DMX’s suffering is immense and his desire for drugs is overpowering. Iyanla was right on target. This is a disease and only through treatment can DMX get better. Sadi Bimwala’s post “You can’t tell Xavier that his father's sickness is like cancer and then tell him that the only way we can have a relationship is if you’re clean”. It makes a lot of sense to me. As a professional counselor, to understand addiction is to understand powerlessness. The addict lacks control over his/her use and the consequences that might arise after ingestion of the chemicals. It is a physiologic disease wherein the body's internal organs crave for the drugs without bothering to consult you the individual. Iyanla was a disaster! She does not possess the appropriate clinical skills or the requisite background to declare competency with this pathology. It was clearly over her head and while I understand that this is a show, OWN should have provided the services of a professional counseling team to support her life experience. The part where she appeared professional was when she was explaining DMX’s sickness to Xavier. She was not using the professional language to get her point across. She was asking DMX to not repeat his pain the same way he just stated it. It was DMX who used the word “relive my pain” She then went on to align with Xavier, effectively neutralizing him and taking him hostage against his father. At the end when she professed that “I bow to you”. That statement was cheap and wicked. Iyanla’s ego got in the way of healing. She stated that it is my show and I am going to keep quiet just before DMX returned back to the show. Well thanks that she did keep her mouth shot for a minute or two because DMX and his son were finally able to connect on a deeper level. Xavier even played his father a soothing song. DMX’s mental state changed and he became calm and serene. His voice lowered a pitch and he loved his son...Xavier loved his father. That was the moment that should have been exploited and explored But Iyanla wanted to rehash old pain and thrust her ego in the mix. I can’t agree more with Shay’s post. “This is not the way to deal with a DRUG ADDICT who's in complete DENIAL” Finally, you don’t get into a shouting match with your client. You look unprofessional and appear like a phony. This is how it turned out with Iyanla.

As a child of drug addicted parents I feel that it is necessary for DMX to seek treatment otherwise the hurt and pain will continue for him and his children. My mother cleaned herself up and was able to fix many of the issues drugs caused on our relationship. My father on the other hand died from a stroke caused by years of drug abuse. To tell your child see you at my funeral is spiteful and evil! DMX may have other underlying issues mentally that he needs to deal with. He may be too far gone. For him to think his only issue is womanizing is foolish. He can't be trusted until he's clean. His children need to move on with their lives without fretting over their father. You can't help everyone. Iyanla didn't prevent his son from hugging X. His conscience and moral code did that. He didn't stand up the first and second time he was asked for a hug. He couldn't do it. His heart was broken. Their wasn't any manipulation on her part.

Iyanla was wrong. You cant tell Xavier that his father sickness is like Cancer and then tell him the only way we can have a relationship is if you clean. its like telling someone with cancer i cant talk to you until you're cancer free. one step at a time, lets start over lets start with just a simple phone call hi how are you? Let them start slow no condition let them get to know each other better. we all saw how much they both need each other but it has to start slow. Help them to communicate better. For her to tell Xavier you dont have to hug was wrong bc you knw what if that was the last time he ever saw his father and DMX god forbid died yrs after that Xavier will never forgive himself.

I watched last night and it was sad. To have ur life "fixed", you have to delve into the drug problems, because that is one of the main reasons for his problems and lack of relationships with his children. He is a very broken person and needs help. But he obviously doesnt want it. Seems to want to go to the grave this way. I felt so bad for his son at the end, because he wont even TRY to lay off this drugs for him and basically said eff u, Im picking the drugs Smfh And I dont see how Iyanla made it worse. Glad he is still working. He did a good job at the Alicia Keys/Miguel concert at MSG the other night..

His son mostly wanted him to apologize for taking him around other women when he was young, that sounded like his mother was speaking. Of all the things DMX did or didn't do for his son, the worst thing clearly could not have been the womanizing.

it's true what they say, "hurt people hurt people"...having said that, just because you take the time to understand WHY someone behaves the way they do, doesn't mean you have to ACCEPT mistreatment by that person. Xavier has done all he can and took a very big step for himself and the rest of their family. the negative cycle has stopped with him. bravo for him. as for DMX, it's so apparent that he doesn't want to be helped...period. nobody can force help upon him until he's truly ready within himself. Iyanla was right in that the only thing left for DMX IS DETOX, and it's obvious he won't willingly go so there's nothing to do but love him from afar. i'll keep that entire family in my prayers.

What most people don't realize is that dealing with drug addiction you yourself do not realize how bad it is. A family member a friend can tell you however denial is the beginning stage as DMX is in denial. Until HE recognize his own sickness and HE want the help he will not get better. Noone but himself can help or hurt his image. If you have every seen a drug addict he exhibited every behavior last night. It is so sad. His managers, PR team only care about the numbers not him getting clean. She didn't do anything to him but put the mirror to the face and he can't take it.

Wow...troubled man indeed. I really want DMX to win, I really do. He's experienced ultimate highs in life (success and money) and ultimate lows. He could have a great story to tell if he works through his demons. But he refuses to see that drugs are the reason why his most beloved relationships are failing. Once he can see that then he can delve deeper and get to the core of why he's dependent on drugs. And that is when he can start to heal himself and his relationships. But at this point he has to want to get help for his addictions. I also think that his handlers/team enables him. This is not good. I don't think DMX cares if he dies because at this point maybe he feels it's his only escape from his demons. I don't think DMX is a bad person...I think he's a hurt person that's been damaged. He only acknowledges the transgression of other people and how they hurt him. He doesn't see his own transgressions. And if he does, then he makes an excuse for it...it's excusable. This man wants the world, family and friends to love him, accept him flaws and all. It's hard to accept and love someone unconditionally when they are fueled by drugs. He doesn't understand how his actions can hurt. I do believe he loves his family but doesn't know how to. As I said, I really want him to win...because when he does he will be such and experience of truth and guidance to others. If Iyanla is truly for DMX winning and concurring his demons I hope that she keeps reaching out to him...and not using him for the show or ratings. Unfortunately it will take for something horrible to happen as a direct and immediate result from his drug usage for him to want to pursue a detox treatment. I don't even want to speculate what that could be. I am proud of his son, and am very happy something good came from this.

Oh my woooooooooooord, this was crazy! People should not give up on this man!

I think DMX's issues are beyond Iyanla's expertise. He needs more than a life coach and 1 tv episode. If she's genuinely concerned about him I would think that she would reached out to help him outside of the show. If not, she's all for show.

Thats why people like him need to live 1 day at a time. Don't have anymore regrets and things will slowly improve............