SPEAK ON IT!

I think that a lot of these issues speak to one's age. When I was young, I was superficial. When I first dated, I liked light-skinned men , I wanted the Al B. Sure/Christopher Williams type because I deemed the light skinned and soft curly hair to be sexy. Then later I enjoyed the dark skinned men. My ex husband is African. I have children who are of different complexions. My middle daughter who is high-yellow used to resent her skin color wanting to be darker like her 2 sisters until she met the fair skinned members of my family. To make a long story short, now that I'm in my 40's, I find that skin color doesn't even matter anymore. The most important things are to have a man who loves God and treats me and my children with respect, who is willing to step up to the bat and become both a husband and father in my household. I'm a strong black woman because I am the sole supporter of my household but let me tell you when the right man comes in my life, I will have no problem with taking the backseat and let a man be a man no matter what his skin looks like. With that being said, who cares what type of women Eric Benet and Little Wayne prefer. All this arguing is not going to change people's preferences. In reality we all have preferences in one form or another and there is nothing wrong with that. So let's call a truce, agree to disagree and let people love whom they want. Just be concerned about you doing you and let others do what they do. BTW, I keep reading guys saying "You BLACK women" then saying "Redbone" or "Light-skinned" women. My brotha we are ALL black women, chocolate, pecan tan,Coffee, Red, High-Yellow, etc. That's the true beauty of black people, we come in different hues and yet we are all one.

Another case of the Brian McKnightis, which is an older black man going through a mid life crises.

It's not that the redbone thing is the only problem, it's just not a great song.

Eric Benet, who is he? Does anybody care? Reallly? He's a nobody with all this dumb 'ish

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@MyAlter It's a known fact that people who are sex addicts and suffer other addictions sometimes over indulge in their addictions to cover up or suppress other sexual feelings or urges! In Eric's case he is in denial of his gayness so this is why he became an sex addict in the attempt to sleep w/ as many women has he could to prove his manliness to himself. All the while hating to accept being a gay man. I also might add to the fact that he also feels having as he calls a Redbone woman also helps him feel as if he as a trophy woman or a prized possession this also helps builds his ego and helps him to again deny his feelings for men. This is just my assessment explaining the gay part. Thank-You Very Much. I am definitely in the wrong field. I should be a psychologist

Like @Tori said point blank Eric Benet is IRRELEVENT! All of these old men R&B singer's like Eric B and Brian McNight are pathetic! Eric song Redbone Girls and Brian McNight song called Anal Sex or Anal Love whatever it's called are all desperate attempts to get attention because nobody's checking for their Hasbeen, Rejected, All but forgotten irrelevant in the music biz selves! OK! This story is a waste of typing time. Eric B had Halle Berry no redbone,brownbone, darkbone or any other color women can ever satisfy a gay man! Next!

Look, i'm chocolate, married a red bone, have 4, all beautiful children in a range of complexionns. My mom chocolate, married a honey brown, my father. His mom hi yellow, his dad brown. My mom's mom chocolate married chocolate man born into a family of hi yellows, 13 of them. We are all beautiful. That is the beauty of us as a people on these shores we run the gamut.

Eric is irrelevant, his song is irrelevant, and his opinion is irrelevant. He must still be hurting from people saying "light-skin dudes aren't in style anymore" lol. Beauty comes in all shades, no need to single out only one group of people that are beautiful.

Aye letsgetit... stfu!!! You sound WAY WORSE than these woman you claim are whining!! You got a pussy my dude?? **Eyebrows raised** Sound like you on your period the way you goin in... Don't get it twisted you make valid points my man but... uh lets be real... U sound kinda bitch made. I smell coochie bruh... Truf...

@LetsGetit The point you made was IRRELEVANT! If anyone's deflecting it's YOU! We weren't discussing a black man in a household with two black parents or even a single black mother telling their sons not to date a black woman. You said that black women in GENERAL tell their sons they are too dark and should bleach their skin, correct? I said I've never heard that UNLESS the PARENT OR PARENTS are self hating people as well. The issue here isn't what gender raised them but the mindset of the parent(s) who raised them. CLEARLY you have an issue with black mothers, because how do you know that black fathers don't tell their sons not to date black women? It goes both ways, one gender isn't exempt. Your comments are asinine STOP derailing from the REAL ISSUE. Oh and please stop calling me sista and black woman, I'm not ya DAMN SISTA OR YOUR BLACK WOMAN! YOUR ASS NEEDS SERIOUS HELP!! Take it up with Jesus not ME!

I think that the song is Eric Benet featuring Lil Wayne is more of an issue than the title. I mean, can we escape this little man at any point?! I'm so over Wayne!!

Who even listens to Eric Benet? He needs some type of controversy to stay relevant. Please. Boring.

@by Crazy Sexy Cool 2:29 pm Here you go deflecting, your brotha letsgetit deals with black women who deflect every damn day SO YOU CAN'T GET ME WITH THAT BLACK WOMAN!!! Now let me say this i have never seen a black man that grew up under a household with a BLACK FATHER , AND A BLACK MOTHER say that a woman "Is too dark for them to date" I'VE NEVER SEEN IT!!! But i have seen ignorant asss negros who CAME FROM A SINGLE PARENT BLACK WOMAN HOME!! Say some silly shit like that, and you know what was funny , the guy that says that , was verbally abused by his dark skinned black mother lollllll!!!! SO it always goes back to black women , and what they teaching their kids!!!!

This is a waste of a post. Signed, Dark Skin Girl with Confidence

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Personally I'm not offended by this crap anymore. I think it's quite SAD and somewhat FUNNY that DARK SKINNED MEN (i.e. LIL WAYNE) find comfort in dissing dark skinned women. Not only do most of these men have dark skinned mothers, children, but they are usually the DARKEST one in the bunch. It's a complex they have about themselves and they try to compensate for this by dating lighter or whiter women. Most of these rappers, singers and ballers before they made it big could never get these type of chicks, so when they do it's a constellation prize. Lil wayne most specifically is ugly and he knows this, look at the tattoos/piercings all over his body, it's called SELF MUTILATION. So no I'm not mad I PITY men like this. Side note: it probably wouldn't be as offensive to most people if he didn't have lil wayne on the song. Everyone knows how his self hating ass thinks.

This song will only offend insecure women. I think women of all shades are beautiful. So what he made a song about red bones. Build a bridge and get over it.