friends goodbye for thy cause I might blackout. Blackout on your fancy mansion, blackout on your mercedes bens, blackout on yo ass in public, blackout NO WITNESSES". Sing that shit Mya!!! This is another song I can't stop listning to. I hope it'll be here tommorrow so I can let my sis listen to it. Rihanna I hope u here this song girl and to little boy Breezy, u better be glad she didn't "BLACKOUT" on your ass BOY. Ladies Blackout on them mutherfuckas if they wanna put their hands on u. Didn't know Pepa was being abused but I heard about Jaslene, she was on Tyra once talking about it. Didn't see the episode though, I missed it.
PrincessMiMi's picture

look like diddy the only one

look like diddy the only one who is standing up to these modern day lynch mobs, i saw the ellen show and you could see in that dykes face she wanted to start some shit about him allowing chris and rihanna to use his house, and do remember this is all done for ratings since it is such a hot topic, diddy put the smack down and advised this is my house and i lend it to who i want to, bitch got another subject. these people intend to destroy chris brown like he that pedophile woody allen who they revere, these are two kids who made a mistake no one should be destroyed or given the death penalty, and tyra and oprah need to first find some men before they start talking, trust me this is all about ratings, oprah how bout a show about all the young black men we are losing to gun violence.
deschl's picture

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[quote comment="449749"][quote comment="449624"]While Black women use the invention of white women (feminism) to become more outspoken, masculine, and so called independent white women are doing the opposite, except for lesbians. Feminism is the reason black men prefer to date outside of the Black race. Black women are the only race of women that use feminism as a false sense of self proclaimed accomplishment. Other races of women are less mouthy, and treat men a lot better and don’t over step their men. I hate to say it but, Black women can learn from other women.[/quote] Don't step over their men? Is that idiot for "knowing their place"? You are pathetic and a prime example of why I no longer date black men. You guys are too insecure about your manhood and feel justified in taking your frustrations out on others(usually a spouse). Maybe if you spent a little more energy in making more out of yourself you wouldn't feel the need to use force to get respect. But who wants to wait around for men like you to catch a clue. Do let the media fool you...black women get lots of love from others races...and their love doesn't hurt.[/quote] Honey, you need MAJOR help!!! White men abuse some of their women also, just like Hispanic men and men of other races!!! Date a man who treats you right not because he is white!!!
Sheree's picture

First of all I am a mother

First of all I am a mother and my son was just in this same situation. He has a girlfriend who is very insecure and jellous. He was brought up not to hit women, but what happens when the tables are turned. She abuses him, he walks around with a black eye and this is right! No, but yet he still defends her (not feelin it). I think Rih Rih hit him first and that is what eccalated to all of this. Maybe she actually needs the anger management classes and check herself and stop playing pitty. Please believe there are women out there who do this (stating from a female point not as a mother). Hats off to Diddy for putting Ellen in her place
Gail Stewart's picture

[quote comment="449534"]I

[quote comment="449534"]I swear I don't understand the people on this site. Some of you talk like you don't know the difference between right and wrong. 1. Oprah has done shows about domestic abuse for years. The Chris-Rihanna situation is an influential news story that has the nation talking. 2. Women have been arrested, charged and jailed for beating their men. 3. Domestic abuse is a violence. It's against God's will. 4. Everyone should work towards preventing people from repeating these destructive behaviors. I applaud Steve Harvey, Oprah, Mya, Robin Givens and anyone else who is speaking out about an issue that's destroying our families and the self-esteem of women all over the world.[/quote] thank god someone has some sense on this site!
ambrosialite's picture

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[quote comment="449675"][quote comment="449478"][quote comment="449441"]I'm first for the first! And how much abuse did Pepa plan on taking before she got the heck out of her marriage? I would be ashamed to put a book out. It should be called "Let's talk about how stupid Pep was". After the first burn, I'm out! No d**k is that good! Sorry.[/quote] First of all sweetie who are you to pass judgement? Why should she be ashamed? In retrospect all of us can admit that we did some things that we shouldn't have. She's telling her story that could possibly help many others. Did you read the book? You got so much to say about Pep but what about that creep Treach? He's the one that should be ashamed to fight his woman like he would fight a dude in the street!![/quote] Has the book helped you? I'm certainly not going to say the Treach was right for what he did but as a grown woman you've got to get out of a bad situation before you end up either behind bars or dead. I'm sorry, why should anyone continue to take abuse when they've done nothing wrong. Does your man beat you? If you end up getting out of a relationship later due to abuse, what is wrong with you getting out of it before you have 20 lumps upside your head? Sounds like you been through it, too. Or still going through it.[/quote] I've never been beat sweetie...and again WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE ANYBODY ABOUT ANYTHING?! It looks like she did get out ALIVE and now she's telling her story...what is YOUR problem really?
MLOVE's picture

[quote comment="449794"]pepa

[quote comment="449794"]pepa prolly lying anyways. funny how she didnt remember the rape, torture and beatdowns until AFTER her show flopped, AFTER salt wasnt trying to revamp the group and AFTER she needed material for her book. trifling, stank and unbelievable! she need more people.[/quote] Why the eff would somebody want to lie about something like that???.....u retarded
MLOVE's picture

daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaam..

daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaam....if i see pepa ever again, i will give her a huge hug. i met her through a mutual friend and she's always so sweet and nice and cool. you would NEVER think....i could never, ever look at treach the same way. but it just goes to show you karma is REAL, because she still has a career and his has been over with. all power to my sisters and my brothers who realize abuse is wrong....!
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[quote comment="449549"][quote comment="449522"][quote comment="449512"][quote comment="449445"]WOMEN abuse become the n#1 subject these days people foget the recession all people forget to say that she hit him many time first what about him being abused before he hit her back this time[/quote] It doesn't matter that she hit him and initiated the fight women are weak, meak, powerless, defenseless, creatures. To hit a woman is the equivalent to hit a newborn. NO EXCUSE! It does not matter that they take tae bo kick boxing and defense classes. They are above law and their hits don't count SORRY![/quote] 'Women are weak, meak, powerless, defenseless creatures. To hit a woman is the equivalent to hit a newborn.' WOW, you must be joking. Im blown by this dumb ass comment. Not to be mean, but I seriously hope its a joke[/quote] NO JOKE, it is REAL LIFE, like it or not who cares what you think! The law says only men can be abusers and YOU KNOW IT! That's why everyone says "It's never ok to hit a WOMAN" you never hear "don't hit people or everybody keep their hands to themselves" it's only illegal when the victim is a woman! That is because women are powerless just like babies their hits feel like a light summer breeze.[/quote] YOUR FUNNY I THINK I KNOW WHERE YOUR GOING WITH THIS YOUR BEING SARCASTIC BY SAYING SOCIETY PAINT WOMAN AS THESE PERFECT LITTLE CREATURES WHO DON'T DO ANY WRONG WHO DON'T ABUSE MENTAL OR PHYSICAL, WHEN IN ACTUALITY THATS NOT TRUE AT ALL WOMAN ARE ABUSERS BUT IT'S RARELY SPOKEN ABOUT UNLESS IT'S A MAN... I HOPE I'M RIGHT CAUSE IF NOT MAYBE YOU SHOULD SEE A PSYCHIATRIST...LOL!! OR YOU CAN SEE ME IM MUCH CHEAPER :)
SIMONE's picture

Lord, please let another cele

Lord, please let another cele do something stupid so I can stop seeing/hearing about Chriannagate '09 and everybody and their mama's .02...AMEN
Southern Queen Dee *IS THE PROUD GRANNY OF 3 BEAUTIFUL KITTI's picture

[quote comment="449749"]Don't

[quote comment="449749"]Don't step over their men? Is that idiot for "knowing their place"? You are pathetic and a prime example of why I no longer date black men. You guys are too insecure about your manhood and feel justified in taking your frustrations out on others(usually a spouse). Maybe if you spent a little more energy in making more out of yourself you wouldn't feel the need to use force to get respect. But who wants to wait around for men like you to catch a clue. Do let the media fool you...black women get lots of love from others races...and their love doesn't hurt.[/quote] I'm so proud of women like YOU!!
FlyAsHell's picture

yeah one of the few days

yeah one of the few days Oprah has all black guests, it's about us beating each other up. SMH.
imdone's picture

Lady O is on right now. Look

Lady O is on right now. Look at Tyra. Lawd...
chaka1's picture

[quote

[quote comment="449796"]everybody CASHIN IN ESPECIALLY OPRAH CHING $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$[/quote] co-sign that! Especially Robin - that chick always know how to sniff out somebody else's dollars.
imdone's picture

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[quote comment="449784"]mya? robin givens? pepa??? i really hope chris brown can claim these bitches as dependents bc their careers aint worth a dam. i cant stand anybody trying to shine off of the next man's fortune or misfortune. being leeches is why they got they asses beat in the first dam place. stop being so got dam needy all the time. trifling whoremongers. cant stand em!![/quote] LMAO. That was funny!
BK ALL DAY!!!'s picture

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[quote comment="449796"]everybody CASHIN IN ESPECIALLY OPRAH CHING $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$[/quote] thats all it is. niggas acting like this is the economic bailout. gettin in where they fittin in. oprah look like she beats on stedman any dam ways. her and gayle know they be tag teaming his ass. ppl dont realize that the more you talk about somebody else the more people are going to start thinking "and what about YOU?"
bubblin' brown shuga's picture

everybody CASHIN IN

everybody CASHIN IN ESPECIALLY OPRAH CHING $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$
Commenting Now!'s picture

[quote comment="449439"]While

[quote comment="449439"]While domestic violence is a serious issue that has been around forever...I think the Chrianna situation is being exploited to further other peoples agenda's. It's a sad situation all the way around. People need to get out of their business and into their communities and help Keke and Ray-Ray...they fightin right now!![/quote] Why does it have to be keke and ray-ray? LMAO! How come Bomqueisha wasn't mentioned? Or Darnell?
keysha's picture

pepa prolly lying anyways.

pepa prolly lying anyways. funny how she didnt remember the rape, torture and beatdowns until AFTER her show flopped, AFTER salt wasnt trying to revamp the group and AFTER she needed material for her book. trifling, stank and unbelievable! she need more people.
bubblin' brown shuga's picture

[quote

[quote comment="449784"]mya? robin givens? pepa??? i really hope chris brown can claim these bitches as dependents bc their careers aint worth a dam. i cant stand anybody trying to shine off of the next man's fortune or misfortune. being leeches is why they got they asses beat in the first dam place. stop being so got dam needy all the time. trifling whoremongers. cant stand em!![/quote] Actually robin givens and peppa have been talking about the abuse they suffered long before chris brown beat rihanna.
honeygirl's picture

mya? robin

mya? robin givens? pepa?? i hope chris brown can claim them as dependents bc their careers arent worth a dam. i cant stand to see someone trying to shine off the next man's fortune or misfortune. being leeches is why they got their asses beat in the first place. stop being so needy. only coming up for air to see what you can get. fukkin vultures. i cant stand trifling whores.
bubblin' brown shuga's picture

mya? robin

mya? robin givens? pepa??? i really hope chris brown can claim these bitches as dependents bc their careers aint worth a dam. i cant stand anybody trying to shine off of the next man's fortune or misfortune. being leeches is why they got they asses beat in the first dam place. stop being so got dam needy all the time. trifling whoremongers. cant stand em!!
bubblin' brown shuga's picture

ALL ABUSE IS WRONG ON BOTH

ALL ABUSE IS WRONG ON BOTH SIDES PLAIN AND SIMPLE
Commenting Now!'s picture

[quote comment="449443"]Abuse

[quote comment="449443"]Abuse is never cool.... I was involved in physical altercations with my first love as a teenager and into my early twenties, one incident landed me in the hospital with a bruised kidney..... I was 20 years old.... I loved him and after he begged and pleaded with me to take him back, he was my world and I took him back.... and you know what he never put his hands on my ever again!!!!!! Our relationship ended three years later, and he went on to be in other, non-violent relationships, THEN eventually married .... I for one am very sympathetic to Rih and Chris.... just because it occurred once or on several occassions doesn't mean that it always will.... I'm not telling you what I've heard it's what I've lived... yes everyone is different but it's THEIR LIFE[/quote] my boyfriend and his ex girlfriend used to have physical altercation with each other but when we got together he has never ever put his hands on me
stan101's picture

Glad u posted this. Reading

Glad u posted this. Reading Jaslene's story makes me see that the girl who I was somewhat dating very well could've been an abuser. Things were so cool at first, but then as she got to know me better, she didn't like the fact that I was so "white" acting or whatever. Constantly critiqued me about it, and wanted to help "fix" me. Then she'd get drunk and just talk bad to me for no reason. It seriously shook me up because I've never had anyone do that to me. I should've been done after the "white" comments, but like most women, I stayed around, thinking things would change. We're not involved anymore. It wasn't by choice, but I see that it's for the best, because I could see my self esteem starting to suffer. It still kinda does.
Krys's picture

All abuse is wrong. ALL of

All abuse is wrong. ALL of it! Women we are so horrible to each other. We seem to hate ourselves and hate each other. We get no support. We kick each other when we are down and spit upon each others' problems. These women are telling their stories and we are basically laughing in their faces and saying they deserved it. All of the women who are screaming for equality are not answering the simple question: When does it stop being self-defense and then become abuse? When does "expect to get hit back" turn into "expect to be punched in the face repeatedly, choked, bitten, kicked, set on fire etc" Your theories are flawed. Answer it please. When does hitting back go to far? Or do you believe that whoever starts the fight should be hospitalized? An eye for an eye? Or an eye for a bodybag? This world is far too violent. Men and women. Everybody's out for blood and revenge. Brings new meaning to the tired term "haters"
Gem's picture

Was fowlkes clownin like this

Was fowlkes clownin like this when ANNA MAE (Tina Turner) was gettin her a$$ whopped. Ummmmmm I dont think so. Probally wasnt even aware till the move hit. (Whats luv got to do with it)
YBF#1FAN's picture

Another point to bring

Another point to bring up.....even our movies CAPITALIZE on black men getting beat up by a black woman. I guess WE think it's cute to see a man getting hit or beat up. I guess if he cheats then WE deserve the right to punch, slap, throw hot grits, and do any other form of violence to them. We get a fair pass!!!!! SMH!! A different scenario.....is the White director's movie with J.Lo ' Enough '. Great movie for a GREAT cause!!
Honesty's picture

THIS IS KILLING ME...where

THIS IS KILLING ME...where was all this before? Guess this HAD to happen for folks to be all proactive. Donald Trump even made a statement...people really need to stop talking Why Treach ain't in jail by the way...NOW that's inhumance and uncalled for abuse
Joja86's picture

[quote comment="449534"]I

[quote comment="449534"]I swear I don't understand the people on this site. Some of you talk like you don't know the difference between right and wrong. 1. Oprah has done shows about domestic abuse for years. The Chris-Rihanna situation is an influential news story that has the nation talking. 2. Women have been arrested, charged and jailed for beating their men. 3. Domestic abuse is a violence. It's against God's will. 4. Everyone should work towards preventing people from repeating these destructive behaviors. I applaud Steve Harvey, Oprah, Mya, Robin Givens and anyone else who is speaking out about an issue that's destroying our families and the self-esteem of women all over the world.[/quote] I wholeheartedly agree with you Chaka... I don't know why the black community is so uncomfortable with this topic. What happened between Chris and Rihanna is unfortunate but at least it's bringing this subject back to the forefront. Why attack Oprah, Tyra, Robin, Pepa and Mya? Because they chose to discuss an issues that's become a silent epidemic. The other day on the radio they had a call in show about the incident and would you believe that nearly 80% of the calls were women saying she either provoked him or probably deserved it! WTF IS WRONG WITH OUR COMMUNITY...I was shocked and appalled, surprisingly the male callers were the only ones defending Rihanna. We need to have this open discussion in order to teach boys and girls that they should never lay a hand on each other. Someone here said we need to stick together, really? Even if the actions of the individual were wrong? Let's not turn this into a race thing. It's not the media vs Black America, it's the media vs Chris Brown. You don't condone it but by not addressing it aren't you further perpetrating the negative idea that victims of domestic abuse are the ones to blame? Everybody is so concerned about Brown, what about Rihanna? Even though she allegedly reconciled with him it doesn't mean what transpired wasn't serious.
xyz's picture

[quote

[quote comment="449749"][quote comment="449624"]While Black women use the invention of white women (feminism) to become more outspoken, masculine, and so called independent white women are doing the opposite, except for lesbians. Feminism is the reason black men prefer to date outside of the Black race. Black women are the only race of women that use feminism as a false sense of self proclaimed accomplishment. Other races of women are less mouthy, and treat men a lot better and don’t over step their men. I hate to say it but, Black women can learn from other women.[/quote] Don't step over their men? Is that idiot for "knowing their place"? You are pathetic and a prime example of why I no longer date black men. You guys are too insecure about your manhood and feel justified in taking your frustrations out on others(usually a spouse). Maybe if you spent a little more energy in making more out of yourself you wouldn't feel the need to use force to get respect. But who wants to wait around for men like you to catch a clue. Do let the media fool you...black women get lots of love from others races...and their love doesn't hurt.[/quote] I agree but not all black men are bad. Sometimes, its just the people you attract or are attracted to. I dont think its a race issue, its just that black men are exploited more. Not sure why. No one should limit themselves when searching for someone. Love and heartbreak comes in all shapes and sizes... just my opinion
...IMISSMYHBCU's picture

The DMV On Mar 12, 2009 at

The DMV On Mar 12, 2009 at 10:41 am | Reply | Quote Black women need stop playing the victim role and stop trying to turn Cris Brown into Ike Turner. Black women provoke men more than any other race of women, so stop acting like Black men are the Violent ones in the relationship. No human has a right to hit another human, this include you black women that provoke fights with black men. ____________________________________________________________ Sad but SOOOO TRUE!!!
Honesty's picture

:shock: to all the posts

:shock: to all the posts today. Very sad... By the way, Pep's book was good. She got abused by many men. According to the book, Treach even abused her at Omar Epps house. He didnt care where they were. I wish everyone well!! Love yourself first ladies!!
...IMISSMYHBCU's picture

I don't believe that these

I don't believe that these women are coming forward for fame. I believe that this is a taboo subject and women have been scared to death to come forward because look at how you treat them? BLaming the victim. Men are afraid to come forward when women are beating them because it is embarrassing. Once again you are blaming the victim. This is not about making Chris &Rihanna the poster children. This is about the 2 biggest popstars in the world getting caught out there and it's showing all these people that they don't have to suffer in silence and its showing that DV is a HUGE problem among young teens as well. My teacher friends talk about her students being controlling and violent in their relationships all the time. And that's straight AND gay. I'm glad this is a big story. We as a community need to clean up our act.
Gem's picture

[quote comment="449624"]While

[quote comment="449624"]While Black women use the invention of white women (feminism) to become more outspoken, masculine, and so called independent white women are doing the opposite, except for lesbians. Feminism is the reason black men prefer to date outside of the Black race. Black women are the only race of women that use feminism as a false sense of self proclaimed accomplishment. Other races of women are less mouthy, and treat men a lot better and don’t over step their men. I hate to say it but, Black women can learn from other women.[/quote] Don't step over their men? Is that idiot for "knowing their place"? You are pathetic and a prime example of why I no longer date black men. You guys are too insecure about your manhood and feel justified in taking your frustrations out on others(usually a spouse). Maybe if you spent a little more energy in making more out of yourself you wouldn't feel the need to use force to get respect. But who wants to wait around for men like you to catch a clue. Do let the media fool you...black women get lots of love from others races...and their love doesn't hurt.
April217's picture

This is so sad that people

This is so sad that people are using the Chris Brown and Rihanna situation to put themselves back into the spotlight or boost their rating.
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Pretishia On Mar 12, 2009 at

Pretishia On Mar 12, 2009 at 8:30 am | Reply | Quote I’m first for the first! And how much abuse did Pepa plan on taking before she got the heck out of her marriage? I would be ashamed to put a book out. It should be called “Let’s talk about how stupid Pep was”. After the first burn, I’m out! No d**k is that good! Sorry. In regards to ur comment Pretishia and all of those that "Claim" that they would bounce and so forth...until you walk in those shoes you have no clue what it's like! I was in a torturous relationship for 7 unbearable years and I'm only 27 and I just got out of it last year only because he was murdered! I'm talkn torture like no other, broken knee, broken wrist, broken float bone, staples in my head, black eyes countless times, black lips, busted eardrum, cut my long beautiful hair, stapled my legs, broke a bat on my legs, beat me until he cut my skin and then would pour a whole bottle of alcohol over my head because I just wasn't in enough pain as it was, choked til I passed out and honestly sometimes I just wished I stayed unconcious, bit 2 holes through my finger, just unbelievable, unbearable sheer torture for absolutely no reason at all....but to him the reason was because I had a smart mouth and I was too disrespectful. You're wondering why didn't I leave...I did....WRONG MOVE....it was only so many places I could go without putting them in harms way because he could care less about beating the hell outta any and everybody that got in his business! I ran to my mother's house countless times and each and everytime he would come by, kick the door off of the hinges and make me put on my shoes and clothes and go with him....I ran to my sister's house but he and my sister's kids father were best friends so every time I ran there he would come by and her boyfriend would just open the door and let him in...You're wondering why I never went to the police....I did .....WRONG MOVE AGAIN....being that he knocked three cops out and only got cited with aggravated battery charges and he had lots of money so no matter how many times I ran to the police to "PROTECT ME" he always was able to bond himself out of any situation he was in and they continued to give him a slap on the wrist which only made him madder at me because he felt like me going to the police was not caring about him! WHAT A JOKE! Sooooo I just dealt with it because it seemed like no matter what I did he was never going to leave me alone and let me be and he never would've let me leave so I had to make him leave me! I stopped the sex, and just started treating him like crap no matter how angry he got and yeah I got beat for it but in the end it was well worth it cause along with treating him I prayed to God every single day and night almost 24/7 to deliver me from this madness and to my surprise he did cause when he came to me and told me he was with somebody else I literally got down on my hands and knees and kissed the floor and thanked God for answering my prayers but my glory was short lived cause even though he was with the next chick he still thought that he could tell me what to do, where to go, who to go with and also thought that he could continue to put his hands on me so I still had to deal with the B.S. but on a much lighter note cause now she was gettin all of the abuse that I used to get and he beat her while she was preggers and she couldn't get out either until he passed! Although I he did what he did to me for 7 years I don't wish death or harm on no one but I am just thankful that God got me out of this situation alive and well and I thank him that I still have my sanity and haven't gone psycho! I still haven't moved on b/c I don't trust any man at this point but whenever I do decide to I can tell you this should he ever, ever, ever, ever put his hands on me just once you all will be reading about me in the papers cause I'm killing' me a bitch this time around! So my point is this everything is not what it seems to be from the outside looking in and until you've walked in that persons shoes or know what its like to go through what that persons going through never say what you will and wont do because until it happens to you, you never know! You just never know! PEACE!!!!!
BEAUTI4L LIAR's picture

Oh my goodness I did not know

Oh my goodness I did not know that Pepa got beat up by Treach. That is crazy. And she had in the what a man video knowing full well he did not deserve to be in there.
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[quote

[quote comment="449478"][quote comment="449441"]I'm first for the first! And how much abuse did Pepa plan on taking before she got the heck out of her marriage? I would be ashamed to put a book out. It should be called "Let's talk about how stupid Pep was". After the first burn, I'm out! No d**k is that good! Sorry.[/quote] First of all sweetie who are you to pass judgement? Why should she be ashamed? In retrospect all of us can admit that we did some things that we shouldn't have. She's telling her story that could possibly help many others. Did you read the book? You got so much to say about Pep but what about that creep Treach? He's the one that should be ashamed to fight his woman like he would fight a dude in the street!![/quote] Has the book helped you? I'm certainly not going to say the Treach was right for what he did but as a grown woman you've got to get out of a bad situation before you end up either behind bars or dead. I'm sorry, why should anyone continue to take abuse when they've done nothing wrong. Does your man beat you? If you end up getting out of a relationship later due to abuse, what is wrong with you getting out of it before you have 20 lumps upside your head? Sounds like you been through it, too. Or still going through it.
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I agree with Shan. Domestic

I agree with Shan. Domestic Violence is serious. My dad use to "try" to beat up on my mom, but notice I said "try". Still feel like all these female celebrities (whose careers aren't really hot right now are try to be the victim so that they can get a break. You don't have to be doing much in Holleywood, just stay in the media. For those ladies who have been through it, I applaud you for getting out. I truly don't understand why people stay. My mom put dad's tail out with the quickness. I don't think it happened more than two times and the 1st time he was breaking dishes. It was the second time that he thought he would try her.
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People need to realize that

People need to realize that just because Rihanna went through it does not mean it is now a trend. This has been going on forever and everyone knows someone who went through it so now is not the time to capitalize on it. If you want to work on a solution to the problem talk about that, and no Mya that doesn't mean to write songs about an age old epidemic which is domestic violence. It is not a game.
shaunda's picture

To bad, someone have to talk

To bad, someone have to talk up for these batter women such Rihanna's and since it is Oprah great, and to bad, to all the dumb fools out there who support beating on women...Oprah we love you, thank!!! Allen
Miary Allen's picture

That Mya song is hot. The

That Mya song is hot. The lyrics are real. I love it. Team Mya
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