

Last night, OWN aired the conclusion of Iyanla Vanzant's two-part interview with Evelyn Lozada about the public breakdown of her marriage to Chad Johnson. And what Evelyn's been hiding emotionally. Watch the interview inside....
Over the weekend, Iyanla Vanzant sat down with reality star Evelyn Lozada for a two-part interview (airing Saturday & Sunday) for Iyanla's "Fix My Life" show on OWN. With part one taped four weeks before the headbutting incident and the second part shortly after she filed for divorce, viewers saw exactly how the relationship broke down. And often, Evelyn revealed it was pretty much a train wreck to begin with.
Iyanla walked Evelyn through her relationship pathology and helped her see how she has never dealt with being abandoned at age 10 by her father. And because she hasn't healed, it greatly impacts her dealings with men. Here are the highlights:
On her temper:
"Caught up in the moment; going from 0 to 10. I always say I don’t have a medium. When that trigger goes off, it’s here. That’s how every women in my family dealt w/ conflict. That’s how my life was. My life; it’s always been chaos."
On how her marriage ended with her getting stitches in her head:
"Not paying attention, just living life a mile a minute, working, making sure everything looks good. I would say the main thing is ignoring the million and one signs. He showed me so many times, until the day of. I feel like that’s why I’m here."
On giving Chad permission to cheat:
"My conversation with him was that when you ever get into a place, I’d rather know. I’d rather you’d be honest w/ me. I think he just lives life in Chad’s world and doesn’t think about anything else. I’m like three weeks in, you’re not even trying. He’s really the one that wanted to get married."
On if she ever go physical with Chad:
"Never raised a finger. That is the truth. I think that’s what hurts me the most. That people associate me on "Basketball Wives" and say that it justifies his actions. If I spoke to him about a woman, or something I seen, he would get upset. Take my phone throw it, up in my face. I don’t get that. I knew to just leave the argument alone."
On how she felt right after the domestic violence incident:
"I was a little in shock that it went that far. All I kept telling him is ‘Your daughter’s in the house’, I don’t want her to know we’re fighting. There was blood all over my face. I said to myself, ‘This is something that I will not deal with’."
On why she left Chad:
While pointing to her forehead, she said, "This was the deal breaker. For me it was I had visible wounds."
Evelyn speaking to her stepdaughters about her behavior:
“Listening to you guys talk about me and my actions, and the things that I’ve done on TV, and the things that I’m not really proud of…I’m here to tell you guys I’m sorry for being a bad example.”
Evelyn thanked Iyanla for doing the interviews via Twitter, "Thank you @IyanlaVanzant for helping me to explore my issues. I'm grateful for your willingness to understand and help me grow.”
And Iyanla, who revealed that she has remained in contact with Evelyn since the taping, says she believes Evelyn has changed,
“She has changed. Otherwise she would have stayed with him. We’ve allowed the industry to glorify dysfunction. Before we get angry and turn our nose at our sisters we have to see what they need and what they are crying out for. After getting a glimpse of Evelyn on 'Basketball Wives' it surprised me that she was so vulnerable. Reality television has too much power.”
Watch part 1 here:
Watch part 2 here:
Comments
Iyanla Went in Too Hard. For
1:49 am - Sep 22, '12
Iyanla played off of Evelyn's
11:51 am - Sep 18, '12
Between being negative and
8:22 pm - Sep 18, '12
Fuck all the ppl who are shit
5:05 am - Sep 18, '12
In summation she’s a low self
3:44 am - Sep 18, '12
I think she was pretty honest
3:41 am - Sep 18, '12
I think she was pretty honest
2:45 am - Sep 18, '12
I won't sit here and judge
10:20 pm - Sep 17, '12
Reading someone's thoughts on
8:43 pm - Sep 17, '12
I kudos Evelyn Lozada for her
3:54 pm - Sep 17, '12
Hi Evelyn!
4:09 pm - Sep 17, '12
Ha! You are funny! .. Not
4:14 pm - Sep 17, '12
People aren't hateful because
2:42 pm - Sep 17, '12
Shop Online for the hottest
2:37 pm - Sep 17, '12
I just want to know why are
2:18 pm - Sep 17, '12
I watched BOTH interviews and
2:11 pm - Sep 17, '12
"Evelyn invited Chad's
2:25 pm - Sep 17, '12
BULLSHIT BULLSHIT
1:51 pm - Sep 17, '12
How are some of you going to
3:12 pm - Sep 17, '12
We all know you reap what you
1:10 pm - Sep 17, '12
EVELYN PLEASE! Just stop
1:10 pm - Sep 17, '12
Honestly I am so grateful for
12:45 pm - Sep 17, '12
i am so proud of Evelyn for
12:40 pm - Sep 17, '12
Lesli, it's great to hear you
12:43 pm - Sep 17, '12
hopeful she learn from her
12:16 pm - Sep 17, '12
After watching this show, it
11:53 am - Sep 17, '12
Evelyn screwed up behavior is
11:45 am - Sep 17, '12
One of the 1st things Iyanla
11:23 am - Sep 17, '12
Evelyn needs to get her
11:20 am - Sep 17, '12
last slice of pizza ass-rat.
11:04 am - Sep 17, '12
Yep! He told her to her face
11:47 am - Sep 17, '12
bitch please. so basically
11:03 am - Sep 17, '12
i don't understand your issue
10:55 am - Sep 17, '12
She's just now realizing her
10:38 am - Sep 17, '12
I wanna see him punch her
10:35 am - Sep 17, '12
I don't trust her! Time will
10:37 am - Sep 17, '12
Evelyn and Iyanla are giving
10:36 am - Sep 17, '12
Most people don't sympathize
10:23 am - Sep 17, '12
Well, I do applaud her for
10:24 am - Sep 17, '12
Sadly she lost a good friend
10:18 am - Sep 17, '12
This chic makes me ill. She
10:01 am - Sep 17, '12
DYING at your post! HAHAHAHA
4:01 pm - Sep 17, '12
I really hope she grows as a
9:43 am - Sep 17, '12
Good luck to Evelyn for
9:42 am - Sep 17, '12
Nobody is buying that bitch
9:40 am - Sep 17, '12
I'm trying my best to feel
9:45 am - Sep 17, '12
Fake Tears from a Fake ass
9:42 am - Sep 17, '12
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