Steve Harvey: Men Can't Be Friends With Women?!

Dec 20 | by YBF

Well here's an interesting convo. Especially around the Holidays when you see all those exes and "friends" again back home and start to wonder if it could work again. Steve Harvey appeared on CNN to promote his new book 'Straight Talk, No Chaser.' Find out what he had to say about males having female friends when you read on...

Steve sat down with CNN's Fredricka Whitfield to talk about his new book on relationships. I guess hes been deemed the expert after his "Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man" book. Watch the video to see his viewpoint on why males can't have female friends.

Do you agree with Steve? Is it impossible for a male to have a true female friend? Now I wasn't the biggest Steve Harvey fan after his previous book seemed to just spew common sense at women and expected them to literally buy into. But I admit, I agree with Steve and it's been my philospohphy that after a certain age--males and females who just met cannot be strictly friends. Meaning--at least 1 party is always willing to be sexually interested to some extent. Whether they admit it or not.

Your thoughts?

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Y'all need to take a chill

Y'all need to take a chill pill. Look, the answer is "YES"! OK, simple answer. Steve Harvey is a liar and a half. He's the naive fool. And quite frankly, all this "I would not let my husband be with his girlfriends" talk is stupid. Look I'm a guy who hates a bunch of chicks next to me. So I prefer the woman that's one of the guys, who chills out with me and the guys. Anyways, Steve Harvey a liar, who can't back up his evidence, he's a boring fool. I don't care how educated he may be, he's a liar. A liar, nothing more. I'll take an uneducated person who would tell the truth over this lying jerk anytime. Harvey is naive. This "men and women cannot be friends" is something fathers and mothers feeds their sons and daughters, so they're brainwashed into this mentality from childhood. Oh, racially, I seen more white people that are conservative about this, at least American white people. I think American white people are the most conservative when it comes to this. Look in America, in the Bible Belt, I bet most women there don't even have guy friends. Had to post my name

by Adam Guzman
1:57 am - Sep 12, '11

Y'all need to take a chill

by Anonymous
1:54 am - Sep 12, '11

Wasn't Steve Harvey friends

Wasn't Steve Harvey friends with wife # 3 when he was married to wife #2???

by Anonymous
12:02 pm - Feb 6, '11

Yup, which proves he's a

Yup, which proves he's a liar. Anyways, I don't admire him because I prefer a woman with guy friends. I don't know why guys like him try to act all innocent when commenting on woman, when I see a hot women, and maybe I'm not a gentleman for this but at least I'm honest, I say hot tits. LMAO

by Anonymous
2:00 am - Sep 12, '11

I think steve is right and to

I think steve is right and to prove it.....Ladies with male friends listen up. Call up your males friends and tell them you want to come over and give them a blow job. Bet five they won't say no. what man would say no b/c "Friends don't do that" if you believe that your an idiot

by MrJazzPurr26
11:23 am - Dec 24, '10

Bullshit

by Anonymous
2:03 am - Sep 12, '11

Lol I know thas right. Most

Lol I know thas right. Most oif not all my guy friends wanted to get with me at one point n I just turned them down

by VeryOpinionated
8:35 pm - Dec 23, '10

you just proved steve point

you just proved steve point all your male friends "wanted to get with you at one time" why do you still friends. Yeah of course they will be friends given the opportunity they may still have a chance.

by MrJazzPurr26
11:20 am - Dec 24, '10

This from a man who is on his

This from a man who is on his third marriage, tax dodger, beat his first wife, stole her money, tried to have committed to the nut house when she complained...You have got to be kidding to heed advice from this man....he is laughing all the way to the bank...not my hard earned dollar...Steve go away...

by pebblebeach
6:36 am - Dec 23, '10

This from a man who is on his

by pebblebeach
6:36 am - Dec 23, '10

This from a man who is on his

by pebblebeach
6:36 am - Dec 23, '10

This from a man who is on his

by pebblebeach
6:35 am - Dec 23, '10

This from a man who is on his

by pebblebeach
6:35 am - Dec 23, '10

I'm living proof a man cannot

I'm living proof a man cannot be friends because the psyche of a man is to find the most attractive mate possible. That attractiveness could include personality attributes as well but physical is usually the biggest factor. I have been overweight all my life until age 21. I lost weight and got cute and man I discovered a whole new world. Guys would wave at me down the street. Strike up conversations in line, be so nice and polite when they never seemed to notice me before. I had quite a few male friends that I studied with, clubbed with, gave me relationship advice, help me buy a car,so on. But when I began gaining back weight these same friends came around less and less and today I have one and he's gay. Men are very superficial ladies, damit I can't even get one to smile at me anymore. But guess what, I'm getting the lapband soon and I bet they will come out of hiding once again.

by big lil chick
2:49 pm - Dec 22, '10

I'm living proof a man cannot

by big lil chick
2:48 pm - Dec 22, '10

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by Anonymous
9:49 am - Dec 22, '10

I have to say I COMPLETELY

I have to say I COMPLETELY agree w/ steve on this one!!!! I have always believed that men and women can't really be friends b/c it doesn't stay a strict friendship for very long. Eventually one person is gonna start to have romantic feelings for the other person OR both people start to dig each other. Because first off if you consider this person of the opposite sex to be a great friend you'll end up spending alot of time with him/ her THEN one of the two friends will start to realize that they love the qualities in the other friend THEN the issue of I want my man or woman to be like this friend arises, THEN comes the realization that you don't just want someone like this friend...you want this friend...and that's where the problems start b/c once romantic feelings develop the relationship goes from "this is my good buddy" to "how can I make my buddy like me"...then the friendship is officially over b/c it either turns into a relationship (which means it's no longer just a friendship) or the truth comes out and makes things awkward.

by Maine
10:41 pm - Dec 21, '10

This is harvey's personal

This is harvey's personal opinion because he can't do it.

by KingDavidLives
10:31 pm - Dec 21, '10

Umm, last time I checked

Umm, last time I checked Oprah was in a committed relationship w/a man. Yet she is always saying "I was just talking to my good friend John (Travolta) or my good friend Barack (POTUS). I don't think she made these friendships in her youth & what does he consider Shirley & Carla? Just co-host/co-workers? By his own statement he is implying that. I would've thought from their chemistry that he would consider them friends. I'm sure those ladies would consider him a friend. Just a thought.

by Juat a thought
9:23 pm - Dec 21, '10

I believe deeply that the

I believe deeply that the only way a man and a women can be friends is if they have already had bad sex

by Anonymous
6:49 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

people that think men and women CAN be *just friends* are either not attractive or not enlightened yet or don't want to accept they keep such a *friend* to make themselves feel better , getting attention or giving it....

by Anonymous
6:18 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:18 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:17 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:17 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:15 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:15 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:14 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:14 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

people that think men and women CAN be *just friends* are either not attractive or not enlightened yet or don't want to accept they keep such a *friends* to make themselves feel better , getting attention or giving it....

by Anonymous
6:13 pm - Dec 21, '10

people that think men and

by Anonymous
6:13 pm - Dec 21, '10

This is what happens when men

This is what happens when men start liking men or simply age to the point that they loose the sexual attraction to women. Steve would have never said this twenty years ago.

by Anonymous
5:47 pm - Dec 21, '10

This is an argument that

This is an argument that never seems to go away. Of course men and women cna ONLY be friends. Men and women can be friends just like you can be friends with the same sex. Not everything and everybody's life revolves around sex. If it does, then maybe you have another kind of problem.

by Diary of a Single Black Woman
5:24 pm - Dec 21, '10

I totally agree. It's totally

I totally agree. It's totally possible to be just friends. Don't get me wrong, I have (and still have) friends of the opposite sex that like me or vice versa but I also have male friends that are actually just friends. Like you said, just like people have platonic relationships with the same sex you can have a male friend with a great personality and ya'll are just cool ass friends and just aren't attracted to each other in that way. He needs to speak for himself.

by chantayk
11:30 pm - Dec 21, '10

Steve is just an opportunist

Steve is just an opportunist and pimping Black Men's actions to the bank. He's not an authority on relationships, certainly not after being married three times. I also, personally know that he does not practice what he preaches but I wish I had his money, just wouldn't want to be him.....he's a the modern day Amos & Andy. Yes, I am Black!!!

by Anonymous
5:07 pm - Dec 21, '10

Steve is just an opportunist

by Anonymous
5:06 pm - Dec 21, '10

I don't totally agree with

I don't totally agree with Mr. Harvey, and who is he to speak for all men. I think he just likes to hear him self talk. I have male friends who don't try to cross the line. It just depends on the two friends. Lets get his wifes opinion on this...

by Anonymous
1:32 pm - Dec 21, '10

Is he getting paid for

Is he getting paid for this? Just saying...

by Anonymous
1:24 pm - Dec 21, '10

10 MORE YEARS THIS MAN HEAD /

10 MORE YEARS THIS MAN HEAD / FACE/ TEETH IS GOING TO BE A HEAVY MESS.......

by Big Mama Cornbread
1:36 pm - Dec 21, '10

Why is that everyone even

Why is that everyone even listens to this guy for relationship advice. What training or expertise is it that he has????...... right no formal education and 2 failed marriages. Seriously, live you own life. There is no one size fits all rules for relationships. Steve is a joke and the fact that so many people take him seriously is disappointing.

by Anonymous
12:55 pm - Dec 21, '10

agreed!!!:) thank you finally

agreed!!!:) thank you finally someone with a brain lol

by anonymous
11:21 pm - Dec 21, '10

I'll second that!

by selfmade
9:02 pm - Dec 21, '10

I'll second that!

by selfmade
9:02 pm - Dec 21, '10

If the woman is cut off from

If the woman is cut off from the waist and her mouth is wired shut, a man and woman can be friends.

by Anonymous
12:22 pm - Dec 21, '10

I agree with Steve on this

I agree with Steve on this one. I've had male friends that I considered like family and more than one of them have confessed to me (in a moment of their own weakness) that they had really liked me secretly for years. I just had one guy that has been my friend for two years do that to me a week ago. 1)If you are not attracted to them--no problem--because you won't allow it to go anywhere. 2)If they are to attracted to you, they are sidelining until they see a crack in the door. 3)If yall are both attracted to each other--it's less of a friendship and more an exercise in restraint. Yall are both feeling each other and just holding on...

by Tatum Moss
11:42 am - Dec 21, '10

This is a tough one. I

This is a tough one. I wouldn't say NEVER, but I do think it is hard. At some point one or the other eventually start having "feelings" if they haven't already. Particularly if one is physically attractive or have a lot of great qualities...I agree with Steve overall, but do think there are instances when that is not the case.

by Dee
11:18 am - Dec 21, '10

I've had MALE FRIENDS since

I've had MALE FRIENDS since the beginning of time! THEY have NEVER crossed me (and I'm a BAD CHICK). They rather have me for a lifetime as a friend, than as a quick sexual experience. And Lawd knows, I'm not attracted to any of them in ANY way. I disagree with STEVE. Only, mature adults can have STRICTLY PLATONIC relationships with the opposite sex.

by FEELING DISRESPECTED
10:15 am - Dec 21, '10

Girl, you're tripping. Your

Girl, you're tripping. Your opinion of you being a "BAD CHICK," lies in the eyes of the beholder. If by chance they're not lying in wait, there is definitely something they don't like about you. It's like having "gay friends." You know, you have a "gay friend" that likes being around females and acting like their "sister or something." Not all, but 99% of male-female friendships work the way that Steve indicates.

by Anonymous
12:07 pm - Dec 21, '10

I somewhat agree with Steve.

I somewhat agree with Steve. I have always had male friends, and my best male friend, who I could go to for anything, never crossed the line with me, went there about a month ago. He told me how he loves me as more than a friend and wondered how we would be in a relationship and how he constantly thought about how sex with me would be. Well, since I honestly never saw him that way, our friendship has suffered because of that. Most men can be your friend, but if they are into women they would not hesistate to be there for you "in every way" when you need them, and they would not turn down sex. So, I kind of agree with Steve, while women are thinking they have a BFF, men are thinking one day, the timing will be right, stars aligned, and something more will happen, until then they will continue on the friendship road.

by Renae
9:27 am - Dec 21, '10

All I can say is you are

All I can say is you are right. I think that WOMEN can be friends with men a lot easier than men can be friends with women. Let me add this disclaimer: this is based on MY experience. ALL of my male friends have tried to pursue me in one way or another. I don't say that in an arrogant way or anything. It is actually very frustrating. Renae you hit the nail on the head when you said they will be there for you in EVERY way if they think they stand a chance SOME DAY. I'd like to think that men and women can be friends and I think that there are instances where that is plausible for some people. It has just been MY experience that its difficult. A friendship that I deeply cherish of ten years is coming to an end because HE can't deal with the fact that I am into someone else and can't see him that way. SIGHS.

by Rene`
9:49 am - Dec 22, '10

Yeah I do think it is harder

Yeah I do think it is harder for men than women...not always, but if I had to pick one, I would say it is harder for men because of the sexual element. I think most men have in the back of their mind the what if factor

by Dee
11:23 am - Dec 21, '10