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Barack & Michelle O.'s Past Marital Woes

In this new book that came out today called Barack and Michelle: Portrait of an American Marriage, the author is recalling the First Couple's relationship woes before their marriage and after. Interesting tidbits about what Michelle O. had to say about the political groupies, debt, lack of attention to Michelle, and how Barack's failed political attempts all almost broke them. A NY Post writer reports from the book:
On more than one occasion, Barack tried not to look startled when some random woman in the crowd would grasp him firmly by the derriere -- and sometimes try to hold on." After an appearance in Peoria, Ill., the future president slid into the back of his SUV, and allegedly said, "Jesus, I wish they'd stop grabbing my ass." "Michelle, understandably was not amused," Andersen writes. He quotes her as saying, ". . . I want to tell these women, 'Back off. Get a life.' It's just embarrassing, that's all." The book relates, "Michelle knew that all the unseemly fawning nourished Barack's admittedly already oversize ego. 'He's loving it,' she muttered at one point. 'He's a man, isn't he?' Once again, she resorted to giving him the silent treatment."
But reportedly Michelle never doubted his fidelity. But during the beginning of their marriage (it took him getting an almost ultimatum from Michelle for him to propose allegedly), Mr. O. used to focus more on work than on his wife:
A nagging concern she wasn't afraid to share with him directly - and repeatedly - was that he seemed willing to put politics ahead of the family. "You only think about yourself," she would say to him again and again in a tone dripping with disdain. "I never thought I'd have to raise a family alone." Barack, convinced that whatever time he devoted to his career would ultimately benefit his wife and daughter, shrugged off the criticism. "Barack just doesn't seem to care what I think," a frustrated Michelle complained to her mother, Marian Robinson. "He can be so selfish - and I just can't get through to him that we're supposed to be in this together." At one point, she went so far as to question whether, after eight years of marriage, their days as a couple were numbered. For his part, Barack was also fed up with reprimands that he felt were "petty and unfair." Barack thought it odd that Michelle complained about being saddled with most of the child-care responsibilities, since for years she had been heartbroken over not being able to conceive. After four years of trying, she had talked to friends about fertility clinics and adoption.
Source and Source Good to see they're somewhat open about their past woes and have such a strong foundation now. Watch CBS Videos Online
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Demetra: I just read the

Demetra: I just read the reviews and description of the book on Amazon and as much as I agree that Barack and Michelle are the greatest example for married folks. No one has asked how valid this person’s book is. If Barack and Michelle hasn’t given a direct interview about their marriage, how can we assume that these things really went on? I can make up all kinds of stories about a couple just based on things I find on the . Hearsay doesn’t make it truth.Saying all that to say, we shouldn’t go out and the market with our purchase of this book unless we know for sure this is something that the Obama’s authored themselves. Otherwise it’s just someone elses account of their marriage which they shouldn’t have any first hand knowledge about. Co-sign!
Niki (Christian does porn???)'s picture

a Leo that became president

a Leo that became president of the United States is expected to have a much larger ego than he displays. us leos get besides ourselves when we get a promotion to head cashier let alone become president.
sugar in the raw's picture

That'a crazy. Then those

That'a crazy. Then those women were not "friends". Real female friends don't roll like that and we always make sure the girlfriend becomes a friend, too. You have to respect people's relationships.
Caramel's picture

Hootyjames: I agree. Once

Hootyjames: I agree. Once my boyfriend’s single female found out that he was in a relationship, those heffas came out of the trying to get with him. But I told him that putting those beasts in check was his job… and he better get on it, QUICK! It happens all the time, women are often chasing what they cannot have. I can remember a time when a single female neighbor would often hold conversations with my husband, but barley say hello to me. I think she was pissed off that he often ignored her and kept the convo short. To get around these chicks you have to teach your man how to look for the signs, because the good ones usually don't realize when women are coming on to them.
Shamrock's picture

You know, this is also why I

You know, this is also why I liked Laura Bush, too. She and Michelle take no BS from people, not even their husbands. Marriage takes work and it is good to see that the Obama's (and even the Bushes) put their money where their mouths are with respect to marriage, family and values. It is good for young people to see this. Marriage is not a joke. If it were, it would be called "amusement" and not "commitment".
Caramel's picture

I read about this months

I read about this months ago...
Chica's picture

This is a true example of a

This is a true example of a real marriage! I've been married for almost 19yrs and its truly work the ONLY thing that hold us to gether is GOD himself allowing him to be in control! Clear and concise communication, and much prayer. So hat's off to our Prez and his wifey they are the best and the most down to earth public african american figures that I have seen in my time!
Divinequeen8's picture

I'm reading the comments, and

I'm reading the comments, and I must say, it touches my heart to see how people still view marriage as something that can and will work. While I doubt the validity of this book...I too agree that marriage is not something that should but entered idealistically but realistcally...everyone has problems, however, being able to work through those problems are what makes a marriage strong. As long as God is the bond that holds the marriage between the husband and wife, not the husband and wife and her girlfriends and vice versa...a marriage should last as long as our grandparents.
T-Star's picture

Barack is the man!: “Jesus,

Barack is the man!: “Jesus, I wish they’d stop grabbing my ass.” Ha!…. Our Prez does have a nice one though!...lol. I couldn't see myself being that bold. :)
NoEl's picture

Juanita Bynum once said that

Juanita Bynum once said that marriage is MINISTRY. A shame she didn't take her own advice...but I digress. A relationship, especially one that has two strong personalities takes W O R K. It isn't always fun, games and romance. That's why the marriage vows say for better or for worse. I like that they try to keep it real. Date night, time with the family all makes for a stronger bond. That's why it's dangerous for another woman to come along and think she can step into territory that has already stood the test of time. Kudos to Barack and Michelle for setting one hell of an example.
NoEl's picture

Every marriage has it's own

Every marriage has it's own problems. They seems to be doing a good job working on it. I wish them all the best!
peaceset's picture

God I love my President! The

God I love my President! The guy's just awesome! I love how relate-able they are, they are proof that staying in school and hard work pays off. Love it!
JamaicanQueen's picture

Sometimes u need those little

Sometimes u need those little woes 2 make ur relationship stronger.
WHAAAT!!!'s picture

“Jesus, I wish they’d stop

“Jesus, I wish they’d stop grabbing my ass.” Ha!....
Barack is the man!'s picture

llooovves the photo and yes

llooovves the photo and yes black and whites are always classic
PLATINUM B's picture

I'm gald they made it

I'm gald they made it through.
Miss GQ's picture

TMI on the First Marriage.

TMI on the First Marriage. Can we have the damn fairy tale a minute? WHy must they rush to over-normalize themselves. When he ran, he had to tell us on 60 Minutes that his daughters think he has smelly feet. Along the way, "here's my wife, she keeps it REAL." I get it. Stay the poster kids of Black love. Any fool knows no marriage is perfect, but don't be in such a rush to prove the point.
CorpAtty's picture

Makes me love'em even more!

Makes me love'em even more!
Mel from Toronto's picture

I love some of those quotes

I love some of those quotes And that picture. Never been married but marriage is a great deal of work in which some people take to lightly with the soaring divorce rates, just because you got a piece of paper and a ring on it doesn't mean that all will be happily ever after, like all things in life you get back what you put into it.
binky's picture

I have to get this book,

I have to get this book, because this post is speaking to me. I'm going through almost the same thing with my husband. The females who constantly push themselves onto him (who weren't EVEN thinking about him until we were married). The office politic drama at the job he brings home and it stresses me out. I fear my kids won't recognize their own daddy one day. LORD help. I think this book is a fantastic idea! We'll have to read it. TOGETHER.
Cook, Clean & Stay Flyy's picture

Lacey: Wow that is an

Lacey: Wow that is an interesting read. Women really need to grow up with jumping on married men. So disgusting. I agree. Once my boyfriend's single female friends found out that he was in a relationship, those heffas came out of the woodworks trying to get with him. But I told him that putting those beasts in check was his job... and he better get on it, QUICK!
Hootyjames's picture

I just read the reviews and

I just read the reviews and description of the book on Amazon and as much as I agree that Barack and Michelle are the greatest example for married folks. No one has asked how valid this person's book is. If Barack and Michelle hasn't given a direct interview about their marriage, how can we assume that these things really went on? I can make up all kinds of stories about a couple just based on things I find on the internet. Hearsay doesn't make it truth. Saying all that to say, we shouldn't go out and flood the market with our purchase of this book unless we know for sure this is something that the Obama's authored themselves. Otherwise it's just someone elses account of their marriage which they shouldn't have any first hand knowledge about.
Demetra's picture

LOVE MICHELLE & BARACK. THEY

LOVE MICHELLE & BARACK. THEY ARE BOTH LUCKY TO HAVE ONE ANOTHER AND WE ARE LUCKY TO HAVE THEM AS OUR FIRST FAMILY.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE MY FIRST FAMILY's picture

Wow that is an interesting

Wow that is an interesting read. Women really need to grow up with jumping on married men. So disgusting.
Lacey's picture

This is great! The book

This is great! The book itself should serve as a guide to the ultimate successful black marriage to rule the world handbook. We have far too many broken homes because couples throw in the towel and don't WORK IT OUT! Deep deeper, communicate & keep your family together. God Bless them!
Ms Mo's picture

I love them and Im in love

I love them and Im in love with this picture~ @Dezzi Dez That so wasnt funny AT ALL!!!!
Lady Redd's picture

that only showz how strong

that only showz how strong their relationship is.....i luv the 0bamas......they can do no wrong in my eyez...s0rry!
keki!....micheal jackson waz livin' art!!!!!!'s picture

This story just made me love

This story just made me love them even more!! They are true examples of black love!!
firstlady's picture

Is any ONE Surprised??? -

Is any ONE Surprised??? - Next!
ROYALFLUSHLADY's picture

I double <3 michelle and

I double <3 michelle and barack now for keeping it real. No marriage that has lasted as long as thiers have is without trials and tribulations.
keqi's picture

i like how they keep it

i like how they keep it real.... unlike everyome else who came before them thats why i love black folks... no bullshit!!!!
michelle's picture

Now they both saying.

Now they both saying. .NOthing but death can keep me part..(color purple lol) I love the Obama's...
JUST Bottom Line it....'s picture

No marriage is without

No marriage is without problems, anyone who acts like their marriage is "perfect" needs to quit lying. Barack & Michelle Obama are human. Period, end of story. I still love them and Barack is sexy so I can understand women wanting to get at him!
Chelly&#039;s Two Cents's picture

^^^^NOt funny...please never

^^^^NOt funny...please never ever joke like that..
Yo's picture

That wedding pic looks eerie

That wedding pic looks eerie for some reason. Like a dead bride and groom. Lol! I'm kidding (not really though). Still love the Obama's!!!
Dezzi Dez's picture

Every relationship has some

Every relationship has some trials, but thirsty women do not help the equation.
Yas's picture

Marriage is work and it takes

Marriage is work and it takes both parties being willing participants in making it work. There will always be outisde forces trying to drive a wedge b/t husband and wife. But if they can just remember that the only 3 entities that should be in a marriage are the husband, the wife and God, then it will make for a very strong foundation. I am divorced and that was our problem... one of us remembered that and the other did not. People fall in and out of love but it is important that at any given time at least one person is still in love so that they can try to hold on to the marriage. When both parties fall out of love at the same time then there is no one left to fight for the marriage...
JudgeMeNever's picture

I heart this pic sooo much.

I heart this pic sooo much. They look like they partied hard. Black and white pics are my fave!
Keeping it real........REAL DUMB's picture

Marriage takes work and this

Marriage takes work and this book may be a must read for married couples. Nothing worth having comes easy...
Ishea's picture

Sounds like a good read.

Sounds like a good read.
Black Betty Boop's picture

Johnny: It just proves that

Johnny: It just proves that they are REAL…. Exactly. I love Michelle and Barack. I've been married for seven years and their issues echo the issues of millions of other married couples across America. They are human just like the rest of us.
Shayla's picture

So they had issues which they

So they had issues which they were willing to work through and which ultimately strengthened them? Can someone please bottle this, patent it and sell it to the avg black couple?
Simms's picture

It just proves that they are

It just proves that they are REAL....
Johnny's picture

Mmmm. Its usually best for a

Mmmm. Its usually best for a couple to be married much longer than the Obama's in order to successfully weather the stresses of the presidency. The Bushes were obviously very married with a solid, unshakable, inpenetrable relationship. There are obvious cracks in the much younger Obamas just like there were cracks in the Kennedy's and Clinton's marriages. If something isn't done, the Obama's likely won't survive much longer than his term in office.
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