TOO SOON!? When SHOULD A Single Mom Introduce Her Kids To Her New Man?
Over the holidays, Jennifer Lopez was spotted in Hawaii with her twins Max and Emme AND her new boy-toy, 24-year-old Casper Smart. Now that Casper is joining the whole family on trips, it has folks asking if she should have introduced her youngins to her new man so soon? Speak on it inside....
No one would expect a hot single mom to remain single forever. But moving on just months after a divorce...with a backup dancer half your age...and you're introducing him to your kids 15 minutes later? It does beg the question.
42-year-old Jennifer Lopez was spotted with her new boy toy of the moment, Casper Smart, in Hawaii this Thanksgiving. And he was seen playing with her kids Max and Emme on the beach yesterday. Given, he probably already knew the kids somewhat simply because Jenny probably brought them to work a time or two. But....vacationing with them? Hmmm...
Clearly "moving on" worked for Kimora Lee Simmons whose blended family is like the "standard" most would probably like if they were in that situation.
And introducing the kiddie early also worked for Halle Berry, whose new beau Olivier Martinez seems in awe of little Nahla. But still...some folks are questioning why J. Lo took her new man on holiday with her and the twins and other family members for Thanksgiving. How soon is too soon?
Relationship expert Sandy Weiner says it's hard to put a "time" on how soon is too soon, but adds that before you introduce someone into your kids life, it should be someone you are serious about and who is a "...steady presence in your life."
She also says,
In my opinion, a more casual relationship should be kept out of your kids’ lives. Period. Your children don’t need to form attachments to men who won’t stick around. If you have shared custody with your ex-spouse, there are plenty of opportunities to date when you’re not with your kids. I highly recommend beginning any relationship that way. The last thing your kids need, on top of the emotional turmoil of a divorce, is the complication of their involvement and attachment (or friction) with the new man in your life. If you are very serious about this relationship, you’re going to want to slowly integrate him into your children’s lives.
So what do you think? Is it ok to introduce a brand new man into your kids life only MONTHS after you've left their father? SPEAK ON IT.....