HI, LetsGetIt... I hope that this reply finds you in good spirit. Your statement seems a tad harsh, no? It feels that you're tearing down a whole population of African-American women based on their hair selection and I don't believe that this is fair. If wearing a weave and putting in blue contacts is "trying to look like a white women", I believe that it is an unconscious 'try' rather than intentional so let me share my hypothesis. Could it simply be that we have turned into a product of our environment? Assimilation? We only account for less than 12% of the United States population, so it could be very easy to take on characteristics of the majority of the country that we are living. Remember, this is not home base and even the African American women that we do come encounter with here in the United States are not wearing their hair, naturally. When we see commercials on TV for hair products for women, it is either a white woman selling shampoo swinging her golden tresses or a black woman selling a relaxer. Have you ever seen a commercial on TV promoting natural hair products for African Americans? Any? Ok, one? So I ask you, LetsGetIt, since we come from a generation that was chained and brought to this country, leaving our culture and natural way a living behind, how do we learn how to do our own hair? We don't. We learn how to do what is most convenient to feel "comfortable" going outside in the environment where the majority rules. More and more African American women are coming to "free minded" conscious state of being to be in touch with the way that God created them, but before this, what do we do? We take on traits of the people that surround us. Trying to be something that we are not sounds so negative, degrading, and demeaning, as if you are tearing black women down for being the product of their environment. If we were in Africa, I can tell you as a fact that African American women would feel more comfortable wearing their natural hair, and weaves would be the uncomfortable look. Why? Because the majority of people in Africa are not wearing weaves nor do they have relaxed hair. So before tearing down the women that should be lifted up, compliment her on what you do like about her, rather than finding the one or two things that you don't and generalizing all the women of your own culture for being born black in America. God bless, my brotha.

Back in the day brother's did perm they're hair, but now they're to busy killing each other. bEGING DEADBEAT fathers! Uneducated, no job smoking weed all day. And ready to pounce on the next vulnerable black woman while they live of us, but when they do leave. They are leaving us to raise mistakes like you!! Are brother's have let us down half of their asses are in jail or dead and most likely it's by their on doing. Or with a white women because the master said ya couldn't have a white woman. When i see a black man walking down the street I try to walk on the other side bad to say but it's the truth. BLACK men's drop their seed's like its a plant about to die some of my brother's can't tell you how many baby mama's they have. And your mad at us for what? Yes we do have attitudes we like to dress, and some of us wear weave. But what some black mens cant see is if you get a bad ass sister. My husband loves the fact I can hold my own. Was able to buy a house 2 new cars have a good job to back his good ass job up. Stop fucking with them weak ass woman and getting mad!! Black man should get their shit together, help us raise are daughter's to be princesses and are son's to be kings. So we can save are black community.

I'm 3c mix all the way to 4b....I love my kinky curly hair, it looks and feels and grows so much better than relaxed hair...there is nothing wrong with weave! It's a great protective style, it is not supposed to be worn to replace your own hair tho...it's not a permanent fixture...and about the whole wanna look white situation, I think it's more of women wanting to look pleasing and presentable, than looking like a white woman because white women, spanish women, asians they straighten their hair too! Its just blacks permanently straighten because they dont know how to maintain their curls, we have versatile hair that we have not learned as a populace to maintain, and style. Its easier to maintain when its relaxed because You can comb it everyday when it's straight.. I can only safely comb my hair on wash days...but I know how to style it cute and am confident with my curls. Some of us aren't confident because it more ties us to a less modern time when people didn't get their hair straightened. Anyway basically it's not about trying to be white, it's about trying to look how we feel comfortable. I guess the white women who get perms are trying to be black, if we look at it that way.

You're generalizing again. I don't fall into the category of "blonde headed chocolate covered wanna be white women." Everyone has a right to their opinion and this is a fire topic. Soooo ~ since I was taught to never argue with fools because they will beat you everytime with experience, I will sit in my corner and read these lovely exchanges. Deuces.

lol, booked, your brotha letsgetit say what he says out of love. If i didn't love you black women I WOULDN'T BE TELLING THE TRUTH LIKE I DO!!!!BLACK WOMEN DON'T UNDERSTAND ANYTHING KINDDDDD, SHIT they call men that open the door and pay the bills for her lame, a trick, or too damn niceeeee. So i gotta come harddddddddd thats the onlything most black women understandddd