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Regina King To Black Women: DATE OUTSIDE YOUR RACE!

It's been a debatable and hot button topic amongst black women.  And now, actress Regina King, who was married for almost 10 years to her son's father until 2006, is speaking out to her fellow black women and telling them to start dating outside their race. 

 

She lays out her reasons and experiences with VIBE when you read on...

Of all groups of people, Black women are the least likely group of women that will date outside of their race. When you have everyone else who is willing to explore but a Black woman is like, "I want me a brother," well, if the brothers are out and they’re open to date everybody and the majority of Black women aren’t willing to look twice when a man outside of their race is sending them messages, then that makes our percentage rate lower and the chances of finding love, because we’re only looking in one specific place for finding love—with Black men.

Every single one of my girlfriends won’t date men that aren’t Black. I have maybe about five and these are people that I’m really considering my friends, not people that are associates or that you talk to or deal with at work. I have about five Black friends who date outside of their race. But all the other friends of mine, it’s either they vocally say that they won’t or every time an opportunity comes up for them to date outside of their race, there’s some excuse why it’s not going to work. They never really say it’s because he’s White, or because he’s Spanish or something like that. It’ll be more like, Well, you know he works at such and such, and our schedules don’t match.' But we’ll know really what it is. It's 'cause he’s White.

It’s more common here on the West Coast. I think in New York, you find more Black women that date outside of their race. But in L.A. not as many. I think Black women need to open up. A lot of Black women still carry a lot of pain when they see Black men with women who aren’t Black and that’s really unfortunate that that could make us so upset. It has to do with self esteem. With women on a whole, what a man thinks about us means so much to us. Does he think my hair is right? Does he think I look right? Does he think my ass is big enough? Does he think my titties are big enough?

 And 9 chances out of 10, that man didn’t even give a fuck. He couldn’t even tell that you had a pimple that day or that your hair wasn’t done. Most men don’t even give a fuck. And the men that do that are really paying attention that hard to your ass or titties or exterior stuff, that’s probably not the best person for you anyway. One of my friends was asking me if I would set him up with one of my friends and I asked him, "What do you like in a woman?" And his first thing was "exotic." I’m like, "What the hell does that mean?"

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Interesting points she makes.  And for once, someone's offering "solutions" to the "problems" black women are constantly being told they have.  Anyways, your thoughts?

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Although lots of black men

Although lots of black men seem to have a fetish for white girls not all of them are like that.
shauni's picture

I do NOT like Black men. They

I do NOT like Black men. They are too mean and too ugly. Black men, listen: White men have silky hair & pretty eyes. They don't have big, weird butts. They are good in bed, are fine and have jobs. They are your bosses! Remember who is writing your check, BM (if you have a job). Remember. That goes for you, too, Black women. White men write your Black thug boyfriends their checks-money that goes into YOUR households, so STOP bashing White men. Come to think of it, BM don't even have JOBS, so BW, you NEED to thank White men when they write your @sses your checks at the end of the month after you finish working, 'cause God knows BM isn't. OK??? BW, stop bashing White men before you have nowhere left to run from BM to. The only WW who date BM are 500 Wapes (White apes) in clown suits. They have 2nd grade educations and wear torn clothes until they fall off. They drive BM all over town because BM doesn't own a damn car. That's life.
Grape Ape's picture

I do NOT like Black men. They

I do NOT like Black men. They are too mean and too ugly. Black men, listen: White men have silky hair & pretty eyes. They don't have big, weird butts. They are good in bed, are fine and have jobs. They are your bosses! Remember who is writing your check, BM (if you have a job). Remember. That goes for you, too, Black women. White men write your Black thug boyfriends their checks-money that goes into YOUR households, so STOP bashing White men. Come to think of it, BM don't even have JOBS, so BW, you NEED to thank White men when they write your @sses your checks at the end of the month after you finish working, 'cause God knows BM isn't. OK??? BW, stop bashing White men before you have nowhere left to run from BM to. The only WW who date BM are 500 Wapes (White apes) in clown suits. They have 2nd grade educations and wear torn clothes until they fall off. They drive BM all over town because BM doesn't own a damn car. That's life.
Grape Ape's picture

Too all black women; contrary

Too all black women; contrary to popular belief, we white guys love your skin complexions and your muscular legs (like Serena). I can remember my anticipation of meeting black females back in 1998 via the internet, only to be turned down. I never understood why. I am still in contact with two of those black females. Give us white males a try, we will prove ourselves to be pleasurable in bed and a better choice for you overall.
Brian's picture

I'm still pissed to this day

I'm still pissed to this day that Darla's dad wouldn't let her go out with me cause I am white. I had already taken the azzkickin from the country white boys for it and everything. That one week of holding hands with her and talking to her everyday are very memorable. I hope you made a good life for yourself wonderful Darla. I remember you fondly sweet girl.
David in Corpus's picture

STAY WITH YOUR OWN PEOPLE

STAY WITH YOUR OWN PEOPLE DAMN NIGGERS STOP SPREADING SHIT TO OUR CLEAN WHITE RACE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
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THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
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THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
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THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS

THERES NO CLEAN IN BIGOTS LIKE YOU, AND BESIDES, YOUR WHITE WOMEN ARE COMING TO US EVEN IN MARRIAGE, SO KNAW ON THAT, YOU RAT-FACED BIGOT !!!
Anonymous's picture

I find that VERY FUNNY coming

I find that VERY FUNNY coming from race that has done nothing more in history than supress , rape, take, and pilmaged almost everything theyve touched or placed their feet on. You even gpo to other countries and rape teens and shit so you cant be caught and use them for porn etc. So take your own advice and cut your own nut sacks off so you can't infect others. Sides if these damaged ass black women will to take you on FINE, odds are youre threading out the damaged goods, ones that are on their backs for a bonus( and have the balls to say you "strived" to get to the top), and the bitches that think theyre just too damn. You inbred result of a misplaced money shot.
Anonymous's picture

Someone should have told that

Someone should have told that to your rapist forefathers, so called NIGGERS aren't unclean in the dark it seems. Idiot
Anonymous's picture

If you are a BLACK MAN

If you are a BLACK MAN reading the comments on this article then I assure you every black woman does NOT take part in bashing black men. I am a black woman and I'm pissed at black women like *Sasha* who say dumb shit like "there aint no more good black men out ther and we just have to accept it". I utterly disagree with this notion. This idea of "no more good" black men & women is an example of some serious self hating bitter loser shit thinking. And I'm sick of it!! Seriously!! There's nothing wrong with dating other races but if you have to bash your OWN race as an excuse then you have SERIOUS ISSUES!! I prefer black men. I'm attracted to non-black men too. However, I noticed that the non-black men I'm attracted to tend to be similar to black men or at least have a similar swag & demeanor. I like black men, puerto rican men, latin men, asian men, dark featured white men etc etc
Caramel~'s picture

I'm one of those good black

I'm one of those good black men, that had a dark skinned woman, who bitched about black men that dated white women. So what is she doing now?? Dating a white guy, so explain that to me. lol
Kiara Ashanti's picture

UGH!! OKAY WE GET IT!! If

UGH!! OKAY WE GET IT!! If you, a black person, decide to date interracially then kudos to you! *gives you your cookie* HOWEVER, there is NO NEED ladies and gentlemen to bash one another!! I am disturbed by *some* black women on here bashing black men and promoting race hopping. Stop that shit. I hate it when black men bash black women and I'm also sickened when black women bash black men. How about this black people! Stop putting each other down and start relating to each other again. Stop doing everything ass backwards. Have pride. If you, a black person, prefer dating non-black people then do you sweetie! Like I said, kudos to you. But don't put down black people that PREFER to have a black life partner and black children because BLACK is their PREFERENCE!!
Caramel~'s picture

I agree that all black people

I agree that all black people need to come together but was there ever a time that we related and never had that "Crawfish in a Barrel" mentality?!
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valerie's picture

I like reading these kinds of

I like reading these kinds of blogs because I am black women deeply in love with a White man. I can definately say that there is something wrong with Black people, both men and women. The women are more concerned with backstabbing, golddiging and screwing. The men are lazy, unmotivated and uneducated. You can't have all those deficiencies in 1 person. ie an uneducated person can be taught to work and eventually become more educated, and a backstabbing person can learn to lead a more productive lifestyle when they see that karma is universal. Black people aren't willing to change themselves in general. Unfortunately that is what is drawing us apart, but hopefully if we get to the point where more mixed marriages are common, and more multiculturals are born, the playing field will be a wee bit more level, and we can just be MEN and WOMEN.
Anonymous's picture

Sellout best describes a blck

Sellout best describes a blck bitch like you
Anonymous's picture

I don't know if you are

I don't know if you are really a black woman or a white person lying but you are stupid. How dare you speak as though all black men are uneducated or undesirable!! There are uneducated people in ALL races, UNPRODUCTIVE people in ALL races that aren't willing to change themselves. You make a general assumption and speak as if you KNOW ALL black men and women!!! Maybe you have been with Many uneducated black men and because of your choices, and I am also wondering if you are an orphan because obviously you have no respect for your black mother and black father. If you are so called "in love" with a "white" man, that's your business but DON"T put down my black brothers or sisters because you "THINK" you've won the "Prize" out of the crackerjack box!!!!
margie's picture

You are very ignorant! You

You are very ignorant! You are a perfect example of a self hating black person! You take negative attributes that ANY race of human can have and make them out to be attributes of mostly black people which couldn't be more further from the truth. "The women are more concerned with backstabbing, golddiging and screwing. The men are lazy, unmotivated and uneducated." Are you serious?! You can find those negative characteristics in ANY damn race! And whose "screwing" more than white women?! And do you know how many "uneducated" white men gain success quicker than the most educated of black men in this fucking nation?! Do you know that the majority of those non-black women with those black athelets are "golddiggers"?! Do I need to give more examples or did I make more fucking point?! UGH you sicken me! A self hating black person is more of a threat than a racist white or non-black person any day!!
Caramel~'s picture

*athletes

*athletes
Caramel~'s picture

I like reading these kinds of

I like reading these kinds of blogs because I am black women deeply in love with a White man. I can definately say that there is something wrong with Black people, both men and women. The women are more concerned with backstabbing, golddiging and screwing. The men are lazy, unmotivated and uneducated. You can't have all those deficiencies in 1 person. ie an uneducated person can be taught to work and eventually become more educated, and a backstabbing person can learn to lead a more productive lifestyle when they see that karma is universal. Black people aren't willing to change themselves in general. Unfortunately that is what is drawing us apart, but hopefully if we get to the point where more mixed marriages are common, and more multiculturals are born, the playing field will be a wee bit more level, and we can just be MEN and WOMEN.
Anonymous's picture

At some point we all have to

At some point we all have to realize that none of us wants to live the rest of our lives alone. Based on history, and traditions, we have all listened to someone elses advice on who you should date and why. This is YOUR life and no one can live it for you. Just follow your gut instincts when you choose the right man. Our lives were predestined by God, and we have to seek Him in order to find the man He chose for us. Sometimes your gift may be wrapped a little differently than you thought.
Malia's picture

I have dated men of other

I have dated men of other races, but mainy black men. I will always love and hold a strong attraction to black men, but in my experiences dating, I have always been treated better by white men. Why is that? The way I'm treated by white men is how I see some black men treat white women. But, those same black men don't treat black women as they do white women. Why is that? Aren't we worth the same love, affection, attention, adoration, and respect you show women of other races? I don't get it. Please help me understand. I don't have a problem seeing black men with non black women, I just have a problem with how you treat us versus them.
Anonymous's picture

I agree. I dont know where

I agree. I dont know where you live, but it is worse in the southern area. I do not like to categorize black men but however, I do see a common trait amonst the many that have asked me out or the ones that I have dated. All black men are not the same but I will say that the potentials are scarce.
Anonymous's picture

Who knows girl. The friends

Who knows girl. The friends of mine that are black do not elaborate on this subject when us white boys and latinos bring it up. They think we are making it up and listening too much to bitter black women. And... you gotta watch some white boys, some of them date black women just to piss off black men. Tis the whole whose pecker is bigger thing. I don't get it, then again I am hung like a mule, lol. See. It always ends up being about the pecker again, lol.
David in Corpus's picture

God, all these people with

God, all these people with the "black love" concept makes me sick to my stomach. To all you sistas that are too ignant and racist to date outside their race, just be ready to be alone for the rest of your life...get over yourselves, it's 2011. Get with the times and find yourself a "white man" meaning a good man. There aint no more good black men out ther and we just have to accept it. Smdh!
Sasha's picture

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL and always wanted to date outside my race. :D
reesecup's picture

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL and always wanted to date outside my race. :D
reesecup's picture

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL and always wanted to date outside my race. :D
reesecup's picture

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL and always wanted to date outside my race. :D
reesecup's picture

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL and always wanted to date outside my race. :D
reesecup's picture

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL

wow.all i gotta say is i WILL and always wanted to date outside my race. :D
reesecup's picture

Right on Samara!!!!!!

Right on Samara!!!!!!
katy's picture

Generalizations are on this

Generalizations are on this board. Nothing is proven to say who would be a better companion. However, disparities still exist and racism still exist in this country. This can make interracial relationships hard to complete. For instance, I am a White male working for a 500 fortune company and it is established I married an African-American woman, I cannot go to company parties or bring my lady or wife to company functions, because I am of another race or color. This type of issue exist in America today. Regina King promoting interracial relationships might work for her, but I have not seen her out with another person of race or color. Why, stereotypes exist and prejudice exist, and you do not play where you eat. Black men is this country has faced odds whether their educated, athlete, uneducated, movie actor, or criminal. It does not matter because stereotypes of the media presents a distorted image of Black men. Racism does not discriminate, so if you are ready to face discrimination and black lash and you can take it, then by all accounts date out of your race;however, if you are not strong enough then dating outside of your race might not be for you. All, I am trying to say is do what ever floats your boat, but remember there are consequences behind every decision made, and can you deal with situation. I love my black sister, but not all of our black sisters are peaceful. I have dated white women and some of them are feisty, argumentative, and confronting as black women. It is not the race, but the individual who are dealing with. I do not care, if the person is white, blue, red or purple, an individual has to examine the person and what is within, then make a decision based on that. There are good black and white women out there, just as there are good Black and White men. The problem is America has not changed about race, and until that is resolved interracial dating will have it's issues.
Anonymous's picture

Generalizations are on this

Generalizations are on this board. Nothing is proven to say who would be a better companion. However, disparities still exist and racism still exist in this country. This can make interracial relationships hard to complete. For instance, I am a White male working for a 500 fortune company and it is established I married an African-American woman, I cannot go to company parties or bring my lady or wife to company functions, because I am of another race or color. This type of issue exist in America today. Regina King promoting interracial relationships might work for her, but I have not seen her out with another person of race or color. Why, stereotypes exist and prejudice exist, and you do not play where you eat. Black men is this country has faced odds whether their educated, athlete, uneducated, movie actor, or criminal. It does not matter because stereotypes of the media presents a distorted image of Black men. Racism does not discriminate, so if you are ready to face discrimination and black lash and you can take it, then by all accounts date out of your race;however, if you are not strong enough then dating outside of your race might not be for you. All, I am trying to say is do what ever floats your boat, but remember there are consequences behind every decision made, and can you deal with situation. I love my black sister, but not all of our black sisters are peaceful. I have dated white women and some of them are feisty, argumentative, and confronting as black women. It is not the race, but the individual who are dealing with. I do not care, if the person is white, blue, red or purple, an individual has to examine the person and what is within, then make a decision based on that. There are good black and white women out there, just as there are good Black and White men. The problem is America has not changed about race, and until that is resolved interracial dating will have it's issues.
Anonymous's picture

Forget race...just fall in

Forget race...just fall in love.
Anonymous's picture

Date whoever you want...this

Date whoever you want...this debate is useless.
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