HAVING HER SAY: Jason Collins' Ex-Fiancee Carolyn Moos -- “I Empathize....But I REMAIN Deeply Hurt By Him"
Carolyn Moos, the ex-fiancee of Jason Collins, the NBA baller who famously came out a few months ago, is speaking out about Jason's dishonesty during their courtship and how he's continued to lead her on since his announcement. Hear her side of things inside...
A few months ago, NBA player Jason Collins (who's still unsigned, but technically still in the NBA) became a hero for coming out, but Carolyn Moos, the woman who spent eight years of her life with him romantically, doesn't necessarily see him as a hero.
"I wish he could have been honest with me years ago...He’s being hailed as a pioneer, but I believe true heroism is a result of being honest with yourself and with those you love.”
In the August issue of Cosmopolitan, Carolyn offers a first-person account of how she felt before, during and after her courtship and engagement to Jason. And she's still hurting.....
After years of doubting herself and why she wasn't good enough, Jason's announcement added a further sting once he promised to follow up with her and answer any additional questions....but he didn't. Here are the highlights from the ex's interview:
On Jason calling off their four-year engagement:
The day Jason canceled the wedding was surreal. It was July of 2009, and he had just returned home from a road trip with his twin brother, Jarron. I had been living with Jason in Los Angeles for the previous year, ever since our engagement. He told me, "You may want to sit down." I loved this man deeply. He was intelligent, good-humored, handsome, and importantly, taller than I am—7 feet. (I'm 6 feet 5 and a former pro basketball player myself.) His words didn't make sense to me, and they hit me hard, freezing my heart. "I'm just not sure," he said. There were no tangible reasons, no explanations.
On Jason coming out (and ending the mystery of why he called of the engagement):
The phone call this April ended the mystery. He left a message on a Sunday, saying, "I have something important to talk about—please call me back." I was working and called the next morning. He uttered an eerily familiar phrase: "You may want to sit down." Then he said, "Carolyn, I'm gay." I was stunned. I managed to say, after a silent moment and then a deep breath, "I had no idea. I'm sure a huge weight is off your shoulders." During all the years I had known him, I never would have guessed that he would come out as gay.
On how Jason HASN'T spoken to her since his announcement:
We talked again briefly that night. He answered a few questions, but there was much left to discuss and he said he had to go. As I tell this story, it has been several weeks since he told me his news and he has made no further time to talk, despite saying he would do so. I am sad that the media seems to be a higher priority. I hope this changes in the coming weeks, as I value open dialogue more than anything.
Read the full story here.
Do you think Mr. Collins owes his ex-fiancee of four years a follow-up phone call...and a few explanations? SPEAK ON IT....
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