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Keyshia Cole went back to her hometown of Oakland yesterday for Christmas. And while she was kickin’ it with kiddies (and her adoptive mother) at a charity event, she brought her pregnant belly along too:
She’s def a cute preggers chick. Now for all of you who were in denial that she is preggers and you “couldn’t see the bump,” here you go. She looks like she’s about to drop any day now…
More pics under the cut…
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Sat, December 26, 2009 1:55 PM
She looks so pretty!
Sat, December 26, 2009 1:59 PM
Cute. Shes gotten since the last pics.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:00 PM
Big^
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:00 PM
She is cute WITH the baby bump and WITHOUT make up…congrats to her
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:01 PM
Congrats to her and I wish her the best!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:02 PM
Love Keysh and I am happy for her because I know she always wanted kids now hopefully boobie can put a ring on it
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:06 PM
Ridamndiculous…Aren’t there like 50 eleven types of birth control now? Folks are lucky they’re getting pregnant and not STDs…Whether or not people can financially afford to have babies outside of marriage, it is easier in a loving, committed couple…When did that notion become old school? I’m done…
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:17 PM
I know what you mean. Pregnancy is the trend lately.A friend I went to school with me said I was “too young” to be married with children after voicing her struggles as a single parent herself. Too young for marriage, but not too young for children? No sense these days.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:18 PM
Dang.. she is huge it really look like she is carrying two basketballs in her belly rather than a baby they sure she ain’t having twins.. Well since her boyfriend is a basketball player its only right that her belly look like a basketball… She look like she due any day now..
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:18 PM
But, Keisha is a cute pregnant chick. I’m loving the dress, the denim jacket though not so much.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:23 PM
She looks radiant and her outfit (minus the jacket) is too cute!
On another note, when the heck did having a baby become a trend? Last time I checked people have been having babies since the beginning of time. Judging other people will get you no where. If people choose not to adhere to the institution of marriage that’s their choice not yours.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:24 PM
I think she looks beautiful.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:25 PM
She looks like she is hiding herself. I like outfits that are body-hugging when it comes to pregnant women… and that jacket just needs to go.
She is a great woman, but that outfit is a NO…
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:27 PM
And I approve of this message. I’m so sadden by the amount of single and young moms I see come through the doors…most times ALONE. I just don’t see why people just have no problem with having risky sex (any type of sex when you’re not married). And you’re right…even though you can afford the children it still doesn’t make it more right nor cute for celebrities to pop out all these kids.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:33 PM
Not feeling the tutu!
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:33 PM
Okay, pregnancy isn’t a trend. You want to be with this person enough to have another life, but not get some piece of paper that legally bonds you together? I know, marriage isn’t for everyone, but having a baby is serious. And single parenting is all too common, especially with so many ways to avoid it.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:35 PM
i love that she was at a charity event..she gives a lot and i respect her for that. she looks like a damn fool being single and pregnate though, for real. i wish people put more importance into proper order and family structure…this scenario is so old. people just don’t get married anymore, yet have kids together and it’s sad. i wouldn’t feel this strongly if single/separated parenting was functional…generally speaking its very dysfunctional and the kids suffer the most…a lot of times the parents seem to hate each others guts and unfortunately it seems a man’s relationship and support of his child tends to mirror the relationship he has with the mother- all the more reason why you should be in a loving, committed marriage before having children. kill this baby mama/baby daddy garbage
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:41 PM
I respect your opinion however I do not believe parenting must exist monolithically.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:46 PM
She looks cute :) And even though her and her future baby father aren’t married at least they’re still together… That’s more than can be said for some “single” mothers…
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:48 PM
I guess she wants to be like her momma and stretched out pu ss e Neffie = un married. baby mommies. How stupid…the new trend should be getting some type of education as well as finance #
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:48 PM
I agree. I’m sick of seeing women having babies and not married. Men will drop you and move on to the next one without taking of there previous. Children need a happy home with both parents.
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:51 PM
what happened to marriage?
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:56 PM
***pregnant*** and I agree with Dr.San, Shades of Gray, and CorpAtty…I’m glad I am not the only one! In St.Louis some people actually think you are strange if you are a young, black, single woman WITHOUT kids…its ridiculous! I’ve had single mom’s be very negative about my commitment to become a physician and how I should re-think how much time I’m putting into it and that I’m going to regret “wasting” my life-they sound so stupid to me….yet they have kids, WHOLE KIDS by random guys they met at a club who won’t even acknowledge them at the damn grocery store…but me becoming a highly paid black female anesthesiologist is de-generative. I was so outdone that I was speechless!
Sat, December 26, 2009 2:59 PM
I know marriage isnt’ everyone so i won’t even go there. But I odn’t even recall keysha being with this dude for a year. I luv k.cole, i’m not feeling it though…but we wish her the best
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:01 PM
They haven’t been together a year…so who cares if there still together Most single mothers were with their child’s father….Its when the man leaves wen u become a single mother…
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:10 PM
What happened to not having sex BEFORE marriage in the first place?
Just because you are having sex out of wedlock and don’t end up pregnant DOESN’T mean that you are sin free, all you judgemental fools.
If you are going to QUOTE the BIBLE you need to follow the BIBLE from the front page to the last page. Don’t just pick and choose certain versus and act as though your a sin free straight by the BIBLE Christian when the man upstairs knows that your not.
I am single and have no kids. But I think about artificial insemination. Is that a problem because I may choose to have a baby on my own and take care of it on my own?
Whose to say that EVERY baby born out of wed lock is going to go down the wrong path?
A Father in your life doesn’t guarantee a crime free or a perfect lifestyle.
Hell I know a couple of father and son criminal teams. One gets out while the other goes in. What a perfect father.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:10 PM
I mean no disrespect to single mothers in any way. I applaud all single mothers who raise wonderful children. It’s the men who really need to do better, but the women are at fault as well for putting too much trust in a man.
Where I am, in the Philly area, it is sadly very common to have your children have half-siblings that are only months apart. And I wish I could say I could count the number of men in the area who don’t have more kids than I can count on BOTH my hands. DO BETTER.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:12 PM
First why cant i mention the name of another website on this site,? thats kinda crazy.
Second, marriage does not guarantee a happy ever after..Mashond and Swiss beats (not sure if thats how you spell his name)
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:24 PM
She must be about to drop. I didn’t put the braids in until the last month or so when I was pregnant.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:25 PM
I think it’s amazing how many people get on these sites just to bash other people for choosing to live their lives differently from yours. Im 21 years no kids and in college but in no way do I believe that I am better then any1 nor do I have the right to judge. I just wish people the best and keep it moving
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:25 PM
Exactly!!!!! Do whatever works for you and mind your own business!! Well said!
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:31 PM
I agree also..n what up with her outfit? the worst i seen all year
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:32 PM
Being married does not automatically lead to a happy home. People divorce everyday! Are you also sick of seeing divorced single moms? Men drop their wives also! If not, some of them have no problem with keeping a chick on the side.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:33 PM
What works for one doesn’t work for another. marriage is nice but people are free to make their own unions. 2 parents around are great for the child But it doesn’t take marriage to be good parents.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:42 PM
She’s should be a poster child for those who think there is no hope. San, the ghetto mother and sister. I’ve always hearted Ms. Cole. I’m glad she’s finally happy and she does look cute.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:45 PM
I don’t think marriage will be seen as a “real” sign of devotion until we love ourselves and stop sleeping with and emotionally attaching ourselves to people who in return don’t love themselves. Until we find that power from within all relationships esp marriages will have a steady flow of high and low and trash and burn. People make comments like “back then people stayed married” But they didn’t stay happy which is more important. Mainly back then couples stayed 2gether because it was expected, and the moral thing to do. Men stayed married til death but they still fought tooth and nail, had outside kids/women,. So that’s better??? There were no “good old days” the old people were just more quiet and acceptable of things we don’t really tolerate today. My ex grandparents are still married, don’t speak and sleep in 2 different rooms. Their not happy but their still married. Lol
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:50 PM
Keyshia looks cute pregnant, wonder when she’s due?? And while she is not married, she is financially able to care for her baby so thats the difference between her and the average chick gttin’ knocked up and unmarried.
Sat, December 26, 2009 3:56 PM
we are in 2010 almost
people need to stop with the mariage thing,hello nobody wants to get married no more!! a weddding will not make ure more faithful so does his wife,a wedding wont make ure child life better or easier
people need to relax no need to ask god aprovement,thoussand of people do that evryday and continues to cheat and disrespect their husband or wife,i am happy for keisha and i hope evrything will me find for her, at least she is not spreading babies like her dysfonctionnal siister
we need to understand that we are in 2O1O,there will be more sexuality ( even if we dont like it)in video in photos,they re will be more gay,more foolywang,more single momma,more half straight half gay man ( as nokio about it)
even if i personnaly dont agree with all that i mention, i just want some of u to realise that ;values,rnb singer with no sexy picture like monica and brandy used to do in the 90s,mariage before kids,and perfect families with mom and dad are DONE
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:04 PM
Well, I can’t quote for some reason, but…
Chelly’s Two Cents. Love the name since it became so serious about judging when it really is just people’s opinion. Pregnancy, marriage, it’s all a matter of preference…
Daniel Gibson’s Wiki page says she’s due with a baby boy in March 2010. Don’t know how accurate it is, but it is what it is.
She looks big if she’s not due for 3 more months…
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:09 PM
LMAO @ “Children need a happy home with both parents” My parents R separated and i never been happier! My father is a alcoholic and would spit in my face and beat me for no apparent reason! He would downgrade my mother and my siblings! He almost killed my mother! Not only that, he cheated on my mom through out their whole relationship! He is a wast of sperm and egg! i hate him with a passion! Both parent does not equal happy home! A happy home is what u make it! I bothers me that a lot of people have that mentality! i just find ur comment funny and some what disturbing!
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:09 PM
ummm nothing remotely attractive about her…………but good job on giving back.
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:09 PM
PREACH! These celebs are sending the wrong messages to the youth–they may be able to afford to have children out of wedlock…being a single mom is BY NO MEANS EASY!
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:12 PM
u obvi are the one woth problems. what was so fuuny about her/his comment? all he/she said ewas that kids should have 2 parents and of course that meant 2 good parents! it is a proven fact that children with a 1 person home have problems. look at most of the folks in prision…..they were fatherless!! read a book and educate your self
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:19 PM
Congratulations. I wish her every happiness. She looks beautiful and happy.
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:20 PM
I hope it dosent sound like im hating. But why do women feel they have to get pregnant to keep a man. Damn Keyshia you didnt even give it time. I mean how long were you all were together before you got pregnant. I just feel she could have given it sometime. Damn was it even a year. Slow down Ma.
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:30 PM
If She’s Happy, then why cant we all just be happy for her??!! Who are we to judge her and her decision to have a baby?! Everybody is always so quick to judge and say what’s wrong but NOBODY IS PERFECT!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:39 PM
There is so much judgement up in the piece. Damn. Just live your life people and do what’s best for you and yours. Can’t no one’s opinion take you to heaven or hell if there is such a place.
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:39 PM
CONGRATS MS COLE.
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:46 PM
LOL thanks for the last line Tasha…some people are slow as hell..it was obvious…they’ll believe anything else, smh
Sat, December 26, 2009 4:55 PM
I guess marriage is a thing of the past. It also amazes me the number of churches that are condoning sex outside of the marriage and allowing these celebrity figures to come up in the church in front of young impressionable christian minds. Another thing people need to stop talking about judging people like that is a sin. Everyone of us makes judgement calls everyday. That is how we decide between right and wrong. Having a baby outside of marriage is a sin. As with all sin it can be forgiven but you must know that it is wrong in order to ask for forgiveness in the first place. So if no one is saying it is wrong then that in itself is a sin!
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:00 PM
I co-sign both of you. There is nothing cute or admirable about having babies without a loving husband in a stable household. The “being responsible after the accident” excuse is tired. Our community needs to be and do better.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:05 PM
I agree with the young lady who said back then people stayed married but tolerated the disrespect. . . in the times we living in now we’re not going to tolerate the cheating and wrong doing just to fit your standards. . . my mom was married to my father for fifteen years they are divorce and I’M glad he was a cheater and was not meant to be a father. . . what you rather her do get an abortion rather than have a child out of wed lock. . . NOO then sit down and shut up and let her be a good mother to her child and live your own DAMN lives. . . also you should be your child role model stop letting the tv raise your children and blame celebrities blame yourself for being a crappy parent and with that i’m done :-) have a nice day. . .
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:13 PM
realest words on this page.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:16 PM
Marriage does not guarantee that a man will be with the mother of his child. Times have completely changed since our grandparents era. Men don’t even work or take care of their families the same.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:23 PM
Her makeup is horrible, she must have done it herself.
Anyway, it’s obvious she has a big heart for her to do that for others. And I’m glad that she’s separating herself from that crackhead Frankie and spending time with her REAL mother, Yvonne.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:27 PM
Your a rare case and I’m sorry your father was that way. But this backs up what I was saying. You can’t have babies by just anybody and so fast. Women have to take there time and get to know a man. Your father was that way before your mother decided to have a baby with him. She made a bad choice, which is not your fault. There are so many kids running around having kids with know father to lead them and protect them. Not all are monsters. Mother’s can be monsters too.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:36 PM
Most women with unplanned pregnancies didn’t give a damn about their life or the life of the unborn child. Getting a Sexually Transmitted Disease seem to be an afterthought or no thought at all just for some dick. DAMN SHAME PEOPLE!.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:39 PM
Keyshia, that tutu.. NO MA’AM.. congrats again..
LOL, that’s the same question I have..but like someone said, being married doesn’t ALWAYS mean a happier home…and reality is it’s 2009 pushing 2010.. there a very few people who are having kids while married, or even staying virgins till married. so things like this are bound to happen.. NO JUDGEMENT on my part, but keyshia it would of been better if you had let him wait more b4 giving up the goods (I’m no mathematician, so my calculations may be shifty). but no shade, congrats and i hope the baby is healthy.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:41 PM
Okay I love Keysia and all but she is kinda like a hypocrite, I can recall on one of her shows where she was talking with her mom about not having babies till she was married,also how about the fact they were only together a few months when she got pregnant, I mean rich or not last i checked practicing unsafe sex was dangerous no matter what your income level is. All in all hope she has a wonderful healthy baby.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:45 PM
I don’t think that anyone can deny there has been a significant decline in the marriage rate among black folks, and a subsequent increase in single parent families lacking the support of both parents despite location. In addition this overwhelming acceptance of simply being a baby momma is just disturbing. The term implies a lack of conscious parenting/domestic partnership which is ultimately what is important in raising children. Pregnancy should not be a reactionary situation point blank.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:45 PM
I guess being pregnant makes you do crazy things! I have absolutely no idea what provoked her to put that on. Neither do I have an idea of why she got knocked up by a ball player of all people. As if he ain’t gone get caught with his hands in somebody’s else tutu in a few months top!!! Well let me shut up. I hope not for her sake, cause she been looking real “I’m so in lovish” these days!!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:51 PM
You guys are all idiots….if she doesn’t want to get married that’s her business to deal with and no one elses. A piece of paper is not the deciding factor on whether or not she is going to be a good parent. The reason that there are so many single mothers is because they got pregnant on purpose and the man wasn’t wit it so they left. No one wants to admit it but every woman with a trifiling man thinks that if they get pregnant he will change. I don’t care what anyone says either. When the plan backfires then all of a sudden u have this “I can’t stand my baby’s father” thing going on when really your mad cuz you got rejected. If you want to have a baby do it for the right reasons. A marriage doesn’t mean its going to b a happy home. The child still has 2 parents whether they are living together or not. Everyone has the free will and knowledge to do what they want and what the consequences are for doing it. If you don’t want to be a single mother then stop dealing wit dead beat men…he was a dead beat before you got pregnant so you shouldn’t be surprised when a baby doesn’t change that.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:53 PM
LAYIN UP AN FUCKIN, WITHOUT ANY THOUGHT TO USING CONTRACEPTION IS IRRESPONSIBLE ON MANY LEVELS.
KEYSHIA AND DUDE AIN’T GETTIN MARRIED. KEYSHIA WILL END UP LIKE ALL THE OTHER GHETTO, HOOD SINGLE MOTHERS………….WITH A BABY DADDY AND NO RING. SHE’S LUCKY SHE HAS HER OWN MONEY.
BLACKS HAVE THE HIGHEST PERCENTAGE OF UNMARRIED MOTHERS……..DAMN SHAME.
LOL, THE OTHER DAY I SAW A HOOD CHICK WITH ONE BABY IN HER GUT, ONE ON HER HIP AND ANOTHER IN A STROLLER. I JUST SHOOK MY HEAD……………BETTER HER THEN ME.
Sat, December 26, 2009 5:58 PM
That 2nd pic looks funny as hell to me.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:01 PM
You are so right about that!!!!!!!!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:05 PM
I’m so sorry that happened to you!! I hate to hear stories like this! I am so happy you are finally free and I wish you all the best!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:06 PM
I’LL HAVE TO CO-SIGN ON THA. MAN K-COLE HER AND HER FAMILY ARE TOO GHETTO. FRANKIE IS FREAKIN HILARIOUS HER MOMS BE LIKE “CODE 10 MAN DOWN” WTF!!!!!!!!!!!! THEY JUST STRAIGHT HOOD HOT GHETTO MESS!!!!!!!!!!!! BUT CONGRATS TO HER.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:09 PM
i miss kool-aid hair colored keyshia cole. her first album was the shiz snap boom bizzle!! i’ll keep the rest of the comments to myself lol
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:10 PM
You’re right! Considering only ball players cheat….not rappers, nor lawyers, nor doctors, nor salesmen! Only ball players right?
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:15 PM
Some wome honestly do glow when they’re pregnant and Keyshia is GLOWING! She looks beautiful! Congrats Keyshia!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:18 PM
I agree with you 100%, only because I’ve gotten the same reaction. Marriage first, then babies.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:20 PM
People are so quick 2 past judgment on some1 else. Regardless of how long, they wer 2gether b4 she got pregnant, she still got pregnant. All sins are equal. I’m sure more than half of u guys on here are having sex! Sex is sex, whether it’s unprotected or protected. & if you’re not married, it’s a sin. The only difference between her and u is her getting pregnant. You can’t call some1 out on there sins when your sinning yourself. That’s like a thief calling out a liar!!! Did we forget that we are all human? Mistakes happen! If we put the microscope on YOUR life, we would probably see a world full of sin!! Make sure your life is straight before you call someone out on their wrong-doings. Relize that you can’t change any1, u may be able to offer advice, but u only have control of YOUR life!!
PS. I was raised in a single parent household and I turned out great!! Their are just as many murderers and rapists who were raised in 2parent happy homes as there are who were raised in single parent homes. If I go out and kill my friend, their is no way that I can blame tht on being raised by a single mother!! I control my actions, not my parents!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:22 PM
I LIKE KEYSHIA’S OUTFIT
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:26 PM
@ Keyshia’s #1 Fan, I bet you have a few pickaninnys at home.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:26 PM
I always find it funny when people preach about “marriage” because to be honest, marriage is really just a state of being. Think about it: thousnads of years ago, even back to the bible days there were no marriage licenses. When a man took a wife all it really was was the two of them making a commitment to be with each other and reproduce – thats it! no rings no nothing! Paper doesn’t make a mrarriage! People need to get off the damn soap boxes and let people live their lives. Stop judging all the time!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:28 PM
The braids look HORRIBLE on her and the tutu is killing me. Not a good look. I can’t beleive she is PG and not married after all her family has been through. You would have thought she would have learned from her Sister but I guess not.
Nevertheless, if she likes it I love it. Moving on….
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:31 PM
Lol, “to be honest, marriage is really just a state of being”. To make a comment like that, you gotta be in your early to late teens, so I will not comment further.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:33 PM
Actually, I’m 35 years old so comment if you please.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:34 PM
She looks great not feel thew out fit at all.
But why is everyone so judgemental let the woman live her life.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:40 PM
I’ve been married for almost 20 yrs now and marriage is not just a piece of paper.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:41 PM
Keyshia could be already married. folks didnt even know she was pregnant until someone went out their way to dig up the information.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:42 PM
@ Mr. Welfare. Wat black man, well black person would use that term?? U are an example of why the black race often stereotyped in a horrible way. Any1 who has ever been on welfare would not boast on being that low on the totem pole. Mayb u should pick up a book n educate urself sir. Dummy!!! BTW, no kids on my end sir, 23 in Pharmacy School!! As a matter of fact I went 2 the same school with Dan, The father of Keyshia’s Child. He was a great person, came from a great family!! I wish them well in their future. People like you should fuckin die from sucking AIDs balls!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:42 PM
Cosign 100%
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:44 PM
you must be a single desperate, lonely woman who has finally given up hope that anyone would ever call you their wife.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:44 PM
BITCHES WHO SAY MARRIAGE IS JUST A PIECE OF PAPER OR A STATE OF MIND ARE FOOLING THEMSELVES; THEIR IN DENIAL. THEY’VE HEARD THAT, ‘PIECE OF PAPER’ NONSENSE FROM THAT NIGGAH WHO DON’T WANNA MARRY THEIR ASSES.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:46 PM
That’s wat Im saying!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:49 PM
you bring good points.
The whole process of getting engaged and married is to ensure that the man you want to be with is the right one! Right father, right husband, right companion.
when these women get in temporary relationships and think this guy is special, they seal the deal with having a child with them. Only to find out later on that guy wasn’t worth anything. Its disgusting and disgraceful!
Pregnancy doesn’t make a relationship more officail! I have 4 kids, and there were strains between me and my husband over the children. But we worked through them. We aren’t as lovey dovey as some couples but we both love each other and has worked it out for the sake of our family and each other.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:50 PM
Girl sit the fuck down and shut the fuck up cause yo lonely ass commenting on what the fuck I write ain’t gone make me change my mind about nothing I said. It’s only gone make me hurt your feelings, so whoever the fuck you are, GET A LIFE, and find something else to do with your time besides crave attention. I bet you was just dying for me to respond to you. Now that I’ve given you what you wanted, give me what I want, by making like all of your baby daddies and GET LOST!!!!! Find yo lonely ass some friends on this lovely Saturday evening, you fat ass, “ME too, alligator skin, disgusting couch potato!! If you were somebody important, it’s possible that I would maybe attempt to I explain what the hell I meant since your dumb ass is unable to comprehend, but since you’re a nobody, less than gum under under my mutherfucking shoe, and I can care less what you think, I will not be explaining MYSELF to your sorry ass!!! I dare you ask me anything, like I have to answer to you. Bitch if you don’t get the fuck outta here you better!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:52 PM
Keyshia’s #1 Fan
@ Mr. Welfare. Wat black man, well black person would use that term?? U are an example of why the black race often stereotyped in a horrible way. Any1 who has ever been on welfare would not boast on being that low on the totem pole. Mayb u should pick up a book n educate urself sir. Dummy!!! BTW, no kids on my end sir, 23 in Pharmacy School!! As a matter of fact I went 2 the same school with Dan, The father of Keyshia’s Child. He was a great person, came from a great family!! I wish them well in their future. People like you should fuckin die from sucking AIDs balls!!!
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You wish someone would let your illiterate ass into their pharmacy school, LMBAO.
Sat, December 26, 2009 6:53 PM
You really should be embarassed to tell anyone that you are 35 years old and have the mentality of a teenager!
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:01 PM
No, just a realist! I’ve never believed in what the law defines as marriage but I got married at 23 because I was in love and it was important to him. It didnt work out but we remain friends and I got a beautiful child out it so it wasnt a total loss. Today at 35 I have a wonderful man in my life whom I love dearly but I will not marry again – not his idea, mine! Don’t be so quick to assume about peoples lives. I’m not saying marriage is wrong but what works for you doesn’t work for everyone and we shouldn’t be judged beacause of it.
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:04 PM
@Shaniqua &Tanika & Malika.. Yes Honey, University of North Carolina Pharmacy School c/o 2011!! Now I’m LMBAO @ yo illiterate ass mom 4 givin u such a ghetto ass name, SHANIQUE!!! Does anybody even take you serious?? Dumb Bitch!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:12 PM
LADIES!! get your education and career going before having kids. Make sure he put a ring on that finger BEFORE birthin his kids.
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:16 PM
LET’S NOT USE ANY RACIAL CARICATURES, COME ON MR. WELFARE, THE PICKANINNY? WHY?
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:20 PM
New Article Please
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:23 PM
I bet Keyshia thought she was concealing her pregnancy, EPIC FAIL.
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:34 PM
I saw Keyshia on christmas at the Laker Game (to see her boo her baby daddy) help beat my LAKERS I sat right behind her…so she must have done this early before the game that started at 2pm..Snoop and his wife were there too and at the end of the game Boss Lady was chatting with Keyshia and rubbing her pregnant stomach….
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:36 PM
Hey ’slimgoody65′, was this the Sac kings & Laker game?
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:46 PM
I agree wholeheartedly.
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:50 PM
in awe about all these sin free judges on this site….
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:52 PM
I just didn’t expect this frm kesh. why couldnt she leave all that poppin out baby mess to her trifling sisters neffe and elite?? she was in her prime and now her career is at a standstill……….glad to see that shes happy, but damn maybe she should have given this ish some thought…….
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:56 PM
And she was suppose to drop her new CD this month. She usually puts out a new one like every 1, 2 yrs in December.
Sat, December 26, 2009 7:57 PM
Keyshia is rich! She can come back and still sell albums… She could have been had a baby from her days of living on the street, going from foster home and such, but she didnt!
The piut is she is more than finacially stable now to have a baby, she wont need food stamps or government help to support her child. She has her own money, her own house etc… She is BLESSED!
Oh and her baby father is rich and blessed to…Haters need to stop comparing her to other women…She is Keyshia Cole, not you, you, or me!
If she ends up and unmarried baby mother, well she can joing Halle berry, Monica, and a few other successful smart black women who are changing the game. Check the rate on divorces by the way!
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:05 PM
ok
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Sat, December 26, 2009 8:13 PM
OUT OF ALL THE R&B CHICKS WITHIN THE INDUSTRY, KEYSHIA COLE HAS THE NASTIEST ATTITUDE ABOVE ALL. NOT ONLY IS SHE NASTY TOWARDS HER FANS, BUT SHE’S JUST AS NASTY TOWARDS OTHER CELEBRITIES. CELEBRITIES WHO HAVE BEEN IN THE GAME MUCH LONGER THEN HER AND ARE WELL RESPECTED. IF SHE LEFT THE INDUSTRY TOMORROW, HER RECORD CO, PRODUCERS, SINGERS AND RAPPERS WOULDN’T GIVE A &%#%(&. GOOD RIDDENS.
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:21 PM
I have a question. Why do some blk women put briads in their hair when they are pregnant?
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:21 PM
Please define “rich”. Just because you make a few albums, wear nice clothes and have done a few videos and reality tv shows does not make you rich. We all know how shady the music industry is. Let’s hope Keyshia is not becoming dependent on Daniel because last time I checked his contract was up soon, he’s not getting much playing time and 7 out of 10 pro basketball players are broke after four years of retirement. Yeah she could have had a baby during her foster care days but why not wait till you nab a pro athlete….the future looks so much brighter (sarcasm)
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:26 PM
So what if divorce rates are high? Everything in this life is high and a mess. That is a poor excuse for our lack of concern about black families and the state of black marriage. I think many of these anti-marriage comments are indicative of the very issue we are discussing. People championing folks being babymamas and just living together many times are people that came from that background or if they had a father in the home it was a terrible situation. I came from a two parent family and my father was a mess, but that did not jade my desire for a loving, God-appointed marriage and waiting to have a child within a loving stable marriage. Get your mind and your hearts right people.
Mess is not blessed.
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:26 PM
For all of u all that are so hell bent on marriage, are u all married? if ppl choose to have babies and not get married thats their business,hope some of u all on here thats married u all husband or wife is not cheating, if the man and waoman have a good relationship and do not want to get married so what! stop fucking judging…. a ring and a piece of paper and having someone’s last name is not everlasting happiness, beyonce really got some of u all fooled with that dumb song!
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:29 PM
NOW THAT SHE’S ALREADY PREGNANT THERE’S NOTHING LEFT TO DO NOW
EXCEPT FOR PRAY THAT THE BABY COMES OUT 100 PERCENT HEALTHY
IT WOULD BE NICE IF THEY GOT MARRIED AND ACTUALLY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER BUT IN THIS CASE ESPECIALLY IN THIS CASE
IT SEEMS HIGHLY UNLIKELY CAUSE FIRST OFF HE’S A BALL PLAYER
ENOUGH SAID ALREADY. BESIDES PLAYING BALL WOMEN,OR SHALL I SAY
GOLD DIGGING WHORES IS THEIR M.O AND NOT ONLY THAT HE’S
ONLY 23 AND I THINK SHE’S LIKE 28 SO AFTER SAYING THAT GET
READY FOR SOME BANGIN HEARTBREAK SONGS!
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:32 PM
Amen. I am 38 and divorced and I would never state that marriage is useless. Just say you tried and yours did not work out for you. For a grown woman to tell young people that marriage is pointless is immature and irresponsible.
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:35 PM
Looks like we have already stop judging sis. 70% of black babies are born to single mothers. If people were really judging more we would not have such an epidemic.
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:40 PM
MONEY IS NOT ALL THAT IS REQUIRED TO RAISE A CHILD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:42 PM
For real, cause if it’s one thing the black community can count on is black babies born into SINGLE MOTHER households. Its like a badge of honor for these ignit boys to have ‘baby mama’s. TWISTED!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:51 PM
I’m a student in law school and I dont think I will get married. I would love to have a partner to spend the rest of my life with and have some cute babies with. lol However, I will not let a piece of paper validate my relationship or make me look more acceptable in society. The one thing I’ve learned in life is to be happy, not by anybody standards but my own.
Sat, December 26, 2009 8:55 PM
Consign. This generation is in need of better examples, and that’s starts at home!
I take it just by this comment, it appears apparently YOU’VE never been asked to be married before ( and by someone once/still do YOU love), and have just settled being “happily ever after girlfriend” resulting in YOU being mad at others for believing morals. And honey, a “good relationship” is not any more of a guarantee to happiness either. It’s not about judging……………. I hope someone didn’t BREAK her heart.
From what some pregnant women have told me, it helps give them a break and also the hair.
CONSIGN!
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:03 PM
All of you talking about she’s rich and so what thats she is pregnant because she got money sound stupid. I have money but you better believe I’m not going to go out and have a baby just because I have it. Money doesn’t give LOVE or cherish the baby. Yes you can go out and buy whatever the baby wants and needs but thats it. I’m 19 years old and I’ll be damned if I give up my virginity just because we both have money yea right. YES I AM A 19 YEAR OLD VIRGIN and will not be giving it up to anybody but the person who puts a ring on it. That is something that I stand by. Secondly since when is marriage a paper thing? I thought people got married because they love one another not because they want to see it on a piece of paper?
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:03 PM
I wish Keysha had waited until marriage. I do not have any children and I am 28 years old and dating. I have a neice and my sister is married, I cannot imagine how things would be if she did not have a dependable husband to help her with my neice. Keysha has a mountain to climb and it would be great if she had the support of a dependable GOD-fearing husband. Marriage should always be the rule and not the exception.I am judging her because of her irresponsibility and naivity, but I pray that her child is healthy. Let’s stop the ignorant comments and look at the big picture. Too many public relationships are dysfunctional. What do young people have to look forward to in the examples being set? I challenge each of you to make every effort to love and support your significant other. Seriously if you are living together,have meshed finances, and families…please consider marriage. Marriage means your significant other will have access to your finances and benefits if something happens, it means they will be able to make decisions on your behalf. Love is beautiful, marriage seals the deal and is more than paper if done under the right circumstances.
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:04 PM
Girl, I feel you, but those are just the “evidence of being married,” and a “nightmare” that society has painted towards single women–as being held captive. Because MOST women (at least nowadays) are becoming more independent and protective, guess they feel to verse the cycle and call “paper and rings” more of a contract…. Instead of it being in two people joined together in unity thru God. I use to feel that way like….hmmmm I want nobody having ownership of my life so to speak . BUt I dont see it like that as much, I try to get myself to go beyond what is being viewed and see the bigger picture. :)
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:07 PM
OK Keyshia’s #1 Fan or Black sands
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:11 PM
Thank you !!!!! I have my fundin’ TIGHT as well, and will be doing likewise. Indeed, marriage is not a contact it’s a commitment shared thru 2 people in love based by God.
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:12 PM
OFF THE SUBJECT:
I’m watching ‘Lockup Colorado’ on MSNBC. These 2 white guys have tattooed the whites of their eyes. They look crazy and scary as hell.
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:13 PM
is that so? This is gonna hold her back in the career department. The entertainment business is a fast moving industry and its about staying power, and when you get your chance u better do somthing wit it. She’s going to go away for awhile to have this baby, and raise this baby. She won’t be a teacher who had a baby going back to work…she’s entertainer. She’s competing with other artists, and trying to keep her fanbase. And while she’s gone, there might just be some new star out there. (Thats why i think the girl bey won’t go away) the game is thirsty for new talent anyways. I feel the same way about jhudson..didn’t htink a baby was a good move for her at this point either. I still luv keke…i juss wish this would of waited
And her boo may be a pro nba player, but he ain’t kobe, lebron, d. wade…he ain’t ballin like that….
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:18 PM
*high fives* i agree 1000%
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:22 PM
some of these judgemental people need to keep their mouths shut. Keisha Cole is a grown woman, she has not made it thus this far being dumb, with that being said “she knows what she wants” and that’s a child. I wish her and her boyfriend much happiness. Who says that marriage is always the answer? Most people stay together longer without the piece of paper. Do you Keisha!!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:25 PM
I think its a good convo going on in here. I come from a single parent home, so i’m not gonna get on single mothers, i knwo its hard. I’m not going to say either is right or wrong. I just know that as far as a personal decision, if i have a family…it will include a husband. Its the way i want it, its the way i prefer it. Real marriage…one that won’t be given up on easily, or at the first sign of trouble. I’m not silly either…i know ish happens, but this is the way i want it for myself
Some people don’t, and i don’t think that they should be knocked for it. Now if ur just reproducing with anyone…there i have a problem lol
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:38 PM
I”m 22 year old virgin…yes 22, and i so cosign this
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:43 PM
This is truly good dialogue and I am glad we are having it. We as a community need to really look at what you are doing to ourselves. It’s one thing if you don’t want to be married. That is your choice, but if you want to have a child(ren)then you need to be put aside all your wants as a parent and think about what is involved to have a proper upbringing for a child. What I see in our community with this extreme rise of single motherhood is alot of selfish people. Folks only thinking about what feels good at the moment or what’s best for them, not really what is best for their possible child(ren). If you don’t want be a single mother, stop having sex without a plenthora of protection and stop having sex with men that are not good enough to marry, but only good enough to have sex with. The decisions are really that simple.
Our community is letting our sexual desires manage us and its destroying us one single parent baby with no father at a time.
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:47 PM
Wow! U females are hating hard! Wow!
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:54 PM
Lmao.. Pls! All this judgement. This is truly sad.. I mean really? Y’all can’t just say congrats and move on or not comment at all? SMH. Preaching like y’all perfect!! Lmao. I bet y’all 35 with no kids… uh oh u going miss that mommy train!! Marriage is so perfect? How bout we ask mrs. Woods.. loool or mama tina. Stop preaching and get a life! And btw I don’t plan on having kids unless I’m married! But I wouldn’t dare preach!
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:55 PM
If this kind of hating will slow down all these single parent pregnancies then sign me up.
Sat, December 26, 2009 9:58 PM
Man u would. Believe people are truly angels on earth they way the judge!!?!
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:01 PM
This will be the last time I defend what I said because it has been taken totally out of context. I never said that marriage was wrong or useless or pointless or that people should not get married, I basically was stating that people have the wrong idea of what marriage is, that they think it is all about a ring and a piece of paper, I was saying that love is the thing that makes a marriage. Before you all try to judge me, my life or my mentality, please carefully read what I said. I have a young mind? Lol! It seems to me that those who misinterpret and then attack before making sure they understand what they are attacking for are the ones who are immature! I will respond no more to this issue, I’ve said my peace and I’m done! Goodnight all!
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:02 PM
Last time I checked this wasn’t a christian web site SO it amazes me when people wanna get all holy about marriage kids and condemn peoples personal choices BUT turn around and talk mad shit about what some1 is wearing or how their bodies are made up. It u wanna be the moral police then don’t ever utter one negative word about how a celebrity presents themselves. Smdh
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:04 PM
Ah…mind-numbling topics for us …marriage is not a good idea, single mothers flaunted, black women assaulting their husbands in public with pride.
That is what I get for coming on here.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:06 PM
Keyshia looks radiant. I’m not going to pass judgment on Keyshia because I am far from perfect and Jesus stated the same. If some are going to call themselves Christians, then you must remember Jesus accepted EVERYONE. I know adults who grew up in two family, single and multi-family homes and all experienced some letdown regardless of wealth. It just happens sometimes, it’s unpreventable. I know a guy who still harbors resentment towards the church because his family was ostracized when his mother divorced their father. Is that right?
Sidenote: Remember whites use to enslave and kill blacks(us) in the name of the Lord….I doubt God wants us to treat each other so harshly because of a pregnancy. The baby is coming so let’s support her.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:07 PM
Ladylibra.. man I’m not for single family homes either. Like I stated I want to be MARRIED WITH KIDS.. but I can’t believe all the negative comments. Females on here judging like they perfect! Half these females probably got like 3 abortions but they on here JUDGING! Let me go for I get real mad..
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:08 PM
So because whites enslaved us in Jesus name that is Jesus fault? Huh? WOW.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:10 PM
You put the comment out there. You never explained anything. You made a blunt statement. No one added anything to your comment. You made it. Accept it and like you said keep it at peace and be done.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:14 PM
It’s about picking the right person. Take your time and date for awhile. A person will let you know who they are if you listen to them. Women jump into relationships too fast and have baby’s trying to keep men. Use protection. Stop having raw sex. Too many baby’s are made from jump offs.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:20 PM
Like someone else said on here if we had done enough judging don’t you think it would not be so many baby mamas? We need to stop tossing around that word judging as if you never do it yourself. I guarantee at least once a day or week you judge someone or some thing. Its just being used on here now to justify irresponsibility. Apparently black folks too busy not judging anything which is why we lookin crazy in front of the world. Also if you are getting mad over a conversation about a pregnant single celebrity then you really need check at your emotions. I highly doubt you are Neffie, Frankie or Elite.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:23 PM
Lola
OnDec 26, 2009 at 3:25 pm (Quote) | Reply |
I think it’s amazing how many people get on these sites just to bash other people for choosing to live their lives differently from yours. Im 21 years no kids and in college but in no way do I believe that I am better then any1 nor do I have the right to judge. I just wish people the best and keep it moving
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Lola stay in school b/c what you are missing is the Urgency of experience that the women and men here are trying to express. Many have taken this road and know that it is very difficult…after the Baby Shower, you are on your own!! We may sound like we are hating and judging but we are really screaming WARNING!!!! I am definately waiting for marriage!
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:24 PM
I was really hoping Keyshia was going to break the cycle in her family. Oh well.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:26 PM
CONSIGN.
SMH. Why is the WORDS “hateful & judging” used so loosely on a continual basis, when it’s associated with someone “Telling the truth?” AND everyone knows it’s the truth! It’s a crying shame. See truth for what it IS!
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:28 PM
CONSIGN….it’s just the truth.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:34 PM
PREACH! Like my Nana use to say ” tell the truth and shame the devil”.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:35 PM
1st of all let me say that I LOVE Keyshia Cole! I think she looks beautiful pregnant! With that being said, I think that we do need to take a closer look @ the comments that are being posted on here. I think it’s very disturbing that a lot of people think that it’s just okay & acceptable for the LARGE number of black women in our communities to have babies out of wedlock! This is not being judgemental, it’s stating a fact that deep down inside we all know is true! Someone stated earlier that marriage is just a ring & a piece of paper! WOW! We’ve got to do better people! We’ve got to change our mentalities or this mess will never change! Just because we see celebrities, and even some of our family members getting divorced & commiting adultry, that’s not a reason to discredit the institution of marrage as just a “ring & a piece of paper”. Marriage should still be a prerequisite before having babies!
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:38 PM
UrLovelyBoo:
I’m a student in law school and I dont think I will get married. I would love to have a partner to spend the rest of my life with and have some cute babies with. lol However, I will not let a piece of paper validate my relationship or make me look more acceptable in society. The one thing I’ve learned in life is to be happy, not by anybody standards but my own.
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Sounds like you have it all figured out!!
I hope your “Law Degree” will help you plead your case when you stand b4 God!! I’m Praying that you find Wisdom during your time of transitioning into this Cold World!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:40 PM
There are a lot of bitter women on here. She CAN raise a healthy and happy child with or without a man. She seems to have her head on straight and financially she’s ok, so what is the problem?
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:42 PM
Its Not everyones truth. Its Your truth! Not everyone believes the same so you are not above human to tell some1 what is true for them. Typical insensitive religious fanatic who believes the world should revolve around their ideals.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:42 PM
HIGHLY PAID ANESTHESIOLOGIST…Um not with the new health bill But you’re about those friends of yours…At least you’ll be able to have funds enough to take care of your child properly
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:45 PM
me either…was it a theme party???
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:46 PM
Yes well said
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:46 PM
This topic is definately not worth arguing. Alot of these people are not into religion anymore. So, they usually have no morals. So, it is like a battle of morals verses no morals. Most of these people thought it was okay for Alicia Keys to sleep with Swiss while he was married. Alot of the people on this board are probably raised by single parent (never-married) or maybe a single parent themselves. So, they are going to argue us people with certain morals down.
My question is why spend your life with a person you love and don’t marry them? There are alot of benefits to being married.
I absolutely love my husband of 10 years and we are still in love today. We have a wonderful marriage and children. We actually just renewed our vows in front of our children. So, they can understand and see the love that we have for one another. I just pray that they find that same love.
Alot of women do not realize the consequences of being a single parent. It is hard for me with a caring, helpful, and understanding husband. I could not imagine raising 3 kids alone.
Example: One of my girlfriends got pregnant from a bootycall (3) times. She makes great money by herself. She also receives great child support. But, her two kids are hurting. They want a father figure so bad, they call other kids dads, daddy, just out of the blue. The oldest son have to go and see a counsler. Alot, of these kids long for attention and love from a male figure. Tichinia Arnold wrote a blog about this.
Women need to wake up and realize they are not just hurting themselves, they are hurting their kids as well. They are just being selfish and displaying acts of low self esteem. If a man loves you enough he will marry you and raise his own kids.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:51 PM
Why are so few minority women not getting married and having kids with deadbeat baby daddies? I really do not know but I will say that there really is a lack of good black men around. I hate to strike a note with the racial aspect of the situation but….what can I say? There is just a lack of good black husband material black men. I know that they are out there…
And when you do find a good black man, he’s either taken, not interested in black women or women period. I’m just clueless, this is no excuse though for the ladies who are having kids before marriage but I think it might be a good reason why this is happening.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:55 PM
@firstlady Trueeee
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:57 PM
EWWWW>comments.I have never seen a post with so many people saying what someone should of done… when I know damn well at least half the women here have had unprotected sex…who are you all to tell someone when to have sex and wether or not to get married? Keyshia Cole is obviously more finacially stable than everyone commenting on this post and could have 10 babies if she wanted to.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:58 PM
I think the point is to not judge others…you never know what situation you may find yourself in.
All you can do is wish her and her children the best. Marriage doesn’t always work. In my case I would rather be a single mom than subject my kids to the negativity that has become of the relationship between my children’s father and me.
But I won’t give up on love and won’t waste time judging someone else’s relationship. Just wish them the best, love, happiness, and a healthy baby.
Sat, December 26, 2009 10:58 PM
AMEN!!!! You are so right!
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:01 PM
Yeah…Let’s hear it for the Young Women who represent Purity and Self Respect on this board!!! God has taken the wheel…
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:03 PM
No need to pray for me but if you do, please pray that I graduate at the top of my class and not because I choose not to get married. I, myself pray everyday and thank God for my blessings. I hope you pray for yourself as well, cause we all know, each and everyone on this earth will have to answer to God for something or the other.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:10 PM
I agree with all the comments that are asking the simple question: why become a baby momma instead of a wife?
I’m a 25 year old virgin in graduate school majoring in Computer Science. And my personal choice is marriage BEFORE carriage.
I have seen cousins who had children while teenagers and see their baby daddy’s walk away, and I made a vow to myself that I wasn’t going to go out like that.
I’m not going to judge Keyshia because I don’t know her life story, and I’m not perfect, but I will say that it would have been nice if she was married.
Finally, I agree that people should get married because of LOVE! I have a friend now who’s pregnant and married her husband because she was pregnant. Its just not worth it in my eyes.
For Keyshia’s sake, I hope her man puts a ring on it, and not just “shack up” because that’s not the business!
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:12 PM
I don’t want to sound judgmental. But, make sure you reading and understanding God’s word, along with your school books. Because if you really believe there is a God, then you would obey his word. God wants us to repent and turn from our sins. He doesn’t want us to continue to do the same sin over and over. Because then, he knows that we really don’t mean what we say. Because if we did, we wouldn’t do it again. I know we all sin and fall short. Because, I do. But, we shouldn’t just willing sin.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:13 PM
She looks pretty, but does she have on a ball gown under that jean jacket? And what’s with some of you heathens and all this holy righteousness talk? Yes a lot of people are popping out babies like there is no tomorrow but whether she waits until she is married or not it is her concern. She can financially take care of her child and she seems like she has a lot of love to give. Need I remind you that she didn’t inherit the locopotoco genes like the rest of her family? Needless to say if you are not married, you are single. Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are not recognized by law and it’s a sin and bearing children out of wedlock is a sin. So you can’t agree with one and discredit the other. Any sexual relationship you have outside of marriage is a SIN. So realize unless you are walking a clean pure life you cannot cast any stones, ca peesh?! And LADIES, a baby will not make him stay!!!!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:14 PM
Keyshia’s #1 Fan
OnDec 26, 2009 at 6:20 pm (Quote) | Reply | People are so quick 2 past judgment on some1 else. Regardless of how long, they wer 2gether b4 she got pregnant, she still got pregnant. All sins are equal. I’m sure more than half of u guys on here are having sex! Sex is sex, whether it’s unprotected or protected. & if you’re not married, it’s a sin. The only difference between her and u is her getting pregnant. You can’t call some1 out on there sins when your sinning yourself. That’s like a thief calling out a liar!!! Did we forget that we are all human? Mistakes happen! If we put the microscope on YOUR life, we would probably see a world full of sin!! Make sure your life is straight before you call someone out on their wrong-doings. Relize that you can’t change any1, u may be able to offer advice, but u only have control of YOUR life!!
PS. I was raised in a single parent household and I turned out great!! Their are just as many murderers and rapists who were raised in 2parent happy homes as there are who were raised in single parent homes. If I go out and kill my friend, their is no way that I can blame tht on being raised by a single mother!! I control my actions, not my parents!!!
COSIGN 1000%!!! THERE ARE SO MANY HYPOCRITES HERE TALKING ABOUT K. COLE IT ISN’T EVEN FUNNY, SMH.
HER CHILD IS A BLESSING NO MATTER WHAT CIRCUMSTANCES IT’S BORN INTO.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:14 PM
Emkay….Newsflash: Truth is TRUTH coming from a positive or negative source…even in the light it’s shown. But you won’t believe that, clearly you’re one that justifies THINGS, and FAIL to see there’s a lot of people who are agreeing rather than denying. Hon, just join in, don’t fight.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:17 PM
I got you and wish you all the Best on your way to the Top!! It’s just hurtful when people so boldly speak against a Union that Our God, in all of his perfection, has created to draw us closer to him! We have to be careful not to make a mockery of his Word….Be Blessed!
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:22 PM
I read the comments from this post because I really was hoping that the majority of the commentators would be discussing one of the major issues in our community- having kids out of wedlock. I’m really happy that most of us KNOW it’s morally wrong and no longer think it’s ok or “cute.” This really means that things may start to change for black folks. If many of us on this board feel this way then we have at least defined the problem, know the answer to it and will hopefully start preaching this to the black youth. Lets keep teaching black youth about morals because that’s what it starts with. If kids grown up on morals we won’t have half the issues we have today.
Sex out of wedlock is WRONG! Date with intentions of a possible marriage if the girl/guy is right. This also means that marriage will have to happen at at younger age. Parents need to start spending more time with their kids and get them involved in sports and other hobbies so they can get a taste of life outside of love and sex. We can all start spreading the message together and I know we can change our community to the better.
We also need to condemn the church that accepted Keyshia Cole (or her money rather). They are dead wrong to accept her in the church knowing damn well she’s sinned, if she really isn’t married to this man.
Lets not keep our mouths shut when we see/hear stuff like this and not act like it’s ok. And don’t worry about being called old-fashioned because it’s God that matters and nothing else. He will be happy with those who are fighting to spread his word.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:26 PM
I should clarify that i’m disappointed in the church for welcoming Keyshia in front of young black girls as if she’s supposed to be an example. We all sin but the Church has to be very firm when it comes to the laws of God. It is NOT ok just because she’s a celebrity.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:26 PM
Handclaps for the virgins on board I love it…I’m a 23 yr old here….it can be done! I hate it when people look at you strange because you are a virgin
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:27 PM
she is HUGE!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:31 PM
First let me congratulate you on renewing your vows. That’s a beautiful moment. But I have to disagree with you when you say people who are not into religion have no morals. Everyone has morals, we just don’t agree with some or all. My parents divorced when I was 6. Both are remarried now and have more kids. That situation does not affect my view on marriage in any way. I was fortunate to grow up in a Christian household with a Mother who always and still talks to me about marriage. So being raised in a single parent household shouldn’t greatly affect a persons view on marriage. If anything my parents divorcing makes me want to wait until I meet a man worthy enough because I don’t ever wan’t to go through a divorce. My mom raised me and my older sister on her own for a while and none of us can say it was peachy everyday, but she definitely did her best. She worked her ass off to provide us with the finest things in life. God gives the gift of life but he wants us to be prepared(marriage) before we decide to do so. I would never speak down on a single parent but I will say if he is not trying to marry you, tell him to wrap it up or keep it moving.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:32 PM
CONSIGN…..
Except for the part about Keyshia not eligible for being accepted into the church for sinning. I mean isn’t “the church” where you come to get delieverance? Indeed. All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God, Jesus came to save the world not to condemn it. I ain’t meaning to run all HOLY as I myself do have short comings as well…we’re all human. And not justifying either…she did it the wrong way, but keeping her out of church is a NO. That’s why people dont come to church, too many saints acting “self righteous” indeed of helping.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:34 PM
…thanks for clarfying that :)
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:38 PM
I have been lurking but I have to comment.
I think the people on here that are asking why is there such a disparage in the black community with married versus single mothers clearly understand that sex before marriage, even if there is no baby produced is a sin. Please don’t nickel and dime the convo. Let’s face what is going on and stop trying to pull obvious simpleton things out of it to make a point.
The issue here for black Americans is that we are creating children at record speed with no loving-positive two parents in the home and it is damaging the hell out of our kids. Your selfishness/mindless lust is their potential destruction.
I worked for the state for 12 years and I have seen it all. I have to go to court andsee child after child going through the system. Many times these children have good mothers that are hardworking and even did their best to raise them right according to all the witnesses, but in nearly every case they were single mothers and the fathers were usually completely absent or ratherly came around. When I have a father involved most times the judges are willing to be more leninent and work with the parents.
It may seem like nothing but blog gossip and judgement to some of you but if you really seen what is going on out there from an inside view you would quickly change your tune and stop applauding or covering for this craziest.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:38 PM
Agree 100%.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:39 PM
meant “craziness”.
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:40 PM
Honestly because something needs to be done. KEyshia looks beautiful and I pray that her baby is healthy. But women need to think more before they have sex and produce a child. MArriage is not just a piece a paper. More black women need to look into it.
Cosign 100% Hey fellow future doctor!!!
Sat, December 26, 2009 11:51 PM
Okay hypocrite. Aren’t you judging by calling people fools and telling them not to pick and chose what to follow in the bible? Please refer me to the scripture that says be fruitful and mulitply with a test tube. Children need both parents in their lives. God’s plan is devine and beneficial to the entire family when followed.
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:05 AM
I am the product of a single mother and an father that was not in my life at all. The last time I saw my father I was 5 years old. I am almost 36. I do from time to time talk to him on the phone but still have not physically seen him since I was 5.
Growing up for the most part I did not miss my dad alot because I was so use to my mother being the only parent and my uncles being around that it was like out of sight, out of mind. But when I turned 30 had finished undergrad and grad school I started thinking about marriage more and having children. I started thinking about the part of me that I knew nothing about. I worried what would I tell my children about their grandfather and even what illnesses did he have that were hereditary. All the things forced me to start a search for him and honestly it was not even a hard one(thank you Jesus).
I plan on seeing him this Summer for the first time, but it’s not easy because my mother passed a way couple of years ago. The day we buried her I called him just because I wanted to hear his voice and know that I still had at least one parent left and I was not completely alone. I am crying while typing this but to all the people that think people are judging, they have no idea what single motherhood does to the children in the long run. Sometimes it affects you as a child and sometimes it does not catch up with you until adulthood. Either way its painful.
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:35 AM
::::Friendly sista hug:::: I understand. My mom divorced my father when I was around 5. My father left for years, then returned after I was grown, with plenty of gifts as all “dead beat fathers” do…thinking I would just FORGET and just forgive thru miss. I didn’t at first, but I also never asked why…he just eventually told me one day over lunch at Big Boy’s. Last time we spoke was this Christmas …. :( and I’ll admit at 26 that’s HARD to hear that, but I’m proud of me because I’m able to forgive and love him as a friend. I call it babysteps. And maybe we might not ever get any whether than that….but I’m glad I was able to release LOAD of pain years almost and now move on with my life. I hope all goes well for you with that…….. :)
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:45 AM
GIRL SHUT UP!!! YOU stay having something stupid to say(if this is the same “msbliss”!! Are you 12??? GROW UP Don’t respond bcus after I comment, I WON’T be checking again!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:46 AM
umm, what rule states that you HAVE to be married eventually? it’s just a stupid rule that society wants us to follow. i think as long as the people are stable, you don’t have to get married to have kids. and sex outside of marriage is NOT bad as long as two responsible, in-love people are involved. not having sex until marriage is just foolish IMO. call it a sin, who cares. nobody’s free from sin anyway. i’d never marry someone (if i chose to get married) i never had sex with. you have to find out everything about a person before you make such a huge commitment. sex included.
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:48 AM
Kudos, GIRL, Kudos!!!! I love it!!!! U must be from the MidWest!! ie:BigBoys!! lol
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:49 AM
I think she looks fab! she is so blessed and lucky! Yay Keisha!
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:49 AM
OMG this post should be called “Bitter Bitch Central”. Damn half of you talking about she should be married blah blah blah and how she should be living blah blah got some unhappy ass relationships, probably done had AT LEAST 2 abortions (yes you did bitch don’t lie, LMBAO) but got the nerve to judge Keyshia for HAVING her child. I guess you bitter bitches would’ve preferred an abortion right? All in the name of holy matrimony. Talking shit about how she living yet I wonder how ya foul uppity ass is living. Country ass bumm ass bama ass broads.
I’m single, educated w/ no kids and while I do prefer to be married before I have any kids, I don’t know what my future holds for me. I bet these same broads are gonna be the ones getting down on bended knee with the ring they purchased for the man they are going to be begging to marry them. Then while he’s out cheating on ya dumb ass (cuz you not gonna leave cuz ya married now), you’ll be sitting around creating an excuse and a lie for such a happy and loving relationship while you know your man, oops husband, side of the bed stay cold.
Stop sqawking like the chicken headed bitches you are and worry about YOUR life and how you can BETTER it. If you got ya shit together act like it. Gosh the stupid asses that have the MOST EMPTY LIVES make the most fuckin noise. GET A LIFE and let Keyshie live hers.
Sun, December 27, 2009 1:00 AM
really people!! judging someone cause they have a baby and not married..i feel like im listening to several nosey people in church gossping (go figure gossip site, lol) bout a girl, who realizes this is a situation that she will have to handle and in the mean time take care of herself and her baby, not us…i bet you anything 1/2 the people on here mad cause kesh is having a baby so soon, had a baby single in their past life. she looks pretty and baby glow and all. whatever happened to congrats and keep it moving. plus she is grown, plus at least she is not in heels like her other preggos sister(sigh)…enough w/ da dramz…CONGRATS TO KESH!
Sun, December 27, 2009 1:20 AM
Smh, Emkay…and in THIS comment, I feel like I’m reading some from 16 year old hoodchick “cut & paste” journal entry. Obviously, you don’t have the understanding of half of what’s been said (being a universal subject addressed) or about LIFE. Isn’t it pass your bedtime? You know school starts back for YOU in 2 weeks. Nite Nite :)
Sun, December 27, 2009 1:56 AM
What does wearing heels while pregnant have to do with this discussion? And how would you know if she’s not wearing heels?
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:32 AM
YES YES YES!!! One of my favorite rappers (Common) said it best, “It’s too many Black women that can say they’re mothers but cant say that they’re wives”…
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:20 AM
You people are ridiculous. Having a marriage does not gurantee that a child will be brought up properly. Having a parent or parents that loves you and supports you is what matters. Do you. Its not your place to judge anybody. Let God handle that.
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:23 AM
DAMN CONGRATS TO HER…SHE LOOKS LIKE SHES WITH ME…9 MONTHS BUT THEM LAST PICS SHE LOOKED ABOUT 4 OR 5 MONTHS..BIG CHANGE I WISH HER A HAPPY AND HEALTHY BABY!!!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:52 AM
Of all the months that I’ve been coming onto this blog, this is one of the best comments section i’ve seen. Single-parenthood is an issue that needs to be addressed in the black community, and immediately. We have an epidemic where approximately 70%of our children are born out of wedlock, and that my fellow YBFers, is unacceptable.
Yes, we know that Keyshia will likely be able to support her child, however, finances are but a fraction of the much bigger picture. Ive read all the comments on this posting, it took me a while, but I couldn’t stop reading. Clearly, (based on the many comments here and studies that have been conducted over the years), children raised by single-moms suffer emotionally, psychologically and in many other ways. This is not to say that those raised in 2-parent homes do not suffer as well, but the deck appears to be stacked against single-parent-raised kids. We’ve really gotta try harder.
Sadly, I think we are preaching to the choir as most of us seem to see eye-to-eye. The people that should be hearing this are not likely to be sitting on a blog, but are out doing their day-to-day routine. Its sad, really. No, marriage is not a panacea, but its benefits far exceed that of single-parenthood. Marriage is what u make of it, if you see it as a piece of paper, then u will have little respect/regard for it.
By the way, I’m not trying to use Keyshia as a poster-child, however, at some point we have to address an issue that is literally staring us in the face.
Sun, December 27, 2009 5:33 AM
I Agree!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:55 AM
A marraige is a spiritual union between two people who are commited to spending their lives together, a piece of paper doesn’t make u husband&wife. With all the things Keyshia has been through in life I’m glad she’s doing something that makes her happy by chosing t have her child.Would it have been better that she aborted this baby?Apparently her personal life is more important to her then the entertainment world, if you don’t have something good to say then don’t say anything at all.I’m happy for her congrats Keyshia
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:06 AM
Thanks Kelly. I am praying to move on with my life as well and move the pain from my heart. I realized that I needed to type that out because I am a quiet person so I have never really expressed what I felt about the matter out loud. Thank you for listening and be blessed. I need to get ready to take my butt to church this morning. *Hugs*.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:07 AM
Man I cant believe some people on here a so fucking judgemental. I bet some you yalls momma were single. So chill the fuck out.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:11 AM
Right. It is the elephant in the room. It is amazing that so many keep walking around it as if it’s not taking up an incrediable amount of space.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:17 AM
@ Island Chic–i pretty much cosign with everything that you’ve said.
i like keyshia and all, but i though she would’ve learned from frankie, neffe and her other half sister that this may not be the best way to go. how long have her and dude been dating, a year? 2 tops? she seems happy, so i wish them all the best, but seriously, i wish people wouldn’t just say fuck marriage, imma just birth me some babies :/
i’m not judging either, i’m just sayin. really good comment thread here.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:25 AM
Let people do what the hell they want to! Yall act like people don’t get divorced. Sometimes people grow apart naturally,ya know that thing called Being Human. Life is a gamble whether you win or lose and you have to play according to your rules, Not others. Marriage is fine But quit talking about it like its right for every1. Let people live free just like you can. Damn. Why be so defensive about a personal choice after all your husband probably somewhere right now knockin some whore down while u up on here tpyin lol
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:27 AM
Single mothers = selfish mothers
Baby Daddies = selfish sperm donators
Child of single parents = Victim of selfish individuals concerned about their needs only and getting their freak on.
If you are from a single mom and you turned our great then praise God but it is certainly not the case for all. If you don’t think with all the crime, strippers obsession, lack of desire for education, poor economics, poor black male/female relationships, lack of respect for black women is all not a result of the astonishing number of black children with no loving two parents then you are from another freakin planet.
Keep sitting around excusing all this selfish ish and we will look up and literally the number will be 100%. My prayer is that black women will start thinking more about dating and marrying outside of their race as well as in their race. We need to do what it takes to create and raise healthy, happy,positive, productive individuals. There is a great chance when they come from a home with two loving God-fearing married parents.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:32 AM
Im a single mother of 3 by divorce. I would love to get married again. Being a single mom is hard and its even harder on my oldest son.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:38 AM
Everyone that is on here making comments about young, black, single mothers…do you realize Keyshia is almost 30 years old? This may not be a planned pregnancy but its a situation she is in with someone she seems to love and that loves her back. Plus how do you know they aren’t already married or planning to get married?
Stop being so ready to pounce on someone else’s sins and worry about yourself. If you are such a Christian pray for her, her relationship, and the health and happiness of her newborn.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:06 AM
hahaha! tell it.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:32 AM
hahahahahahahahahahahahhaa So true. I’m tripping over all the soapboxes in here! Thank God that I have my own mind and heart to do what works for me. I am a 30 year old married woman (2 years) with no kids. Who am I to tell every black woman they should live the way I choose? Get over yourself ladies and take care of your own homes!
Sun, December 27, 2009 10:18 AM
Okay you are exactly right. She dosen’t have to get married to have a baby, because with the past generations we have proven that. You say people have babies for the wrong reason, well I feel she should have given their relationship time before she up and got pregnant. I was with my boyfriend for 4 years before I got pregnant. And we lived together for most of that time. How could you have known a person for so short of a time so say you are going to carry his child. Like I said wake the Hell up MA because having a baby is not a game. It is serious. Im pretty sure alot of people know that. I just wish her well.
Sun, December 27, 2009 10:38 AM
Why is it that on every post everyone has to argue lol?
Damn.
Sun, December 27, 2009 10:39 AM
all yall women on here talkin this celibate shit need to stop fakin. i never seen so many virgins in my life. marriage doesnt equal a happy home and god forgives u for your sins. do what makes u happy. i think keyshia cole is a good woman and i respect the fact that she isnt out here half naked like all these other female celebs.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:07 AM
since when was her pregnancy for you all to judge? people go find some lives to live.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:08 AM
My mom was a single mother and most of the time we were better off than other kids who had both parents around. We had more food, clothes, and opportunities many of the times. We weren’t well off by any means but my mom was a saver. My mom owned her own business for 10 years moved to Canada from Jamaica and bought a house in 9 years after arriving with me and my brother, two suitcases and no money. My mom always says she doesn’t know what single parent means, she only heard the term used in North America, she only knows that a parent should always do what’s necessary for their children. Before marriage was created people were having children and sticking together as a family and community to raise them. Yeah marriage is a good thing but stop judging people. I ALWAYS tell my friends male and female that getting married JUST BECAUSE you have a child with someone is ridiculously STUPID! Get married for the right reasons. And God knows why these children are brought in this world and what their purpose is. So all this high and mighty get married for the kids crap is pure BS. We shouldn’t encourage single parenting but at the same time wake up and smell the new millenium, a lot of single parents didnt choose to be single, my dad walked out on my mom and she picked herself up and made a life for us. Stop casting stones and passing judgments because IT AINT YOUR FUCKIN PLACE TO DO SO. Just cause you married dont mean you’re better off. Some people only get married for show too, waalkin around frontin on everybody when they know they’re not happy and THAT is even worse. Single parents keep ya heads up!
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:20 AM
OMG PREACH!!! Can’t believe the judemental ass women in here poppin shit and I bet you their nasty ass way of living would give people plenty to talk about! I guess as long as you’re not pregnant out of wedlock you’re Mother Theresa? Bitch please. GTFOH w/ that BS! Like I said, bitter bitch central. Would love to see what some of these broads talking about. I bet ain’t no man checking for them anyway so it’s easier for them to pass judgement.
And RESPECT to your moms (brap brap). I love my J’can people. Come over here and establish their own in NO TIME what some people take a lifetime to have or will never have at all. :D
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:22 AM
Meant to say I would love to see what some of these broads look like
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:43 AM
@I had to comment!!! Considering ur spelling girl take ur own advice! Please practice what we preach! FYI i was being sarcastic
@ Me that was very kind of u! Thank u!
@Wak I understand where ur coming from! I don’t care if anyone has a baby before Wedlock! It not my business! My point was both parents don’t equal happy life! That being said i not angry @ u for have ur own opinion! FYI my dad was sober when my parents got married! It just complicated! SMH Anyway thank u for ur kind words!
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:48 AM
Mama’s baby Daddy maybe that being said I wish keshia the best if god saw fit for her to conceive and carry a child then so be it. At least she’s no BRANDY who lied about being married to safe face. I have never looked at her the same after that!
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:02 PM
I take it you didn’t wait and FEEL bitter now because of? Oh ok. Not our faults, it’s YOURS.
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:35 PM
That is sad. More power to you for pursuing your dreams!!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 12:56 PM
Its been really interesting reading the comments. As a 33-year-old doctoral student who will finish her degree from an Ivy League institution in a year or so, I am expecting my first child as a single parent in May. I found out I was pregnant 2 months after ending a relationship with a long-term boyfriend and have decided that marriage would make an already complicated situation that much more complicated. So, we are working out how to co-parent. I have always wanted children and was clear that after a certain age if I was unmarried I would have children on my own so I have no moral issues with single parenthood. Hell, my president was raised by a single parent and although he states its not ideal, he turned out pretty damn good.
I have no illusions about raising a child being easy but I feel like many of the comments that I read here are not just about single parenthood but about youth, poverty, lack of understanding of what it takes to be a good parent. I also work with youth involved in the child welfare system and the problem with many of these children is not merely single parenthood. its single parenthood compounded with young parents, the inability to financially support your children and no real idea of how to raise and guide a child beyond providing for their most basic needs. I would agree with Electric Sunshine and maybe because my family members are immigrants I don’t really see myself as single. I have a community of family and friends who will raise this child like their own. I know this because I have done the same for countless children in my own family/ community.
Lastly, my parents were divorced and because my father didn’t make as much money as my mother she functioned as a single parent for a good part of my life. However, my dad was always available to me. He never lived more than 2 miles away. He picked us up from school and went to all of my school functions. My parents didn’t like each other for the period right after their divorce but they spoke every other day when it came to us kids. In fact, right after the divorce I was extremely angry with my father and it was my mother than forced me to continue my relationship with him and I am grateful to her for that to this day.
So I may have shared way tooooo much. But I found this discussion really helpful in solidifying my decision to have this child and to celebrate its life. In this holiday season I wish each of you both the blessings you plan for and those you don’t. Happy New Year!
Sun, December 27, 2009 1:15 PM
I THOUGHT LONG AND HARD AND READ MOST OF POSTS BEFORE POSTING THIS… SHE IS PREGNANT…ITS HER LIFE…SHE IS NOT THE SPOKES PERSON FOR CHILDREN OUTSIDE OF WEDLOCK…GET OVER IT..STOP JUDGING HER…ITS HER LIFE…ARE U PEOPLE THAT BORED THAT YOU HAVE NOTHING BETTER TO DO? NATASHA PUTS THE POSTS UP FOR US TO VIEW AND OF COURSE TO COMMENT ON BUT HOW IN THE WORLD DID WE GET FROM LOOKING AT KEYSHIA’S BELLY BUMP TO UNMARRIED PREGNANT FOLK HAVE NO MORALS? SUMX IM SO SICKENED WITH BLOGGERS..SMH…WHO THE HELL R U TO PASS JUDGEMENT? AND AS FOR HAVING NO MORALS…IM A MARRIED WOMAN, WITHOUT CHILDREN, IN COLLEGE, MY HUSBAND HAS A DAMN GOOD JOB AND TREATS ME WELL. WE ARE NOT DEVOUT BUT THAT DOESNT MEAN WE ARE HEATHENS EITHER AND FOR THE DEVOUT FOLK TALKING ALL THIS SHIT ABOUT THE GIRL CHOOSING NOT TO ABORT HER BABY B/C LETS FACE IT WHAT ELSE WAS THERE TO DO..KEEP IT OR NOT…DOESNT THE BIBLE SAY LET HE WHO IS WITHOUT SIN CAST THE FIRST STONE…SO TO ALL THE BLOGGERS WHO TAKE TO THESE SITES TO TALK SHIT INSTEAD OF CELEBRATE OUR PEOPLE, I THINK I SPEAK FOR A DOZEN OTHERS WHEN I SAY GO FUQ URSELVES
Sun, December 27, 2009 1:39 PM
FIRST OF ALL KEYSHIA IS STILL IN A RELATIONSHIP AND THEY MAY BE ENGAGED OR ALREADY MARRIED AND NOBODY EVEN KNOWS THAT PEOPLE DONT KNOW EVERYTHING AND NOBODY CRUCIFIED HALLE BERRY WHEN SHE GOT PREGNANT AND WAS NOT MARRIED COME ON NOW GO KESH CUTE AND EVERY THING HAPPENS FOR A REASON GOD MAKES NO MISTAKES AND THATS WHY SO MANY BABIES ARE POPPING OUT ITS GODS WILL NOT MANS
Sun, December 27, 2009 1:59 PM
I respect marriage but look at tiger situation Im tired OF PEOPLE thinking that marriage will make things better, married or not as long as the parents love there kids and teach them they hopefully will be fine. The problem is not being a single parents because there single mothers/fathers thats done a hell of a job!Its when the parents are lazy and not having there priorities straight!
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:08 PM
SOULMARIPOSA I wish you the best of luck and don’t let anyone talk shit to you. Have your baby and walk with your head held high. Keyshia Cole as well. Too many of these so-called God-fearing people don’t know the definition of love and claim to know what God thinks and feels. They sit on their pedestal as if they know some absolute truth but talk absolute shit and forget that those without sin (which means ABSOLUTELY NO ONE)should cast the first stone. Judge not lest ye be judged. Take the beam out your own eye etc. If God was so against out of wedlock births none of us would be here because the first people to have children weren’t married by today’s standards or any religious standards. Stay strong and I wish you the best of luck.
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:14 PM
OMG ARE U FREAKIN KIDDIN ME…THERE ARE JUS AS MANY FUCKED UP INDIVIDUALS THAT HAD 2 PARENT HOMES THAN THOSE WHO HAD 1…COME ON NOW YA’LL ARE WILDIN FOR THAT ONE…AND YA’LL DONT EVEN KNO IF SHES ALREADY MARRIED OR EVEN ENGAGED TO BE TALKIN SHIT…JUS CAUSE YOUR MARRIED DONT MEAN IT STILL CANT END JUS AS WELL AS U BEIN NON MARRIED…EITHER WAY CONGRATS AGAIN AS LONG AS THEY LOVE THAT BABY MORE THAN LIFE ITSELF THINGS WILL BE OKAY!!!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:26 PM
Okay!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:35 PM
LORDY, LORDY, NEVER SEEN SO MANY LAW STUDENTS, VIRGINS, PHARMACOLOGY, PSYCHOLOGY & MEDICAL STUDENTS ON HERE BEFORE.
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:41 PM
>>>DEAD<<< Code blue, flatline!!! :-)
Sun, December 27, 2009 2:43 PM
Lordy, Lordy I never seen so many baby mamas with computers. You don’t know anyone on here profession or background. You assuming everyone is living like you. Don’t get mad because some of these young sistahs on here got their sh*t together.
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:02 PM
I need a new post ASAP!
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:09 PM
you are a prude.
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:11 PM
:)
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:29 PM
keisha makes getting pregnant look like a fairy-tale!she will make little girls want pregnant dollies and revolutionalize the toy industry, with preggy dollies afloat.she is beautiful.if she ever has bad-hair days, she knows what to do to keep ‘em days away for 9months straight.i’m drooling.i just wish she had a wedding ring on it…is all!
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:53 PM
I know…shocking that there are actual young people who aren’t spreading there legs to every tom dick and harry, that there are people actually trying to make something out of themselves
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:54 PM
Thank you!! Had i seen this before i post, i wouldn’t of bothered posting lol :)
Sun, December 27, 2009 3:54 PM
Ok I know I’m a little off subject…. but Does anyone else remember when Keyshia Cole was brown skinned??!?
Sun, December 27, 2009 4:18 PM
Keyshia looks adorable preggars!
Sun, December 27, 2009 5:07 PM
hahahahahahaha I’m saying though!
Sun, December 27, 2009 5:29 PM
People just wanna find something shit do what you wanna do and live your life, its to short to worry about the next! and love your kids if you have them single/engaged or married
Sun, December 27, 2009 6:40 PM
Most of all the famous serial killers came from normal married two parent homes as well.
Sun, December 27, 2009 6:49 PM
If you’re going to attack Keyshia, then you gotta go after Halle, Jennifer Hudson, Brandy, Monica, LaLa, and all the other beautiful black celebrity mothers who remain unmarried.
Sun, December 27, 2009 6:50 PM
Thank you! I’m glad someone has a BRAIN and knows how to use it. I replied on this post before stating that I was a 25 and a virgin. Being a virgin was my personal decision! I’m not knocking anyone who isn’t a virgin. I don’t have time for all that.
Oh and FYI I just finished my first semester of graduate school as a Computer Science major. If you don’t know what you’re talking about, or don’t know a person don’t respond and make an ASS out of yourself. Pow!
*drops mic, walks off stage.*
Sun, December 27, 2009 6:51 PM
Everyone is not to meant to be married… Tiger Woods. If you wish to have kids and are blessed to make it happen, so be it! Finances and patience must be in check. Single moms, respect due… I need my tag team partner (wife) to make it thru.
Natasha, please update soon. Pres Obama, the Pope, and Al Sharpton is about to drop his opinion in a minute.
Sun, December 27, 2009 6:51 PM
I don’t think it’s a matter of everyone saying she has to be married before conceiving a child. I think it’s more of everyone wishing she did. Let’s be honest, there are too many babies being brought into this world out of wedlock and become victims of nasty situations. Marriage is not perfect but at least you know you’re not some chick a dude knocked up and left you with the responsibility. Do women not love themselves enough? Do you not think you are worth more than that? It’s unfortunate because that cycle will continue and your children will think it’s okay to get knocked up and not be married. And let’s be realistic, how many men want to take care of another man’s child? I’ve been blessed with a stepfather who treats me as his flesh and blood but not a lot of people can say the same. why sit there and be naive and expect a dude to help you and then cry later to the gov’t for assistance? We need to do better people. It’s a shame to see younger girls than me pregnant and dumping the kid on their parents to take care of. If you so happen to get pregnant, make sure u are ready for it or tell that boy no glove no love. My problem isn’t so much with conceiving out of wedlock, it’s whether or not the father sees you as someone who will become your wife or as baby mama#1,2,3, etc. We don’t like stereotypes, yet we create reasons to be a statistic. Diclaimer: This is just my opinion.
Sun, December 27, 2009 6:52 PM
My comment was in response to Yep, Sure You Are, not Pat!
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:01 PM
I would prefer to see married couples have children as opposed to people who are “just dating”; however with that being said…..BETTER HER THAN ME! She seems to be financially secure. The alleged baby daddy seems to be financially secure so at least the general public won’t have to take care of it (i.e. food stamps, section-8, WIC, etc). LAWD knows that’s a plus!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:02 PM
I agree! I live in NC and I see so many young girls with children, normally alone, and it breaks my heart. I don’t know their situation to speculate if the child’s father is around, but I just ask myself: “Why make life more complicated?”
I also agree about creating a cycle. That’s EXACTLY what happened in my family. My aunt had her daughters young without being married and by a man who wasn’t worth spit on the ground, and her daughters turned around and did the EXACT same thing! So trust, your actions (or lack thereof) leaves an impact on your children and how they choose their mate.
I was the first granddaughter on both sides of my family to graduate from high school, college (BS), and now pursuing my masters degree. But I made the decision to hold off on sex. I’ve seen too many people get caught up and make short-lived decisions on the notion of “good sex” it’s just not worth it to me.
At the end of the day, I just hope Keyshia’s baby is healthy. But by NO MEANS should girls look at Keyshia’s situation and try to emulate it. IMO
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:12 PM
Piggy backing on Zett’s comment: If people are going to attack Keyshia then you also need to go after Nia Long, Erykah Badu, Jill Scott, Lauren London, and the list goes on and on….
I’m not judging anyone’s choices, I would just prefer to see children who are born into a marital union.
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:12 PM
Definitely, and I commend you on your achievements. I wish more females put their education first. My mom always says boys, money, clothes, sex, things of the world can leave but your education no one can take it away from you. I guess it really depends on the parental figures influence on you. Sometime children adapt to what they consider “normal.” And I commend Keyshia for doing something positive with her life cause she didn’t grow up in the same surrounding as some of us. Pregnancy has become the new gucci bag and it’s not supposed to be. Bring a child in this world because you know you are mentally, physically, emotionally and financially stable.
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:17 PM
Someone said “I’ve never seen so many virgins”. Honey just because you don’t see them or know them doesn’t mean that there are not any around. I know some people who still wish they were one or had waited until marriage because dudes dogged them out and after they got the sex they just up and left. So just because ya’ll are giving it up to every man that calls you beautiful and says I want to spend the rest of my life with you, doesn’t mean everyone else is. Yes I’ve been called cute, sexy, beautiful, you make my heart melt when I see you, trying to wine and dine me; but I’ll be damned if I give it up just because of what he says.
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:36 PM
i am so happy for her and i pray that she be blessed and happy her and her family. she just a family person ad wonts one of her on i can understand.
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:38 PM
Im sure half of the people up here had sex before marrige so get over it. Im also sure that most people who have babies out of wedlock would have like to follow the proper order of being married first but life happens.
Anywho she looks happy but when I saw the outfit I died!!!The pink wedding dress look is a not working. On another note I wish her the best!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:40 PM
I’m 38 and a virgin.
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:45 PM
Since we’re talking about picking and choosing which Bible verses to live by, I can’t help but wonder what some of you are doing on a gossip site to begin with. The Bible is just as clear about gossip as it is about pre-marital sex.
“A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret” (Proverbs 11:12-13).
“A fool’s mouth is his undoing, and his lips are a snare to his soul. The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts” (Proverbs 18:7-8).
“They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful;”(Romans 1:29b-32).
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:47 PM
WAIT, WAIT, I WANNA GET IN. I’M 52 AND GUESS WHAT, I’M A VIRGIN TO.
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:51 PM
Why do so many people think being marriedis best. Personally I wasn’t born out of wedlock my parents had been together yrs. before I was born and then when I turned four got a divorce and my father for the most part was a deadbeat. So just becuase you are married doesnt mean everything is going to be better because it makes no diffence in any case and its plenty of people who never got married and had children and the fathers are actively involved. To the people who are virgins when I said IM SURE HALF OF THE PEOPLE HAD SEX BEFORE MARRIGE, Im not say all I def said half so Im not addressing you…
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:57 PM
PREACH!!!
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:57 PM
sorry for all of the typos
Sun, December 27, 2009 7:58 PM
Brenda Starr… GTFOH?!
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:06 PM
I am a 49 year old virgin, living in California. I am attending UC Berkeley, majoring in Math and plan on pursuing a career in engineering.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:11 PM
I completely agree with you. I am 17 years old and I am focusing on my education and trying to go to the best college possible for me. I will be the first on my moms side and the first out of my siblings to go to a university. I always get laughed at when people ask me if I am a virgin and I so etimes tell them yes or it’s my prvate business. The people don’t blieve in saving for the right person and believe I have a problem because I’m not having sex like the rest of them.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:13 PM
I love how everyone is saying Im in college and Im a virgin. what differnce does it make? Im 21 and Im not a virgin and Im in collge!!! Im not aginst anyone who is a virgin but so what no one asked you if you were a virgin…who cares
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:14 PM
I meant college and difference
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:16 PM
Hypocite! Taggin people about quoting scriptures on a “gossip blog” YET you traveled from MTO to here to indirectly to the same?! I guess YOU don’t see it like though. You’ve just become a victim of your own words. Be gone!
Hun, I wasnt’ born out of wedlock either and my parents divorced likewise when I was around 5also. BUT that shouldn’t change the fact of me believing things can be different for me on my OWN END, compared to what I saw as an example growing up. It’s up to YOU to decide at this point for your life, NOT based on “examples” but based on your own beliefts. Remember, Anything worth having is worth working towards….marriage is one of them. You have to work in love with someone. What worked in one person’s marriage might not work in another. All marriages are diffent and need TIME.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:21 PM
I agree really I do want to be married first but my point is thats not always whats best.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:25 PM
You couldn’t have said it better! As soon as these girls get pregnant, these baby daddies disappear. If he doesn’t love you enough to put a ring on it, then why are you giving him the gift a life?? Then, these same girls complain about raising a child by themselves. smh. I’m not judging anyone but I wish black women will learn from the mistakes of others. Also, the lack of a positive father figure is the main reason why young black men don’t know how to treat our beautiful black women. We have to do better.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:32 PM
Dear Kelly Clear,
Perhaps it wasn’t obvious from my name, The Agnostic, but I’m not a Christian. Nonetheless, I’m dumbfounded as to how so many people can use the Bible to criticize this woman when it’s clear their picking and choosing their way through the Bible themselves. It’s no different than the criticism some Christians hand out to Muslims that set up liquor stores in the ghetto knowing good and well their religion prohibits them from consuming it themselves. If someone claims to believe something and wants to hold other people to those same standards, the least they can do is actively live by those standards themselves. Judging other people by Christian standards while continuously participating on a gossip site isn’t a good look.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:36 PM
OMG, my thoughts EXACTLY! When I tell women that if he respects you he’ll put a RING on it. I always get the same response, “Oh you just don’t understand…” Like I stated before marriage BEFORE carriage. I’m not saying that being married is a cake-walk. Not at all. Like my mom told me, a marriage is like another job, both parties have to be willing to put in the work. If one person is putting in 75% and the other is putting in 25% AT BEST, it’s not going to last.
Like I tell people, when you pro-create with someone you’re tied to that person FOR LIFE! Even if the other person dropped dead the next day, you will ALWAYS be tied due to your child. I wish more people will keep that in mind and not think that having a kid is like an accessory because that is NOT the case.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:36 PM
Well…..me personally, the reason why I say “Marriage first” is because if I GIVE of myself to someone who’s not my husband, I could possibly run the risk of seriously getting hurt and thrown to the side. I mean what “true commitment” does a boyfriend have to his girlfriend? Not much. That’s why the say; ” Don’t marry your boyfriend/girlfriend marry your wife//husband. Because in all honesty, if you marry BF/GF that’s what you’re going to get. And I know society tags back with scripts of; it’s no guarantee that my husband will be any better…… BUT I’d rather wait for me. And someone might not agree with THIS but, whether he’s a virgin or not….if God’s sent him (and I KNOW it for a fact) I’m in full agreement.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:49 PM
OK, Imma start from here….
I think what some women (perhaps you even) on here are confusing is the universal topic of “premartial SEX,” needing to be addressed (which is) as “bashing Keyshia’s pregnancy,” which is only one example showcased publicly to generation of lost teenage girls. Moral of the story, Abstinence from sins is better than seeking help afterwards.
Sun, December 27, 2009 8:52 PM
FYI… Thru ought history we’ve been born out of wed lock; check your history. Let’s not judge and quote scriptures…we’re natural survivors, but have shortcomings that must be recognized.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:00 PM
As for this,, there’s never NOT an approciate place to talk about “morals and quote scriptures” so to speak. And in this case,
“scriptures” really wasnt what is riding this out, TRUTH was/is, it’s just blended within. Is that a crime neccessarily on YBF? Can we not go FULL FLEDGE with it……? Perhaps, that’s what they feel in schools, don’t talk about it…too touchy. But maybe if they’d kept “scriptures” so to speak in the schools, crime wouldn’t be at such a great percentage as it is now. These are my views…..can’t speak for everyone elses.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:10 PM
I don’t know about that. I think it would be inappropriate for a pastor to criticize someone about premarital sex while he’s putting cash into the G-string of a stripper. Likewise I think it’s inappropriate to criticize someone about morals and scriptures when their regularly frequenting a gossip site. It just doesn’t make a lot of sense. That’s just my two cents though.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:17 PM
no it was at the lakers and cavs game on christmas the lakers played Sacramento yesterday in Sac
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:30 PM
Keyshia is a down-to-earth cute sister. Don’t know what’s up with the ballerina dress and denim jacket though. Guess the choices from the closet slim done a bit when you’re that far along.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:33 PM
I am glad to hear that people wont follow the status quo for unmarried black mothers- stand up for what is right! We all make our mistakes but strive to do better! I work in a doctors office and I heard some personnel refer to a married young mother- and her BLACK husband as her baby’s daddy- that even though they were married. The white community is so used to us having 6 or 7 kids out of wedlock that they continue to classify us negatively.
But who cares about what people think, you should think of the ramifications- GET YOUR EDUCATION (financial stability)AND WORRY ABOUT HAVING KIDS LATER. If your married and it works out fabulous if it doesnt..oh well! But atleast you tried.
Sun, December 27, 2009 9:37 PM
OK….
I see your point with a Pastor, BUT if what he’s stating (at some point) has some kind of a truth to it, regardless of his “secret sins”….it still stands correct. Truth is still considered TRUTH even if it’s coming from a negative source/surrounding. Can’t justify that. And yes indeed, YBF is a gossip site where profanity reigns, constructive criticism is twisted into hatred, and most times is overly opinionated by more personal views than truths……BUT should that one fact shun certain this community from certain “words” and “topics” because of that suddenly. Perhaps someone would say inapprociate, but if it’s truth why not? But, I guess we’re going to see this different ways…. good day.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:02 PM
CHIILLLLLLEEEE!!! YOU SAID IT!!!! IT’S CALLED SELF CONTROL I GUESS A LOT OF FEMALES LACK IT
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:04 PM
all the ladies on here sayin “I Ain’t neva seen so many virgins” or “i don’t care if you’re a virgin’ secretly wish they still were. Stop hating and just give respect where its due. You have to respect a virgin
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:09 PM
Don’t let the naysayers phase you girl. Keep doing what you’re doin and continue to maintain your focus. Just think about your awesome successful future and what would be the right thing to do whenever you are tempted
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:09 PM
THIS IS WHY WE SHOULD STOP BLAMING CELEBRITIES FOR NOT BEING ROLEMODELS BECAUSE THEY ARE FAAAAAAAAAAAAR FROM PERFECT.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:11 PM
I doubt anyone is picking on just Keyshia. Th
This is not about people picking on Keyshia. It would be pointless to do so. Keyshia just happens to be the person involved at the moment. This is about the issue of rampant unwed motherhood in the black community regardless of your position or economical standing in society.
Also, why some of you keep saying, just let people live their lives. Don’t you realize that many of the children in these situations are born to mothers that need sometimes need government assistance therefore its not just their life now, but it is now our responsibility as a country to take care of them through our taxes? How silly and naive can you be?
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:19 PM
Poor keisha…this argument is not really to point fingers at her but rather at the thousands of black women that continue to have more and more children out of wedlock. Also fingers should not be pointed at the children; they each have purposes for being. So people lets just clarify and make sure we are all on the same page. This is not about Keisha persay….its just that she is representing the black/minority culture right now.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:35 PM
I’m a Keyshia Cole fan, despite her uncouth family members she really does carry herself well and she’s always giving back which is a plus. My only concern here is the short amount of time she has been with her boyfriend. They haven’t been together a year yet and she’s due to drop a baby in a few months. Yes they can both financially provide for the baby but I hope they are on the same page as far as their committed relationship goes. Best of luck to her.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:50 PM
I respect virgins good for them!!! I choose differently and I don’t regret my choice.
Sun, December 27, 2009 11:56 PM
I respect the women an men who are virgins they, thats good for them, they made dicision and stuck to it….As for me and many other I choose differently and I definantly don’t regret my choice.
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:18 AM
I am truely not passing judgement but a child needs 2 active parents in the household. Speaking on experience my husband and I have been married for 6 years with one child. At the beginging my husband and myself were having martial problems so that left me being a single mother. Let me tell you that was hard as hell. We worked out our differnece both are in the household raising our child together. It is a god sent. I thank him everyday because I know where we were and how far we have come and my child is a lot happier and healthier because of it. Not all single parent homes are bad but alot are and at the end of the day once you make that desicion to have children it is your duty to make sure they are raised and having a 2 parent home makes it that more easier.
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:38 AM
I agree with the person who said marraige is a state of being. Because you don’t have to be married to be with someone for years. Really the ceremony is to celebrate your love and commitment with your friends,family, and to cvome before God and the license is to show proof to the government that you are commited to that person. But God loves us anyway and he knows our hearts.
As far as Keyshia Coles is concerned we don’t know if they are engahed and plan to get married and if they don’t God forgives them and still loves them!!!
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:40 AM
I meant engaged
Mon, December 28, 2009 1:59 AM
This discussion has been refreshing. It is odd to be the only blackwoman in the office who is married with a child. I am glad to hear that so many black women DO believe in marriage. When you find love with the right man it is a beautiful thing. It is possible to have a loving marriage. Black women please keep the hope for marriage alive. It is a loving and spiritual experience with God! I wish all my sisters to be loved and respected wives and mothers!
Mon, December 28, 2009 3:15 AM
IM GLAD SHE IS CHANGING HER WAYS, I WENT TO HER ALBUM RELEASE PARTY SHE WASNT TO NICE…& I STOPPED BUYING HER MUSIC, BUT ITS BEEN A WHILE; SHE HAS GROWN INTO A PRODUCTIVE ARTIST IN EVERYDAY LIFE.
Mon, December 28, 2009 6:56 AM
whoa, pregnant DOESNT do her face any favour!!
Mon, December 28, 2009 7:42 AM
u knw i was sooo looking forward to reading the comments cuz i was so sure people would have something nice to say but i was wrong….i just dnt seem to get hw people can be so hatefully and close minded, the fact that the baby is born to a very happy couple and the child would be loved dosent seem to matter to some people, people r talkin about marriage and blah blah blah, like a married couple givin birth to a child guarantees a child to be looked after properly and loved. the life that child would have, the love that child would have,the positive lessons taught to that child that is wat mattes nt some paper certificate.
Mon, December 28, 2009 7:52 AM
I think the criticism of Keysha being pregnant by a man she has been dating for less than a year is valid considering her family history with both her mother have a multitude of children by random men. Yes, there is a huge difference between Keshia and her mother (financial situation, drug abuse, mental stability, etc.) however, it is still disappointing that after seeing the example her mother (and now her sister) is setting that she would not be more vigilant about not getting pregnant before she is at least in a long term relationship with an individual.
Mon, December 28, 2009 8:32 AM
i think black women often short change themselves in relationships, if you do not expect more you will not get more. adults should engage in family planning. granted, marriage does not guarantee anything but neither does having children out of wedlock by random people who do not value your compainionship enough to marry you. in the eyes of the law, and in the eyes of God, marriage is honored and revered. there are a host of beautiful, intelligent black women that have settled, some are around the way girls, and some are celebrities, either way, it is distasteful and unfortunate. it would be different if a black woman got pregnant and moved one with ther life and tried to raise her child independently, but too many times i have witnessed black women give their all in a relationships for years, wash the man’s draws, cook his food, put up with a man’s mood, put up with his family, avoid dating other people, have sex with them whenever they want, they have all the burdens of marriage, but none of the benefits, its shameful
Mon, December 28, 2009 8:35 AM
Agree. The child is not at fault because they did not ask to be here. At the end of the day they are a blessing.
However, the child later has to grow up and make better decisions than their parents. We cannot continue to use the excuse of “generational curses” when much of this is just about decisions. Each generation should do better or try not to repeat the mistakes of their parents. Doing the same things over and over expecting different results each time is the definition of insanity.
Mon, December 28, 2009 8:48 AM
Marriage is not always best, but unfortunately Keyshia is not breaking the cycle of her family. I can probably guess that this pregnancy was not planned. I’m sure Daniel will take care of his child but he’s also a 23 year old man. i do wish them the best though.
Mon, December 28, 2009 10:17 AM
A man can drop you regardless of whether you are married or not leaving you to be a single parent. I hope everyone who is passing judgment can realize that in this day and time nothing is sacred even marriage. We have gay people wanting to be married and adopt kids. There are plenty of children out there that are happy and successful who grew up in a single parent home.
Mon, December 28, 2009 10:20 AM
Hahaha, I love it when people say things to excuse their’s or others actions, like “Marriage isn’t for everyone.”
Making a formal commitment to be w/ one person isn’t for everyone, but RAISING another human life is (which includes an informal commitment to at least stay in touch w/ the person you slept w/ for life).
What is Keyshia Cole? 25, 26? Yup, I’m sure she and this Boobie guy came together and said “No, I’m not ready for marriage, but let’s have a baby”
I wish you people would stop pretending, and look at it for what it most likely is. They had unprotected sex (and don’t give me that nonsense about how “maybe the condom broke”) and she got pregnant.
I doubt Keyshia Cole is against marriage, or doesn’t have any plans on doing it one day. It’s just the man doesn’t want to marry her yet (or ever, who knows).
Mon, December 28, 2009 11:06 AM
For the girl with the drunk father totally agree your case is rare however I am sure he was a alcoholic before she decided to get pregnant by him he did not become a alcholic over night. I have plenty of women friends who dated a guy knew he was no damn good and still decided to get pregnant by him and the kids are the ones who suffered. You have to pick and choose and know what you are working with. To be honest I am so happy so many women on this site are pumping their fist for more marriages in oppose to single parent homes which I have nothing against because my mom was a single parent but it has become a trend lately and it is accepted entirely too much. I do not want my daughter to have that mind frame that what is the point of marriage it is going to break up anyway yes marriages or families might break up but you will never know until you try you give it your all and if along the rode something happens forgiving is not so bad if that is your choice to keep the marriage together. People today forget we are imperfect human beings nothing is going to go according to schedule or how you want it too. But raising kids in a matter where you are only making the decisions and not considering the childrens future not how they are now the now situation might be okay but what about 10 years from now when your son is looking for the male guidance like my brothers were now the majority of men in my family was raised in single parent homes and all have either been in jail or have no real way of providing for the chidren they created because they never went or had some type of education yes they were told by their mom;s to go and get a good education but face it women there are but so many things a women can do (depending on what type of child you have). I am the only one of my friends that are still married we all got married around the same time. We were 19 going on 20 I have been married for 8 years no it wasn ot perfect but my husband and I were both willing to put in the blood, sweat, and tears, to make it work the love behooved us to want to keep our little family together. I am now 28 and pregant with our second child. I felt it was worth the fight to see the joy my son have for his father. But women today have to understand no don’t just take anything to be married but give it your all and at the end of the day if you are the only one fighting then start looking for options but seriously the young single-parent moms we need to do better. I am just so happy so many women are for more families that means we have made a major step.
Mon, December 28, 2009 11:10 AM
She has on make-up. Quite a bit actually. It’s just done in a less dramatic “stage performance” way.
Mon, December 28, 2009 11:44 AM
I understand all views on the issue. Marriage in this discussion is a religious entity and one should not be judged if they decide to marry or not befor having a baby. I have two children , But I do plan on getting married this April. I do believe that a child would be better off with two LOVING parents , married or not. My fiance has a son with his ex-wife, and they work together to parent him. My pint is you know who you are sleeping with if you prefer marriage dont have kids with someone you know will never marry you. But some of these women out here are on some other stuff themselves they have no respect or parenting skills. I waited untill I graduated college to have my children and I believe I have a wonderful father for them who will do anything(legal) to support his family and I will be beaming and not ashamed to (God Willing) marry him in April. That is all.
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:13 PM
keisha’s beautiful pregnant. if you think about it Frankie and Neffie are role models. . .on what NOT TO DO and HOW NOT TO ACT. . .we really don’t know their family dynamics, maybe her adoptive mother had more of a profound impact on her life than we will ever know. she may use that mother as an example of how to be a mother, she may lean on to her more that she will Frankie because she wasn’t there to raise Keisha (thank goodness). bottomline we’ll never know what kind of influences she has that’s positive because all we see is Frankie and Neffie chicken head asses all over the place
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:26 PM
@ LT- That was beautiful! People need to understand that marriage is very hard work and that the hig divorce rate is due to people giving up to quickly or not choosing the right partner in the first place. Of course getting married does not gurrentee anything but if these women got to know these men BEFORE they had their children then this problem would’nt be as rampant. Of course mistakes happen but for it to be happening this often is redamndiculus!!! 70% of black children born out of wedlock. That’s too many damn baby mamas and baby daddies. If 2 people choose not to get married than they need to make their responsiblilty for both of them to be in their child’s life.
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:51 PM
I am so sick of people on this site. Yes, the correct thing to do is to get married before you have a child, but it doesn’t always work that way, and nobody is in the position to pass judgement on anyone elses situation. I view Keyshia’s pregnancy as a blessing regardless of how it came about, she’s been through alot. Why cant folks just be happy for one another, instead of constantly looking for ways to condemn or bring eachother down…… she could very well end up being another single mother, but at least she can afford it! I know half of you on here bumping your gums about how stupid you feel she looks for being an unwed mother, got kids out of wedlock yo damn selves, Congrats 2 keyshia….. brush these haters OFF!!!!!
Mon, December 28, 2009 12:54 PM
I think u should be happy for her bacause she has been throught so much and now she is happy and yall want to down play the whole thing.U dont see people that have babies married so get mad at them at least she with her baby daddy be happy for that all i want. But im happy for her and i wish her the best of lucky in the furture
Mon, December 28, 2009 2:48 PM
LOL last time I checked, Keyshia Cole was grown women who can have children if she damn well pleased
To all the ones who would rather her be “married” who says that your marriage is everlasting? Or you husband cannot give you the same STDs that a so called “single” person can give you? Please stop being naive, being married doesn’t automatically give you the right to have children. Especially when you “husband” can leave you tomorrow and guess what you will be – a single mother *roll eyes*
Congradulations to Keyshia and Boobie!!!!
Mon, December 28, 2009 3:07 PM
A child is a blessing regardless of the circumstances and just because you have a child doesn’t mean you can’t rise above and be successful. I had my child at 12 and I still excelled in school received a scholarship to Morgan State and am now a RN working my way to becoming a N.P.
Mon, December 28, 2009 3:47 PM
WTH is up with this tutu?!!?!!
She’s definitely cute but I could’ve done w/o the tutu & her youngest neice jean jacket!
Mon, December 28, 2009 5:39 PM
Did anyone watch this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJGMAhWpDF8
Mon, December 28, 2009 5:54 PM
I feel sorry for women who are so miserable that they find something to say about other women no matter what. I have wittnessed women preaching about being married before having kids who knew they had 3 abortions and had babies out of wedlock. some ppl are so miserable they will find something nasty to say about anybody. s
Mon, December 28, 2009 8:40 PM
Are u serious???????????????? If so that is ashame I doubt it seriously u would have successful it was not from the help of your parents and others adults. Please don’t say u did it on your own because that is a lie!
Mon, December 28, 2009 8:51 PM
Yes I did have a mother who helped financially @ times but by no means she always made it quite clear your baby your burden, which meant she was doing NO BABYSITTING! So between being a mom I hit the books knowing the odds were already against me and that I had a child to support. By the time I was 17 I lived on my own, my daughters father was & still is incarcerated and I did what I had to do to take care of myself. So why you’re calling me a liar without knowing me or my situation or my struggles concern yourself with your own life
Mon, December 28, 2009 8:55 PM
@KeKe-Bitch you are shameful who the hell are you to judge me?What do you do for a living?Stupid ass ho
Tue, December 29, 2009 9:10 AM
Портал просто отличный, все бы такие!
Tue, December 29, 2009 2:41 PM
Let me be the first to say that I am one for marriage.But I also understand that a marriage is not THE answer to raising a healthy and happy child.I’m not sure where most of the people’s brains are these days but here on Earth there a more cases of unhappily married people than we can keep track of…and that’s only the reported cases of those have who had the guts to admit they are unhappy.Marriage is supposed to be for life and what tends to happen is we as people..in time we mature or change.I’m sure many of you can remember at least one past favorite food, television show, music genre,past love,etc. that is no longer your favorite or on the top of your “LIKES” list now. So some people are lucky enough to grow together but many people grow apart.Marriage is just like many other aspects in our lives..its a choice.We should understand that. A man and women do not need to be married legally to raise a happy and healthy child.Marriage is SYMBOLIC for love..just like the rings we wear once we are married.The only person who truly needs to know that you love them and are going to be there for them is your partner.You don’t need a piece of paper to show that to them.Your actions will do all of the speaking.If a man has any intentions of sticking by a woman and their children, he will…but on his own.Being married will not do it.If anything, it just scares most men in to staying with their wives for fear of losing money. That alone is not a good lesson to teach your children. No matter what the parent’s situation is their commitment to their child should still exist. Whether the parents are married to each other, dating/married to other people, single, etc. Your child needs to know that whatever happens to their parents “love life” one thing still stands, they both will continue to support, love and nurture that child forever.
Also, we really need to stop judging Keisha for having this baby. You do not know what the true situation is. For all we know, she could have forgotten to take her birth control..heck she could have been using it faithfully and been one of those rare cases where she got pregnant unexpectedly. So now she is faced with the choice of having an abortion or continuing on with the pregnancy. If we are truly concerned with the well-being of our children, we should really start by setting examples of how not to judge people and make assumptions when we do not know all of the factual details.
Tue, December 29, 2009 2:50 PM
Let me be the first to say that I am one for marriage.But I also understand that a marriage is not THE answer to raising a healthy and happy child.I’m not sure where most of the people’s brains are these days but here on Earth there a more cases of unhappily married people than we can keep track of…and that’s only the reported cases of those have who had the guts to admit they are unhappy.Marriage is supposed to be for life and what tends to happen is we as people..in time we mature or change.I’m sure many of you can remember at least one past favorite food, television show, music genre,past love,etc. that is no longer your favorite or on the top of your “LIKES” list now. So some people are lucky enough to grow together but many people grow apart.Marriage is just like many other aspects in our lives..its a choice.We should understand that. A man and women do not need to be married legally to raise a happy and healthy child.Marriage is SYMBOLIC for love..just like the rings we wear once we are married.The only person who truly needs to know that you love them and are going to be there for them is your partner.You don’t need a piece of paper to show that to them.Your actions will do all of the speaking.If a man has any intentions of sticking by a woman and their children, he will…but on his own.Being married will not do it.If anything, it just scares most men in to staying with their wives for fear of losing money. That alone is not a good lesson to teach your children. No matter what the parent’s situation is their commitment to their child should still exist. Whether the parents are married to each other, dating/married to other people, single, etc. Your child needs to know that whatever happens to their parents “love life” one thing still stands, they both will continue to support, love and nurture that child forever.
Also, we really need to stop judging Keyshia for having this baby. You do not know what the true situation is. For all we know, she could have forgotten to take her birth control..heck she could have been using it faithfully and been one of those rare cases where she got pregnant unexpectedly. So now she is faced with the choice of having an abortion or continuing on with the pregnancy. If we are truly concerned with the well-being of our children, we should really start by setting examples of how not to judge people and make assumptions when we do not know all of the factual details.
Tue, December 29, 2009 4:00 PM
I had to respond to people hating on my girl Keyshia! I think everyone needs to back off her – just because she is not married. I don’t think its a trend – people have been having babies and not married for years…some of ya’ll parents might not be married either. Also, we don’t know the love that her and her boo have for each other..At least she has the money to take care of her child. She has been working hard the past few years and deserves to have a personal life. I’m glad she is taking responsibility for her actions and having her baby, everyone makes mistakes, but having a baby is a wonderful thing. She looks very pretty pregnant! Congrats to Keyshia! Can’t wait to see the baby pics…
She might have a jacket on because when you are pregnant your body goes through changes…sometimes you can be hot and sometimes you can be cold.
Glad to she her doing some charity work as well..
LOVE U KEYSHIA COLE
Tue, December 29, 2009 4:00 PM
I had to respond to people hating on my girl Keyshia! I think everyone needs to back off her – just because she is not married. I don’t think its a trend – people have been having babies and not married for years…some of ya’ll parents might not be married either. Also, we don’t know the love that her and her boo have for each other..At least she has the money to take care of her child. She has been working hard the past few years and deserves to have a personal life. I’m glad she is taking responsibility for her actions and having her baby, everyone makes mistakes, but having a baby is a wonderful thing. She looks very pretty pregnant! Congrats to Keyshia! Can’t wait to see the baby pics…
She might have a jacket on because when you are pregnant your body goes through changes…sometimes you can be hot and sometimes you can be cold.
Glad to she her doing some charity work as well..
LOVE U KEYSHIA COLE
Tue, December 29, 2009 4:01 PM
I had to respond to people hating on my girl Keyshia! I think everyone needs to back off her – just because she is not married. I don’t think its a trend – people have been having babies and not married for years…some of ya’ll parents might not be married either. Also, we don’t know the love that her and her boo have for each other..At least she has the money to take care of her child. She has been working hard the past few years and deserves to have a personal life. I’m glad she is taking responsibility for her actions and having her baby, everyone makes mistakes, but having a baby is a wonderful thing. She looks very pretty pregnant! Congrats to Keyshia! Can’t wait to see the baby pics…
She might have a jacket on because when you are pregnant your body goes through changes…sometimes you can be hot and sometimes you can be cold.
Glad to she her doing some charity work as well..
LOVE U KEYSHIA COLE !!!!!
Tue, December 29, 2009 8:05 PM
This is life, and who made any of you negative talking people god to judge someone, they are both financially stable and he is college educated, go preach and make judgement calls on some of the young people in your own family and neighborhood that may need some help cause they are not educated and don’t have money. I did not see all this negativity when Halle had her baby, what about J Hudson, and has anyone said anything about Angela Jolie. Get a life. Luv ya Keyshia, be blessed
Thu, December 31, 2009 11:10 AM
ooohhh she is so having a boy! her nose is getting fat
Sat, January 2, 2010 4:51 AM
keyshia looks like she is about to pop her baby right out any time or day now but she really looks cute with her hair and clothes and dress.
Sat, January 2, 2010 8:32 PM
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO to that gettup shes wearing!
Tue, January 5, 2010 2:35 PM
Огромное человеческое спасбо!
Wed, January 6, 2010 10:17 PM
How about following the bible and no I am not judging anyone!!!!! But I feel like that’s partially what’s wrong with the world today: everybody say they are a “christian” but yet we let the devil fool our azz’z on the day to day, I have been married for 17 years and I am only 38,(do the math) I wanted to be married before having kids because I was raised in the church and that is what the bible say…..
Thu, January 7, 2010 1:23 AM
…and apparently so did Keisha and the father of her child as I read that he asked her to marry him on New Year’s Eve…so those of us who DARED to question why the vast majority of our kids (and no other group’s) are born out of wedlock (though marriage is clearly not perfect for EVERYONE and that is not the point) when birth control, etc. are options appear to be vindicated by “Boobie’s” asking and Keshia’s accepting. Stating an opinion, one way or the other, is judgment by definition. But stating the opininon doesn’t mean we’re being self-righteous or standing in God’s place. A gossip website is, by definition, a place where people share opinions about all manner of things. Seems some of us hit a nerve and I for one am glad it was about something other than a song or how folks dress.
Thu, January 7, 2010 1:28 AM
and apparently so did Keisha and the father of her child as I read that he asked her to marry him on New Year’s Eve…so those of us who DARED to question why the vast majority of our kids (and no other group’s) are born out of wedlock (though marriage is clearly not perfect for EVERYONE and that is not the point) when birth control, etc. are options appear to be vindicated by “Boobie’s” asking and Keshia’s accepting. Stating an opinion, one way or the other, is judgment by definition. But stating the opininon doesn’t mean we’re being self-righteous or standing in God’s place. A gossip website is, by definition, a place where people share opinions about all manner of things. Seems some of us hit a nerve and I for one am glad it was about something other than a song or how folks dress. This was never about Keyshia or her child (which we all hope will be blessed)…It was a sociological point (which many picked up on) that is greater than any one individual.
Thu, January 7, 2010 2:12 PM
Не знаю как остальным, а мне понравилось.
Tue, January 26, 2010 2:07 AM
I think that she look’s very pretty!! && she is truley bless.!…..4 all u other hoes that always have somthing 2 say!! go fuck ur self!!….cause keyshia is doing her thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sat, January 30, 2010 6:27 PM
i am so happy for her
Wed, February 3, 2010 3:32 AM
Извините конечно, но где контакты админа блога можно найти?
Wed, February 3, 2010 8:33 AM
Замечательно! На самом деле просто здорово изложена тема
Wed, February 3, 2010 12:13 PM
Мммммм Спасибо Огромное) Это что-то с чем-то)
Wed, February 3, 2010 4:27 PM
Блог отличный, буду советовать своим друзьям! Добавил закладки, вот только на RSS почему-то подписаться не получается
Thu, February 4, 2010 11:18 AM
Отлично пишете. Надеюсь, на вашем блоге такие посты будут появляться почаще.
Mon, March 1, 2010 11:41 AM
I LOVE U KEYSHIA COLE UR SHOW WAS NICE TELL NEFFIE AND FRANKIE I SAID HEY LOVE YALL FROM REAL NAME FLYGIRLS UR BABY GOING TO COME OUT CUTE I LOVE U UR BABY FATHER IS CUTE GOD BLESS U
Mon, March 1, 2010 11:46 AM
LOVE U BABYGIRL U AND MONICA HAS BEAUTIFUL VOICES LOVE U LOOOOOOOOOOVE YALL {}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{{}{}{}{}{{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{{}}{}}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{{{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}{}ITS FLYGIRLS BABESLOVE U KEYSHIA COLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wed, March 3, 2010 6:15 PM
I AM HAPPY FOR U AND UR BABY. IAM GLAD THAT U FINALLY HAD BABII…………………………….
UR MI IDOLE….. ILOVE U & UR FAMILY